Private bytes or address space? Shared readonly counted twice? I happily suffer Chrome's stupid tab design and lack of Flash (on Ubuntu) for much better end-to-end performance, whether it takes up more memory or not.
Why don't you like Chrome's tab design? I was a little off-put when I first saw it, but it makes sense for tabs to live at the top edge of the screen from a Fitt's Law perspective: when you move your mouse upwards to interact with the browser, it's to deal with tabs (so they deserve the larger target). When you want to hit the address bar, you hit ctrl+t to get a new tab in which it's already selected.
For Chrome specifically:
1) it lacks the option "New pages should open in [X] a new window [ ] a new tab" compared to Firefox, which makes tabs ignorable.
2) On Windows, I'd much rather they follow the OS conventions for MDI rather than make up their own "cool"/"clever" one (see media/audio players, for some random reason). All of a sudden, for example, you can't double-click in the top left to close. Well, way to be clever, but that's crap.