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Re: Why Cruise Ships are My Favorite Remote Work Location

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Or, perhaps the whole PUA thing is about offering a list of techniques of social interaction that some people intuitively aren't born with, and need actual coaching. Neil Strauss documents this pretty well in his "The Game" books about how he fell into pickup culture. Such techniques of course can be abused by assholes against the vulnerable as well.

Nobody's buying it, man. PUA techniques are for the socially awkward the same way blown glass pipes are for tobacco smokers. What people claim and what the vast majority use it for are two different things. All you have to do is look at the OP's profile to find this picture.[0] That sure doesn't look like some poor bloke who has trouble talking to people. [0]: (slightly NSFW) http://www.pualingo.com/wp-content/upload…

What people claim and what the vast majority use it for are two different things.

True, but your implication has it backwards. Tynan is not part of the vast majority. He is an outlier, one degree of separation from Mystery(Erik von Markovik) and Neil Strauss.

The vast majority of people are unable or unwilling to be so ruthlessly selfish and sacrifice healthy, stable relationships on the altar of hedonistic sex-- even if they think that's all they want (and most will admit otherwise).

The dilemma is that guys who write about attraction and having sex with women tend to benefit a great deal by having a lot of experience with women. That's not very compatible with traditional monogamous relationships, so it will always be easy to attack them from this angle however irrelevant that angle may be.

Re: Why Cruise Ships are My Favorite Remote Work Location

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> not reacting particularly well What makes you say that? He's not the one throwing names around. What would constitute "reacting well" in your book? Agreeing with you?

Agreeing with me about what? All I'm doing is pointing out that being "negged" just seems to be making him quite defensive and angry. I thought that having his self-esteem be reduced should make him more sexually appealing and available - but that doesn't seem to be happening.

Negging a man is supposed to make him angry. To a man, a neg is effectively a taunt. Which demonstrates that you all fail to understand what a neg is and what it's supposed to be used for.

A neg is more or less exclusively meant to be used on women who are exceptionally attractive AND who have an enormous ego because of that. It's meant for women who are always surrounded by fawning men who cater to her every whim because she is beautiful. Especially in an environment, such as a nightclub, where come-ons are frequent. And even then, it usually needs to be very subtle, used in context with as light a touch as possible.

Re: Why Cruise Ships are My Favorite Remote Work Location

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>"oh he's from country X - they must all be cheap assholes there. I hope I don't get any more tables with people from that country." This is generally what happens. I have a few friends who are bartenders/servers and they loathe Australians.

Sorry on behalf of them! I knew about the tipping culture because my grandfather was a general manager for a branch of a US based multinational company and had to travel there a lot, and my father had traveled a bit to use scientific instruments there (like synchrotrons). But to the average Australian - we have a very decent minimum wage and ridiculously good penalty rates (like, work a public holiday and you get dou…

"...I think people just don't expect that the US would treat people so much worse than we do..." The US would be in much better shape if your expectation was correct. Sadly, many Americans [1] think that tipping is a good thing for servers because if they work hard then they'll get good tips.

[1] I've lived in the USA almost my entire life, and have never understood why "we" are "Americans" when there are many, many other countries on both American continents that aren't "Americans". Why is there not a term for us that is more accurate and less Americentric (wait, really?).

Re: Why Cruise Ships are My Favorite Remote Work Location

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post #213

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Or, perhaps the whole PUA thing is about offering a list of techniques of social interaction that some people intuitively aren't born with, and need actual coaching. Neil Strauss documents this pretty well in his "The Game" books about how he fell into pickup culture. Such techniques of course can be abused by assholes against the vulnerable as well.

Nobody's buying it, man. PUA techniques are for the socially awkward the same way blown glass pipes are for tobacco smokers. What people claim and what the vast majority use it for are two different things. All you have to do is look at the OP's profile to find this picture.[0] That sure doesn't look like some poor bloke who has trouble talking to people. [0]: (slightly NSFW) http://www.pualingo.com/wp-content/upload…

Yet the photo of Tynan on the original post look nothing like the image you link to.

http://cdn.sett.com/images/user/201311080003dc887f36b225a18e...

Re: Why Cruise Ships are My Favorite Remote Work Location

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The whole PUA thing is about manipulating vulnerable people so you can have sex with them. No it isn't.

You're wrong. Women aren't adults who can be held responsible for their own actions and decisions; they're vulnerable children who need to be protected at every turn. If you (as a man) visit an Apple Store just to look around, and you walk out with a brand new laptop, you're a customer. You made a decision. Yes, Apple works very hard to maximize conversions, but you're an adult, and it's silly to shame and vilify App…

We are all adults responsible for our decisions. We also are all adults, responsible for how we treat others, and how it shapes their decisions. Responsibility is not zero sum.

