The Japanese in the article are missing out
on what man/woman love can really mean
and the value it can have.
So there should be not just
'friction' but 'love' (with the
help that Mother Nature provides)
with commitment,
caring, affection, intimacy, passion,
joining of lives, vows, romance,
trust (he doesn't return from a
business trip and discover that
she's drained the checkbook
and savings account, took the
best of the household belongings
and the dog, and is gone),
respect, responsiveness
(they respond to each other),
supportive families (e.g., he gets
a job in her father's business),
collection of activities, memories,
and traditions like, don't want to lose,
can't get anywhere else, and that cause
'lock in',
homes ("where the heart is, where you are
loved even when you are wrong"), and children
("the most rewarding thing we did").
Joining? For a few hundred years
in Western Civilization, standard marriage
vows started off with "We gather together
to join this man and this women with
the bonds of holy matrimony.", and there
is wisdom there.
Or, for a more direct explanation,
she has two legs. He has two legs. If she breaks a leg, then she is down to one leg to help her broken leg get well. But joined with him with good vows, commitment, etc. they have four legs with three good legs to help her broken leg get well. The three legs are three times better than just the one. Can rattle off 10,000 such cases faster than can say them.
People don't want to be alone. Being alone is scary. Nearly all baby mammals know this. Being joined to someone is much more secure.
This can be great stuff, some of the
best in life, even without children,
and one night stands are nothing like
the same. The article omitted nearly
all the really good stuff.