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Re: The Real Luxuries In Life

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Post by throw-the-towel »

throwaway2037 wrote: post #239
zkmon wrote: post #64

Time, quiet mind, slow mornings, rest without guilt, calm and boring days - are all the same thing - escape from being busy. This assumes being busy is common, which is actually not that common for an age of 60+. The real luxury, for any age, in general, is in not having dependencies and needs. The need to impress someone, the need to know every ugly news from around globe, the need to read everything and be knowledg…

> need to taste foods from around the world Since the 2000s, in most highly developed countries, you are spoiled for choice if you live within 20km of a medium-/large-sized city. You don't need to travel more than a few km to enjoy cuisine from outside your region. > need to be loved by someone Jesus: Tell me you are a man without telling me you are a man. Few women I know would ever say something like that.

I wonder how relationships even form then. (It's possible that they don't, yeah.)

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Post by wallst07 »

stackghost wrote: post #89
turzmo wrote: post #72

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Sure, why not, it’s just not selling the idea that money buys happiness…

I mean if I had someone tailoring workouts to me, keeping me motivated to stick with a training regimen, and free time enough to get super fit and look great naked, I'd sure be happier.

You are looking at it from the wrong perspective, you are trying to fit "healthy" into your current environment. I think it's the wrong approach.

For example: societies that live the longest and are generally the healthiest do not have gym equipment or trainers, exercise is a core part of their every day life.

The mistake you are making [I think] is looking at these things as impossible goals because of lack of more money so it is easy not to try and risk failure.

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Post by wallst07 »

schaefer wrote: post #78
smokel wrote: post #34

Time seems to be one of the most valuable luxuries. AFAIK it is not entirely clear why time seems to pass faster when one grows older. One argument is that the older brain does not form memories as intricate as in the younger brain. Has anyone experimented with actively making more complex memories to make time pass slower? Seems like the best approach to living longer, at least in experience.

Go on a ten day meditation retreat. Time will hit the breaks, hard.

The hardest thing anyone has to deal with is their own thoughts in silence.

I suspect most of the people here (including myself) are so addicted to tech and instant access to information it would be unbearable for most.

Experience: Meditated every morning for an hour for sometime, it was tough in the beginning.

Re: The Real Luxuries In Life

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Post by tsoukase »

Human needs are tricky. We usually hold basic needs as luxuries. Time and health are basic needs while luxuries should be some unneeded details, like a larger car or home. The most basic human need is oxygen, but I think this falls under health.

Re: The Real Luxuries In Life

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Post by munksbeer »

I have to laugh at this, because on here I see a lot of people talking about family and meaningful relationships. As the father of two young, insanely challenging boys, a lot of the stuff on this list is non-existent and hasn't existed since the birth of the first 7 years ago.

Time - Nope

Health - Nope, stress, no time, bad eating, no sleep

A quiet mind - Nope

Slow mornings - Nope

Ability to travel - Nope

Rest without guilt - Nope

A good night’s sleep - Nope

Calm and “boring” days - Nope

Meaningful conversations - Nope

Home-cooked meals - Sort of, but not as much care as previously (see lack of time)

People you love - Yes, but challgening

People who love you back - Yes

Re: The Real Luxuries In Life

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Post by IAmGraydon »

smokel wrote: post #34

Time seems to be one of the most valuable luxuries. AFAIK it is not entirely clear why time seems to pass faster when one grows older. One argument is that the older brain does not form memories as intricate as in the younger brain. Has anyone experimented with actively making more complex memories to make time pass slower? Seems like the best approach to living longer, at least in experience.

It’s because you do less memorable things, so there are less milestones to judge the time by. When you’re young, you don’t have to try so hard as many things are new and exciting. As you get older, you get a career, fall into autopilot mode, and maybe just take a vacation once in a while. Your options are to either figure out how to free yourself of this system so you can spend your time exactly how you want, or to rediscover the wonder and reward in small, seemingly everyday things.

Re: The Real Luxuries In Life

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Post by CrimsonRain »

munksbeer wrote: post #245

I have to laugh at this, because on here I see a lot of people talking about family and meaningful relationships. As the father of two young, insanely challenging boys, a lot of the stuff on this list is non-existent and hasn't existed since the birth of the first 7 years ago. Time - Nope Health - Nope, stress, no time, bad eating, no sleep A quiet mind - Nope Slow mornings - Nope Ability to travel - Nope Rest withou…

I'm in similar boat as you but for me, a lot of these are yes. Some went "Nope" for a short while but slowly getting back to yes. That's why they are real luxuries...

Re: The Real Luxuries In Life

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Post by eastbound »

brazukadev wrote: post #125
eastbound wrote: post #85

Earlier quoted context omitted.

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The first half of your message led me to write a well meaning reply to tell you you still have time to be happy and meet that girl from high school or someone else. The second part is so dark and evil that I regret wasting my time.

This (very common) approach causes the loop of people's insolation.

Why it's bad: I haven't performed my deed, precisely because it's so evil, but you have.

Re: The Real Luxuries In Life

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Post by drcongo »

roykent wrote: post #225
CrzyLngPwd wrote: post #152

Grandchildren. I have five, and they are amazing. Youngest is 9 months. We have an old car goiong to the scrapyard in a couple of weeks, and today I sat in the passenger seat of it as my 13 yr old grandaughter drove it around one of our fields getting more and more confident as I encouraged her to stop, put it in reverse, and drive in the opposite direction. From "this is too difficult" to "I want to be a rally drive…

This is going to be a core memory that she will hold on to forever

Reading the parent reminded me that my first time behind the wheel was in my uncle's Citroen Diane on Black Rock Sands in north Wales when I was maybe 8 or 9. I say this as someone who barely remembers my childhood at all, so yeah, she'll remember this forever.
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