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Re: Ask: Stigma of the unemployed - a better job title for a lifestyle entrepreneur?

#41

instead of saying you're an entrepreneur, say what you do. for instance: blogger = author information marketer = teacher outsourced app = product designer affiliate marketer = international sales manager ecommerce store = ceo of import/export business and so on

Some of those are deceptive. Nobody would mistake an information marketer for a teacher (One has a stable job educating a classroom, the other sells overpriced weight loss ebooks.). And international sales manager is a huge stretch from affiliate marketer. Honesty is the foundation of a successful relationship. So when dating for love, you should always tell the truth. If you own a business, say you own a business. I…

>Some of those are deceptive.

All of those are deceptive.

Re: Ask: Stigma of the unemployed - a better job title for a lifestyle entrepreneur?

#42
There is no magic word, just say it confidently. And just hint at it, more can come out later. Mystery helps.

Though I think sprindrifts suggestions are better. If they're truly Iinterested in knowing they'll ask again later and you can respond seriously.

Re: Ask: Stigma of the unemployed - a better job title for a lifestyle entrepreneur?

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I run a small software company which $BENEFITS_STATEMENT. You can tailor the benefits to whatever you thing the person you are speaking to values.

Did you A/B test those kinds of statements with girls prior to getting married? :-)

HA! Yeah, that's what I used to use.

Re: Ask: Stigma of the unemployed - a better job title for a lifestyle entrepreneur?

#44
Honestly any woman is lucky to find a decent guy who has this kind of work. Mainly, because you'll have a lot more freedom and probably be able to spend more time with her than 9-5 slaves.

If they don't bite, then it's their loss. Good luck man.

Re: Ask: Stigma of the unemployed - a better job title for a lifestyle entrepreneur?

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Can you give us some good, non-awkward-to-say, benefit statement examples?

If you ever feel awkward saying something, trying saying it like the Old Spice Guy would say it. It seems to me this often makes things almost magically less awkward. My answer around techies is different and generally focuses on tech-centric social proof, but if I were e.g. at a McKenzie family reunion where capitalism is vaguely distasteful and teachers can do no wrong, I would bang the "I helped teach X million ki…

Old Spice Guy, or The Most Interesting Man In the World also works.

"I don't have many customers, but the ones I do, are satisfied."

Re: Ask: Stigma of the unemployed - a better job title for a lifestyle entrepreneur?

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Why not simply say 'run a small company'. Nothing says 'success' like success, I'm assuming that your company actually works and makes money. That's as good as any employment or better depending on how well you're doing. Any date that just wants you if you have a steady job is not worth having imo, then it's no longer about you but about a search for financial stability.

I wonder about this. Why can't a person have some criteria to narrow the pool, and from that subset select for love? It would be different if they took the first person who came along with financial stability, if that was the only thing that mattered. If a person aims to have a family, financial stability is important. Note, I don't believe that kids actually need financial stability all that much, but the stress and…

> I wonder about this. Why can't a person have some criteria to narrow the pool, and from that subset select for love?

Pretty much everyone does (whether they are explicit or not), and pretty much everyone resents potential partners that do, to the extent that they end up getting weeded out by the filters.

Re: Ask: Stigma of the unemployed - a better job title for a lifestyle entrepreneur?

#48

> I'm dating at the moment and find it difficult to succinctly describe my occupation in a way that does not kill the conversation dead As a general rule, don't answer questions like that straight. They're bound to kill the conversation, you're not at a job interview. Jewel thief ("casing the joint" if it fits), duck cleaner (watch dirty jobs), art forger ("-- Really?! Can you draw something for me? -- No, that would…

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Re: Ask: Stigma of the unemployed - a better job title for a lifestyle entrepreneur?

#49
Just tell that you run a business. Most people who you don't want to be confused with (who actually don't do much and are business wannabes) wouldn't tell that about themselves. They “are entrepreneurs” in state of their minds and in their daydreams but they don't run any business. Actually, most of them think that “being an entrepreneur” > “simply running a business” so they wouldn't lower themselves to claiming that as they always aim so high and want to feel so important, right?
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