The common name for the system in which men and women manipulate one another is called "patriarchy". (When you look beyond men and women, it's called "kyriarchy".) It's bullshit on both sides.

There are two reason it's seen as worse for men, both historical. One is the men have had way more power and are still substantially advantaged. The more power you have, the more responsible you are for a fucked-up situation.

The other is that people with less power are forced to be manipulative to survive. E.g., 100-200 years ago, when professional women were very rare, women focused a lot marrying well, because they didn't have a lot of other options. So there's a bunch of cultural hangover from that.

Re: Why Cruise Ships are My Favorite Remote Work Location

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post #213

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Nobody's buying it, man. PUA techniques are for the socially awkward the same way blown glass pipes are for tobacco smokers. What people claim and what the vast majority use it for are two different things. All you have to do is look at the OP's profile to find this picture.[0] That sure doesn't look like some poor bloke who has trouble talking to people. [0]: (slightly NSFW) http://www.pualingo.com/wp-content/upload…

Yet the photo of Tynan on the original post look nothing like the image you link to. http://cdn.sett.com/images/user/201311080003dc887f36b225a18e...

It is me, but it was taken probably around 2005, when I was 24. Funny how much things change over the years...

Re: Why Cruise Ships are My Favorite Remote Work Location

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post #213

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Or, perhaps the whole PUA thing is about offering a list of techniques of social interaction that some people intuitively aren't born with, and need actual coaching. Neil Strauss documents this pretty well in his "The Game" books about how he fell into pickup culture. Such techniques of course can be abused by assholes against the vulnerable as well.

Nobody's buying it, man. PUA techniques are for the socially awkward the same way blown glass pipes are for tobacco smokers. What people claim and what the vast majority use it for are two different things. All you have to do is look at the OP's profile to find this picture.[0] That sure doesn't look like some poor bloke who has trouble talking to people. [0]: (slightly NSFW) http://www.pualingo.com/wp-content/upload…

I don't look like a "poor bloke who has trouble talking to people" because I learned pickup and learned how to talk to people. I was very fortunate to be in the right place at the right time and be taken under the wings of the best PUAs. As a result I went from being a VERY shy socially awkward guy to being generally comfortable around people. Pickup changed my life for the better-- one of the best things that happened to me.

Re: Why Cruise Ships are My Favorite Remote Work Location

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Agreeing with me about what? All I'm doing is pointing out that being "negged" just seems to be making him quite defensive and angry. I thought that having his self-esteem be reduced should make him more sexually appealing and available - but that doesn't seem to be happening.

Negging a man is supposed to make him angry. To a man, a neg is effectively a taunt. Which demonstrates that you all fail to understand what a neg is and what it's supposed to be used for. A neg is more or less exclusively meant to be used on women who are exceptionally attractive AND who have an enormous ego because of that. It's meant for women who are always surrounded by fawning men who cater to her every whim be…

enko claimed that "negging" is merely a universal, gender-neutral negotiating tactic. You're merely reinforcing the point that it is in actuality a deliberate tactic to undermine a woman's self esteem--to take her down a peg because she is perceived as seeing herself as superior to a man.

Re: Why Cruise Ships are My Favorite Remote Work Location

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I too work from a lot of different places, but I find that I absolutely need internet to be productive. Pulling a Gem for instance, or checking Stack Overflow. My favourite places to work are all-inclusive holiday resorts. Lanzarote and the Algarve most recently. Being all inclusive means there is no thought process in eating or drinking. Nor any need to shop, clean, cook. The most difficult thing is finding out what…

I agree completely on the internet access. Very hard to work through issues without online resources nowadays. How did we do it before there was such great online help like StackExchange?

Books and Usenet.

Re: Why Cruise Ships are My Favorite Remote Work Location

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Tipping and basic etiquette (particularly involving dining) is one of the fundamental bits of culture everyone should research when traveling to another country. If you are in the US and received good service, but left crappy or zero tips then yes, you definitely leave a negative impression of yourself. Nobody will understand why you left a bad tip or just think "oh, he's a foreigner, he doesn't understand." They wil…

> Would it not be the same if I visited your country and was rude or insulting regarding some very basic and obvious part of your culture? I'm not a prick so I'd shrug it off as someone being ignorant of the local customs.

Just leave a damn tip net time you cheapskate
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