The power of lonely: What we do better without other people around
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#2Personally I think there is way to much "social" stuff going on in our society and this is detrimental to real work and innovation taking place. But then again, the choice between bad company and no company is often real the dilemma, and the logical pick is a no-brainer in my opinion.
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#3Also, being alone is clearly so distressing to many people that they would rather shock themselves than be alone - http://news.sciencemag.org/brain-behavior/2014/07/people-wou...
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#4On the other hand, people who describe their alone time as "relaxing", "exciting", or "interesting" truly seem to enjoy that period without social interaction.
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#5We all need our alone time, and a few aspects of personality development occur when we are reflecting on the social interactions, encounters and relationships we've had. But too much time alone, I think, eventually leads to feelings of despair and helplessness. Either that, or a numbness to the reality of the state of isolation.
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#7As someone who spends a good deal of time alone because I enjoy solitary pursuits, I disagree with the article when it claims that alone time is a form of "liberation", "freedom", and gaining "control". It's been my experience that people who use terms like these to describe their solitude don't actually really enjoy it much at all and tend to only seek this alone time as a manifestation of an avoidant personality. I…
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#8To me it seems that the balance of social and alone should be to result in inner peace. This is to ultimately increase productivity in doing what you find satisfying in life.
I write code a lot at work and we plan it out in a group then move our own ways to write it with occasional instant messaging about this or that. But sometimes when I am writing I can't focus or have trouble getting myself into the problem. And from there I find that reading or talking to someone at the office can help put me at peace and ultimately help me focus on the work I have to do.
Like right now I am at work and writing this - I have a task to do to document some things but I hardly remember them and I need to do something that is going to interest me. Am I alone while doing this? Well, sure, I am available for other people to approach but I am not trying to talk to anyone.
I think the term alone is relative to our sense of privacy. If I was in a room with the door closed would I feel more alone than if I am sitting in an open office? Probably. But if I can get to a peaceful state it will probably produce similar results in my work ethic/productivity.
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#9As someone who spends a good deal of time alone because I enjoy solitary pursuits, I disagree with the article when it claims that alone time is a form of "liberation", "freedom", and gaining "control". It's been my experience that people who use terms like these to describe their solitude don't actually really enjoy it much at all and tend to only seek this alone time as a manifestation of an avoidant personality. I…
When I'm riding a motorcycle to a far away destination or running a trail on some mountain, I'm doing it to ride a motorcycle or to go for a run. I don't mind being alone, most likely even enjoy it, but that's not what I'm out there for. The exception could be sitting on a meditation cushion, but to me aloneness (EDIT: in the case of meditation) is more of a requirement than a goal.
With all that said, I do have a teensy nit to pick with the title: alone != lonely. Sometimes the two intersect, but not as a rule.
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#10As someone who spends a good deal of time alone because I enjoy solitary pursuits, I disagree with the article when it claims that alone time is a form of "liberation", "freedom", and gaining "control". It's been my experience that people who use terms like these to describe their solitude don't actually really enjoy it much at all and tend to only seek this alone time as a manifestation of an avoidant personality. I…
Dude I absolutely love being alone and "liberation", "freedom", and gaining "control" all resonate with me. No idea what "manifestation of an avoidant personality" means. "Relaxing", "exciting", and "interesting also apply. I do know that I'm terrible in a team and prefer working alone.