I wouldn't even classify "sorry for the rain" as an apology. I'd understand it as "I understand you have just suffered an inconvenience, and I express my sad feeling about that fact, thus showing that your feelings have an importance for me and you possess a status of an important person in my eyes". That is not the same as taking responsibility for the fact that it rains, which apology presumes. English is not my na…
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#92There's quite a difference between directly asking to use someone's phone and introducing yourself first.
The copier queue gets mentioned at the end but the article reads more like "apologize for something that you cannot control=trust" while I'd suspect it's really "talk about something else=trust"
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#93Reminds me of the Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality quote: "Of course it was my fault. There's no one else here who could be responsible for anything." Which is to say, if I hear someone apologizing for the weather, one likely presumption would be that they're just assuming fault as a matter of etiquette, or some latent self-hating tendency... but another, more interesting, possibility is that they're apolo…
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#94I find it weird when they use percentages for groups that are smaller than 100. 9% of a group of 32 people makes it feel like 2 people and a torso handed over their phone without the rain apology. (I'm aware this is my poor math skill, and it's something I'm working on.) I don't know if the sub has been edited, but it mentions lack of controls: > How trustworthy are these results? The accumulated findings from severa…
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#95"Sorry your dog died." is an expression of _sympathy_ for your dog's death, not an admission of guilt.
In fact, the first definition on Google for "define sorry" is "feeling sad or distressed through sympathy with someone else's misfortune"
And yes, I'd be more likely to lend my phone to someone who had shown signs of sympathy to me first.
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#96Earlier quoted context omitted.
For me that's the most irritating feature of hpmor's protagonist. I understand that's probably intentional - so it's working. I wouldn't really trust more a person that claims exclusive agency - I'd probably trust him much less as if he doesn't respect me enough to assign me agency - how can I be sure he respects me enough to not violate my trust? You don't feel to bad if you make a promise to an NPC character in a v…
I think it's not so much that HPMoR!Harry claims exclusive agency, as that the plot has railroaded him away from any of the setting's other agent-y characters (or, at least, agent-y characters with compatible-enough-to-engage-in-trade utility functions; HPMoR!Quirrelmort is more of an agent-y Other-Optimizer.) HPMoR!Lucius Malfoy is pretty agent-y, for example, but Harry doesn't get to talk to him much. When he did i…
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#98UK: I have never seen anyone ask to borrow someone else's mobile phone over here. Is that a common behaviour in the US?
I have to say that if someone asked to borrow mine, I'd refuse, especially if they said something inane first. That could just be my crabbed and ungenerous nature but I think not somehow...
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#99I suspect very few people would then loan out their phone, unless they were under the impression they were being mugged.
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#100Earlier quoted context omitted.
I think it's not so much that HPMoR!Harry claims exclusive agency, as that the plot has railroaded him away from any of the setting's other agent-y characters (or, at least, agent-y characters with compatible-enough-to-engage-in-trade utility functions; HPMoR!Quirrelmort is more of an agent-y Other-Optimizer.) HPMoR!Lucius Malfoy is pretty agent-y, for example, but Harry doesn't get to talk to him much. When he did i…
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