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>> If you talked to your spouse like that it would be called abuse. And if you hit your spouse like boxers do in the ring then that would be abuse too. It's almost as if there are different rules for different situations. (No, I'm not saying that kernel development is like boxing)
The difference is consent. Now, of course, that sparks off a question about whether submitting your post or your startup to HN is de facto consenting to be verbally abused. But I think that's a pretty useful conversation to have.
I like to think of HN as one big subset of focus group users. Get another subset of people with a similar psychographic/demographic trait and you're likely to face just as much criticism, just of a different bent than you would receive here.