Earlier quoted context omitted.
Start with a young woman who's already formed her identity. Dump her in a situation that operates on different social scripts than she's accustomed to, full of people talking about a subject she doesn't yet understand. Then tell her the community is hostile toward women and therefore doesn't have enough of them, all while showing her off like a prize poodle so you can feel good about recruiting a female. This is a re…
Your quote is a good one, but I like this one even better: I came to the Open Source world because I liked being part of a community where my ideas, my skills and my experience mattered, not my boobs. That's changed, and it's changed at the hands of the people who say they want a community where ideas, skills and experience matter more than boobs. I don't at all see her failing to acknowledge that she was fortunate--…
For a very large amount of women that is unfortunately not the case nowadays and unfortunately her situation is not typical in the slightest and I didn't see much actionable advice to improve on that.
It's also important to note that it seems the people she respected are separated from today's youth by almost two generations:
I've never had a problem with old-school hackers. These guys
treat me like one of them, rather than "the woman in the group",
and many are old enough to remember when they worked on teams
that were about one third women, and no one thought that strange.
Of course, the key word here is "old" (sorry guys). Most of the
programmers I like are closer to my father's age than mine.
Where we would go wrong is if we took this as the right approach, if we started basing best practices from this or worse: if we would use it to belittle the work of everyone who is trying to improve the situation.