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Just try to believe that everything will be OK in the end, and that all this what happened, happened for a good reason - which you will probably understand sooner or later.
Most founders of companies that are successful -- not the five star Googles and Facebooks and Microsofts, but the dark matter companies that you never hear of, but are very prosperous and do cool things -- tried several times before they succeeded at one of their ideas. Being successful is not just doing work. There is quite a bit of luck (non-determinism) involved. Many good engineers are not successful at everything. You had the confidence to try it.
Look back at your life, at something difficult that happened some years ago. You may have regretted it at that time, but you may not regret it now because it led you in another way to something better. These are stepping stones. Life will not be satisfying if there is nothing bitter in it. The more bitter, the better I say! Everybody has ups and downs. It's how we deal with them that sets one apart from the other.
When you're older and you look back at life, you will think about all of these. It won't be about how much money you made or lost, but about all the people you met, all the interesting things you did, all the fun you had.
Good thing is cheer up, at least now you know what doesnt work, focus on what works or what you think may work. I got myself a day job while working on another project on the side.
Girlfriend wise, well it happens. Love your family more.
"Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again!"
Slowly pay back your friends and family with the money you earn from your job. you'll feel better about yourself.
Email me if you want to talk. zack at codemy dot net
Best of luck. We're all pulling for you to kick some ass in your next venture.
BUT you need to promise them you would pay back. In general:
1. Stick with family
2. Hangout with friends and make more friends
3. Tell yourself: the next woman will make the rest of your life happier than ever
4. The world will come to an end BUT not today
5. Go run, exercise, play sport
6. Get a job, join a club, volunteer...
Good luck
Seriously. This reads like full halt in your life and different kinds of debt, which means "brakes" on your future life for a while. With hard consequences for your psyche.
It's not a shame to get someone, who basically tries to get you back on track. You can get someone like this via your insurance, which is seriously interested in you not "producing costs", because of your pretty sick self, in future. I recommend people with psychology background also offering some kind of Coaching or Supervision.
After you are standing straight again, pin that somewhere:
Ever tried.
Ever failed.
No matter.
Try again.
Fail again.
Fail better.