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Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

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Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

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Post by jessriedel »

zxcvvcxz wrote: post #36

Alright, here are my honest gripes with facebook: - Professional contacts. I can't share anything I consider "funny" (in the stupid, I'm-in-my-early-20s way) with friends because I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me. - I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? I don't care if you just started med school and are posting pics of you…

> I don't want you posting a photo of us together, because that sends the signal to other girls that I'm not available when I would definitely consider myself so.

That's not how girls work...

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

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Post by sean-duffy »

zxcvvcxz wrote: post #36

Alright, here are my honest gripes with facebook: - Professional contacts. I can't share anything I consider "funny" (in the stupid, I'm-in-my-early-20s way) with friends because I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me. - I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? I don't care if you just started med school and are posting pics of you…

To be honest, it just sounds like you care far too much about what other people think of you. Life's too short to please everyone, stop filtering your personality to please those on your friends list.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

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Post by psychotik »

threeseed wrote: post #40
zxcvvcxz wrote: post #36

Alright, here are my honest gripes with facebook: - Professional contacts. I can't share anything I consider "funny" (in the stupid, I'm-in-my-early-20s way) with friends because I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me. - I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? I don't care if you just started med school and are posting pics of you…

Facebook is merely a website for messaging and sharing photos. It is because of YOUR friends that you get the experience you do. So if you are having a poor experience then find better friends. Or remove them from your feed. Or setup groups so you can filter content better. But honestly the problem quite clearly is you. The immature use of the term 'gay' to be derogatory. The fact that you dismiss the uncool people i…

It's easy to judge, isn't it? It takes some courage to be honest and introspective, regardless of how you may judge the poster. What you say about this person says as much about you as it does about them.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#44

Post by agibsonccc »

zxcvvcxz wrote: post #36

Alright, here are my honest gripes with facebook: - Professional contacts. I can't share anything I consider "funny" (in the stupid, I'm-in-my-early-20s way) with friends because I have investors and recruiters and these other professional fucks ready to judge me. - I'm tired of seeing your achievements. God damn just wait until I get some, okay? I don't care if you just started med school and are posting pics of you…

Facebook as crazy as it is is useful. I just have a few simple rules. I don't post anything that I wouldn't want on the front page of the newspaper.I LET facebook know my interests so it keeps the feed interesting. I only friend people who I want to have a conversation with. That aside, it's a neat Instant messenger, and not a bad place to chat with groups and the like. Everybody has different uses for it, and it's not meant for everyone. I think each social network has a different niche it fulfills.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

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Post by threeseed »

junto wrote: post #39
blah32497 wrote: post #28

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I didn't have a facebook account for a very long time, and now I do and I realized I had no idea what I was talking about. Yes, old acquaintances posting about minutia of there lives is of no value and can be down right irritating. But the single most important function facebook provides is it turns acquaintances into friends. You can add people on Facebook that you've only meet once or twice before. You don't need t…

I'm similar to you. I had an account for a long time, then "deleted it" a couple of months ago. My entire problem with Facebook has been based around invasions to my privacy. As the years went on, I realised that more and more of my privacy was being eroded. I realised that Facebook really didn't care. I realised that I was helping them to build one big database that was searchable and rampant for abuse by a rogue go…

I guarentee that you discouraging your kids from having Facebook accounts (or whatever their equivalent is) will only do harm. Privacy in the modern era means being selective about the disclosure of content. It doesn't mean completely pulling away from social networks which are increasingly vital to social interaction.

Plus pretty sure you don't understand modern day kids otherwise you would know that private tools e.g. Snapchat are more often the real invasion of privacy.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#47

Post by shmerl »

lukifer wrote: post #9
chatman wrote: post #3

Dr. Stallman also reminds us that Facebook is bad. It doesn't respect the users and their freedom against mass surveillance. http://stallman.org/facebook.html

Stallman's criticisms are accurate, but irrelevant. Real people tend to like and want the service that Facebook offers (frictionless connection to loved ones), and they deliver. Any anti-Facebook sentiment from the FOSS community that is not an attempt to create a free and humane disruption is merely wasted breath (or worse, an in-group shibboleth).

> that is not an attempt to create a free and humane disruption

See https://diasporafoundation.org

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

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Post by threeseed »

psychotik wrote: post #43
threeseed wrote: post #40

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Facebook is merely a website for messaging and sharing photos. It is because of YOUR friends that you get the experience you do. So if you are having a poor experience then find better friends. Or remove them from your feed. Or setup groups so you can filter content better. But honestly the problem quite clearly is you. The immature use of the term 'gay' to be derogatory. The fact that you dismiss the uncool people i…

It's easy to judge, isn't it? It takes some courage to be honest and introspective, regardless of how you may judge the poster. What you say about this person says as much about you as it does about them.

Can you show me at what point there was some actual evaluation of why he was doing the things he was ? Because sorry but I don't see anything courageous or introspective there.

I just see a blind rant by somebody who clearly cares way too much about what his friends think.

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

#49

Post by EliRivers »

threeseed wrote: post #37
EliRivers wrote: post #20

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Whereas to me, what you describe sounds fantastically superficial and impersonal, whereas in sending a personal eMail I've had to actually, deliberately think about my interaction with them. I suppose context goes a long way.

And yet to me it does sound more personal. Because by adding someone on Facebook you have opened up your life to them on a semi-permanent basis. With email there is the assumption that the relationship will be more intermittent and flippant.

you have opened up your life to them on a semi-permanent basis

You have opened a lifetime of impersonal comments directed at a disinterested crowd. By its very nature, it won't be personal.

"I'm having beans for dinner."

"Beans a legend lol"

"I'm getting divorced and I've told you and the other five hundred 'friends' here at the same time, in the same way"

Re: Facebook is bad for you: Get a life

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Post by blah32497 »

junto wrote: post #39
blah32497 wrote: post #28

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I didn't have a facebook account for a very long time, and now I do and I realized I had no idea what I was talking about. Yes, old acquaintances posting about minutia of there lives is of no value and can be down right irritating. But the single most important function facebook provides is it turns acquaintances into friends. You can add people on Facebook that you've only meet once or twice before. You don't need t…

I'm similar to you. I had an account for a long time, then "deleted it" a couple of months ago. My entire problem with Facebook has been based around invasions to my privacy. As the years went on, I realised that more and more of my privacy was being eroded. I realised that Facebook really didn't care. I realised that I was helping them to build one big database that was searchable and rampant for abuse by a rogue go…

A bit off-topic, but Facebook has always very intentionally been on the cutting edge of eroding privacy and frankly it doesn't really matter what you do. In 10 years people will care even less about privacy than they do now.

Due to Facebook people now-a-days are sharing significantly more than they would ever have been comfortable with even 10 years ago. That trend is only going to continue.

"one big database that was searchable and rampant for abuse by a rogue government agency"

I think this doomsday mentality is going to eventually disappear, and the socio-economical cost of NOT being on social media is going to grow. No advanced society (past a certain GDP) has slipped back into tyranny and all the people that think Obama is going to go fascist and read about how you love tranny porn are not grounded in reality.

Even if tomorrow the government had complete access to everyone's Facebook, life wouldn't change and the world would keep turning b/c ultimately the government doesn't have that much power. Even if Obama hated you personally the best he can do it get your balls fondled at the airport and maybe audit you (though if you pay your taxes, you shouldn't be concerned with that). And yeah, it's important to fight against tyranny and to for instance demand the dissolving of the TSA, but in reality the gov't doesn't care about you and as long as you aren't breaking any laws (and most people aren't) it's not really a big deal.

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