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Re: I’m young, inexperienced and a perfectionist

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shubb wrote: post #41
lampe3 wrote: post #23

Jesus when i read this Article I see me... I love to start new Projects but i never finish them(only when i must because i customer is kicking my ass)... I always have a lot of motivation... but when i sit down and must read or do something i lose focus very often and maybe work on it for 30 minutes or 1 hour and then i start to watch some stupid youtube videos... To this day i dont know how to focus... I got depress…

I had a major problem with this back at college. I'd read articles about how to study, or focus, instead of focusing and studying. The problem, clear in hindsight, was that actually hitting the books revealed how little I knew. Which is natural when you are studying a new subject, but filled me with fear because, well, exams. It wasn't a happy time in my life. Maybe it's the same for you now. But that meant that rath…

thank you! I will try to change my mindset How do you did that? i mean how to not think negative about something?

Re: I’m young, inexperienced and a perfectionist

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Post by lampe3 »

encoderer wrote: post #109
lampe3 wrote: post #23

Jesus when i read this Article I see me... I love to start new Projects but i never finish them(only when i must because i customer is kicking my ass)... I always have a lot of motivation... but when i sit down and must read or do something i lose focus very often and maybe work on it for 30 minutes or 1 hour and then i start to watch some stupid youtube videos... To this day i dont know how to focus... I got depress…

I'm not a doctor. But I've been seeing a very talented therapist (in SF if anybody would like a referral). Working with him is like that refreshing feeling of working alongside an entirely competent teammate. It's wonderful. Channeling him -- from things he's told me about myself -- I think he's say "What you're describing is a case, maybe a mild case, of ADD." I've always rejected that comment when he made it, sure…

thank you!

maybe you are right. i will try it for some weeks. can you name the extension for chrome?

Re: I’m young, inexperienced and a perfectionist

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Post by lampe3 »

simonbarker87 wrote: post #44
lampe3 wrote: post #23

Jesus when i read this Article I see me... I love to start new Projects but i never finish them(only when i must because i customer is kicking my ass)... I always have a lot of motivation... but when i sit down and must read or do something i lose focus very often and maybe work on it for 30 minutes or 1 hour and then i start to watch some stupid youtube videos... To this day i dont know how to focus... I got depress…

A way I have found to get round this is to set small, achievable milestones, it sounds like you are getting caught up in the "enormity of it all" - when we started our company the aim was "to enter competition X", then "get £5,000 in grant funding", then "3d print a prototype", then "build a test rig to test prototype", then "raise some investment", then "get a professionally designed product", the "set up 1 trial wi…

thats smart ! thank you. so basically you started to plan things better before you started them

Re: I’m young, inexperienced and a perfectionist

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Post by lampe3 »

matwood wrote: post #69
lampe3 wrote: post #23

Jesus when i read this Article I see me... I love to start new Projects but i never finish them(only when i must because i customer is kicking my ass)... I always have a lot of motivation... but when i sit down and must read or do something i lose focus very often and maybe work on it for 30 minutes or 1 hour and then i start to watch some stupid youtube videos... To this day i dont know how to focus... I got depress…

ZeeFrank sums it up well in Brain Crack. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rDHb3vC9OmE Additionally, focus comes from discipline. Discipline is forcing yourself to do something even when it's not what you might want to do at that moment. How to become and stay disciplined is often very personal. Some people focus on the long goal, others on the minutia going from task to task, and still others focus on time (Pomodoro) o…

thank you nice video! i have discipline. last year i lost about 30 kilo because i wanted so!

Re: I’m young, inexperienced and a perfectionist

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Post by simonbarker87 »

lampe3 wrote: post #123
simonbarker87 wrote: post #44

Earlier quoted context omitted.

A way I have found to get round this is to set small, achievable milestones, it sounds like you are getting caught up in the "enormity of it all" - when we started our company the aim was "to enter competition X", then "get £5,000 in grant funding", then "3d print a prototype", then "build a test rig to test prototype", then "raise some investment", then "get a professionally designed product", the "set up 1 trial wi…

thats smart ! thank you. so basically you started to plan things better before you started them

Essentially yes, but rather than plan the entire thing - just plan the next 1 or 2 steps and make sure they work toward the main objective

Re: I’m young, inexperienced and a perfectionist

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Post by lampe3 »

jackmaney wrote: post #51
lampe3 wrote: post #23

Jesus when i read this Article I see me... I love to start new Projects but i never finish them(only when i must because i customer is kicking my ass)... I always have a lot of motivation... but when i sit down and must read or do something i lose focus very often and maybe work on it for 30 minutes or 1 hour and then i start to watch some stupid youtube videos... To this day i dont know how to focus... I got depress…

To make a very, very long story short, I've clawed my way into my second (and current) career from a very dark bout of depression. One thing that has helped me focus is the right combination of medications (after talking to a doctor, of course).

oh i hope you are now cured! but i dont think that medications can help and that its not that bad(i hope)

Re: I’m young, inexperienced and a perfectionist

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Post by lampe3 »

cell303 wrote: post #42
lampe3 wrote: post #23

Jesus when i read this Article I see me... I love to start new Projects but i never finish them(only when i must because i customer is kicking my ass)... I always have a lot of motivation... but when i sit down and must read or do something i lose focus very often and maybe work on it for 30 minutes or 1 hour and then i start to watch some stupid youtube videos... To this day i dont know how to focus... I got depress…

same here

I hope that maybe some other comments will help you !

Re: I’m young, inexperienced and a perfectionist

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Post by lampe3 »

Heliosmaster wrote: post #35
lampe3 wrote: post #23

Jesus when i read this Article I see me... I love to start new Projects but i never finish them(only when i must because i customer is kicking my ass)... I always have a lot of motivation... but when i sit down and must read or do something i lose focus very often and maybe work on it for 30 minutes or 1 hour and then i start to watch some stupid youtube videos... To this day i dont know how to focus... I got depress…

same for me, more or less.

I hope that maybe some other comments will help you !

Re: I’m young, inexperienced and a perfectionist

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Post by lampe3 »

simonbarker87 wrote: post #125
lampe3 wrote: post #123

Earlier quoted context omitted.

thats smart ! thank you. so basically you started to plan things better before you started them

Essentially yes, but rather than plan the entire thing - just plan the next 1 or 2 steps and make sure they work toward the main objective

okay i think i got it. focus the goal. break it into milestones and break the milestones into small steps but only plan the next 1 2 steps

thank you !

Re: I’m young, inexperienced and a perfectionist

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Post by disgruntledphd2 »

ruswick wrote: post #101
polskibus wrote: post #95

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I'd love to read more about the correlation you mention. Can you share a reference to a relevant publication ?

It was discussed in The Secret Life of Pronouns by James Pennebaker (Although I only read about his finding in an interview in HBR). A few of his most salient points are explained in this article: http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201108/the-is-have-i... .

Through the wonders of Google Scholar, I give you: http://homepage.psy.utexas.edu/homepage/faculty/pennebaker/r...

It is written for a psychology journal, but the Annual reviews series is typically not loaded down with any more than the usual academic journal.

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