Congratulations, and thank you for sharing your experience.
What it's like having a kid
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#12Just experienced this a month ago as the man as well. "Intense" is the only reasonable word I could possibly use to describe the experience. I can't even imagine going through it from the other side as a woman and, oh man, the things we leave out when educating people about giving birth. Fatherhood is pretty cool so far though!
congrats, I can only get say it gets better for the next few years!
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#13Don't have kids. They will have far shittier lives, not to mention shorter, than yours, thanks to the end of cheap fossil fuels. They're also a hundred thousand dollar expense. Do not want! I suppose most of you are so prone to optimist thinking and nurturing your biological urges you won't heed my call. Ah well. Oh, and by the way, the current worldwide depression will never end. http://physics.ucsd.edu/do-the-math/…
alternatively, my kid(s) will be the ones to change the course for humanity, and slingshot us to the next revolution.
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#14Awesome account of the birth and experience. Thanks for sharing and going into detail about such intimate moments. We had both of our kids at home via midwife, but the experience obviously has similarities to the hospital. Our second was breech and also did not make a sound at first. They warned us about that with breech babies but it was still very unsettling until she started crying -- as it was for you.
The last paragraph is perfect, couldn't have said it better myself.
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#15Don't have kids. They will have far shittier lives, not to mention shorter, than yours, thanks to the end of cheap fossil fuels. They're also a hundred thousand dollar expense. Do not want! I suppose most of you are so prone to optimist thinking and nurturing your biological urges you won't heed my call. Ah well. Oh, and by the way, the current worldwide depression will never end. http://physics.ucsd.edu/do-the-math/…
Having children is usually a selfish and/or conformist choice.
Many people have kids because that's what's expected of them, and because that's what all their friends and family are doing. They also usually hope to be less lonely with kids, have their kids support or take care of them when they're older, be able to mold their kids to be like them or further their goals, and have a sort of existence after their deaths through their kids, or even fix up their marriage by having kids -- all selfish reasons to have kids.
But the kids never asked to be born. As parents, you are essentially forcing life upon another being.
According to Silenus, "the best thing for a man is not to be born, and if already born, to die as soon as possible."[1]
This is not to mention the plague of overpopulation and all the resulting problems that unrestrained breeding has led to.
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#16Congratulations. Nothing you have ever done will prepare you for what follows. Protip: Babies that have issues with sleeping sometimes benefit from loud background noises being played. This due to them being used to all of the noises being produced by their mother's internal organs. You can try putting a radio off a station (for the whitenoise) and raising it to 11. Or maybe a vacuum cleaner. With my child, the radio worked like a charm.
Good luck. Being a father changes you.
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#17I'm very happy you and your wife have a healthy baby addition to your family. Not to spark a home/hospital birth debate, but to simply provide a different experience... Mine: http://hellobubs.com/post/23494489962/homebirth-midwives-bec...
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#18Congratulations. Nothing you have ever done will prepare you for what follows. Protip: Babies that have issues with sleeping sometimes benefit from loud background noises being played. This due to them being used to all of the noises being produced by their mother's internal organs. You can try putting a radio off a station (for the whitenoise) and raising it to 11 . Or maybe a vacuum cleaner. With my child, the radi…
Why is it that nearly everyone who has children feels the need to impart birthing advice on expectant parents, and child-rearing advice to new parents?
The only advice I give now is to ignore all the advice everyone else gives.
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#19Congratulations. Nothing you have ever done will prepare you for what follows. Protip: Babies that have issues with sleeping sometimes benefit from loud background noises being played. This due to them being used to all of the noises being produced by their mother's internal organs. You can try putting a radio off a station (for the whitenoise) and raising it to 11 . Or maybe a vacuum cleaner. With my child, the radi…
Why is it that nearly everyone who has children feels the need to impart birthing advice on expectant parents, and child-rearing advice to new parents? The only advice I give now is to ignore all the advice everyone else gives.
So you're also giving advice to new parents then? :P
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#20Don't have kids. They will have far shittier lives, not to mention shorter, than yours, thanks to the end of cheap fossil fuels. They're also a hundred thousand dollar expense. Do not want! I suppose most of you are so prone to optimist thinking and nurturing your biological urges you won't heed my call. Ah well. Oh, and by the way, the current worldwide depression will never end. http://physics.ucsd.edu/do-the-math/…
Having children is usually a selfish and/or conformist choice. Many people have kids because that's what's expected of them, and because that's what all their friends and family are doing. They also usually hope to be less lonely with kids, have their kids support or take care of them when they're older, be able to mold their kids to be like them or further their goals, and have a sort of existence after their deaths…
"But the kids never asked to be born. As parents, you are essentially forcing life upon another being."
This is illogical. They can't ask to be born because they are not born yet. In your argument, the arrow of time is pointing in the wrong direction.
And the parents are not forcing life upon a being like some sort of genitals-based Dr Frankenstein rigmarole - they are creating the being.