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>"Ballmer is a very intimidating guy both in physical size and attitude and is always ready to be combative." As larger than average person I'm fascinated/frustrated by the way physical presence affects people. Most troublesome for me have been people who apparently feel intimidated and project it back as something intentional, as I'm trying to intimidate them or have intimidated others into agreement with me.
>Most troublesome for me have been people who apparently feel intimidated and project it back as something intentional, as I'm trying to intimidate them I am 6'7" tall and weigh 220 pounds. I've also been in IT for about 20 years in a corporate setting. Are you bigger than I am? I ask because I have never had anyone say that I intimidated them nor have I heard of anyone telling me that someone else is intimidated by…
I'm your height, 60+ pounds heavier and no stranger to the gym. I've been in IT for going on 16 years.
I've had many people admit they were initially intimidated after we've gotten to know each other - women a bit more than men. I've had several problems arise from superficial assumptions/accusations by people who'd never fully interacted with me.
About your situation, there are a couple things I think can help/hurt:
* Build. I can remember being 220. I'm definitely perceived differently now, more "big" than "tall" or "slim" previously.
* I'm pretty quiet. I get the impression that people assume negatives before positives when they can't read a person.
* Jobs. I've done a lot of work in the public sector where things always seem to be contentious. In a place with less infighting and political maneuvering I'd hope for less assumption and undermining as well.