I'd like to point out that alcohol does reduce inhibition but doesn't actually cause you to perform any action you wouldn't willingly do sober.
Because it needs to be said
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#482Earlier quoted context omitted.
posting your personal account of someone's crimes against you in a blog is not a fair or reasonable way to deal with what is clearly a very serious matter. it sounds like what happened was awful and these types of incidents are common in many predominantly male professions, e.g. law, finance. i was recently seriously harassed and more-or-less sexually assaulted by an acquaintance's wife at a wedding in a swimming poo…
"Women who are assaulted should keep quiet about it because I can't tell if they're lying or not." Is that about right? Instead of saying she shouldn't post because "it could be false," how about you recognize that she knows whether it's true or not? For God's sake, the fact that some people are liars does not mean that truth-tellers should keep their mouths shut.
>how about you recognize that she knows whether it's true or not
In this case, yes, sounds very clear. But there are cases where it's not clear. The waters get so muddy that there are rapists that don't even know they've raped anyone. And lack of clarity only serves to compound the other problems.
Basically I'm trying to say that it's not as simple as truth vs. lies in many cases.
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#483Earlier quoted context omitted.
OK, I think we have very different definitions for what aggression is, and also a different understand of what reading means. Probably best to leave it there, although I would encourage you to consider taking legal action, it really might stop this kind of thing from happening again.
Hold on... You were serious about your comment that I might be trafficked or had my organs harvested?!?
woosh
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#484Earlier quoted context omitted.
He stuck his hand down the front of her pants and started fingering her. That is penetration. I don't see how you could interpret it differently. He didn't exaggerate about him forcibly sticking his tongue down her throat. That's what she wrote. You clearly do have a reading comprehension problem!
He didn't exaggerate? You and he must have awfully long tongues! Believe me, I've tried. Fingering may or may not involve penetration. I can't make it any clearer without being explicit. Or, maybe I have a reading comprehension problem.
sexual penetration
Sexual intercourse, cunnilingus, fellatio, anal intercourse, or any other intrusion, however slight, of any part of a person's body or of any object into the genital or anal openings of the victim's, defendant's, or any other person's body; emission of semen is not required.
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#485Earlier quoted context omitted.
Hold on... You were serious about your comment that I might be trafficked or had my organs harvested?!?
woosh
woosh back at ya buddy. He says he's genuinely concerned for my welfare, but he's concerned about me being trafficked or had my organs harvested?
Either he's unbelievably insincere, and a bit of a prick; or he's deadly seriously and a bit of a fool. He hasn't really given himself much middle ground there.
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#486I feel bad for Joe. What he did was not malicious. He is not an abuser or predator. He did a dumb thing. This story isn't about a rapist or someone who preys on women. It's about a drunk man who thought he was going to score. A man who was becoming increasingly physical with a woman who he was attracted to, and who invited him to do a body shot after he had grabbed her ass. For those who don't know what body shots ar…
Holy shit. This is the top post? This? This victim blaming bullshit? (Just because you say it’s not victim blaming doesn’t make it not victim blaming.) Consent to one thing (whatever that may be) does not imply consent to another thing. If you fail to make sure consent exists you always run the risk of doing something non-consensual. If that’s a risk you want to take, well, then do it. If you believe in your infallib…
Good call. In what situation is it going to be acceptable to put your hands down someones pants in public? It's difficult to imagine any situation in which this isn't crossing a line. I don't see how that behaviour can be condoned.
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#487Earlier quoted context omitted.
I disagree. I have never heard the term body shot before but from all wikipedia tells me, I would conside it acceptable for a man to grab a womaons ass if the woman was in a body shot. If the woman screams no that's a different this g but it didnt happen here.
I disagree So you believe that if you do a body shot of off someone, you then have permission to sexually assault them? Wow..
People in this world do just grab peoples asses, kiss them, etc. all the time without explicit consent. Even without doing body shots.
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#488I think there's a deeper cultural problem here: that the behavior of Joe had that much of an impact on Justine's life in the first place. There are women that would experience the same thing, but would not retreat into themselves in this extreme way. There are even women that would shrug it off. However, the response of Justine matches ancient societal expectations: if a woman has been violated, she loses all value.…
Sorry, but this post is 100% baseless supposition. If you haven't studied the causes of PTSD or the results of sexual assault you're not really in a position to comment on it. I see this kind of post all the time on tech websites, where people think that the causes of human (or animal) behaviour is simple, because they haven't exposed themselves to enough information to know any better.
I think you should probably delete this post, I can see it doing more harm than anything.
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#489I simply can't understand how smart people on their own will gather around with the only purpose of ingesting chemical compounds that are designed to make them stupid.
This is one of the things that most baffles me about alcohol culture in general, but specially in the American tech industry which is supposed to have smart people. Although my primary reason for abstaining from alcohol is a religious one, I also certainly agree with your point from a secular point of view as well.
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#490Earlier quoted context omitted.
http://bit.ly/1g8M3u1
A bit.ly link to a Let Me Google That For You for rape statistics in the U.S.? That's your contribution? Seriously?
He said:
> Either your definition of sexual assault is much different that standard usage, or you hang out with deplorable people.
I was demonstrating that he was wrong.