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Re: Ten Steps Towards Happiness (2015)

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Post by tayo42 »

aa-jv wrote: post #55
virtualritz wrote: post #17

The one thing I'd put in context is "don't waste time on commuting". In Europe for sure and possibly many parts of Asia like Japan or bigger metropolises in China etc. most people will commute by public transport. You can read. Whenever I had a job where I commuted at least an hour a day, the number of books I read, per month, went from 2–3 to 10 or more.

Can confirm .. I grew up in a country (Australia) which is practically impossible to live in, without a car .. then I moved to California and did everything I could to avoid the commutes (really a very difficult task), lived there for 15 years and only managed to optimize my life to be able to walk around LA/my neighborhood in the last few years of it .. then moved to Japan for a year, where everything I needed to su…

We made a major improvement onethis with remote work then it was decided that isn't allowed and we do "hybrid"

Re: Ten Steps Towards Happiness (2015)

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Post by skrebbel »

lightandlight wrote: post #56
pdamoc wrote: post #21

I cant' believe it's almost 10 years since he died. My favorite quote of his is "Who needs a bucket list when you have love?” I wish more people would take his ideas seriously, especially his "Collective Code Construction Contract".

I learned about 0mq a few years back, found myself wondering why it had such an air of quality . Then I found Hitnjens' writing, only to learn that he had been gone for a while. I was surprised by my sense of loss.

Fwiw, not that it mattes a lot, I think most of that sense of quality in ZeroMQ is due to the very tasteful efforts of its main author, Martin Sustrik (https://www.250bpm.com/). Pieter Hintjens sortof stewarded the project but, I believe, didn't code all that much on it.

I did use the Xitami webserver in anger or years back in the early 2000s though, and that very much was Pieter's work! It was amazing!

Re: Ten Steps Towards Happiness (2015)

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Post by hypertexthero »

warkdarrior wrote: post #6

I have been trying to square such suggestions for happiness with G.B. Shaw's quote: > "The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man." The steps towards happiness basically require accepting the world as is and appreciating it as is. Does that mean happy people are reasonable? And if they ar…

Try circles instead of a square.

Not 1 and 0, but infinity.

You matter more than you think.

Very good book:

https://www.youmattermorethanyouthink.com/

Re: Ten Steps Towards Happiness (2015)

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Post by SamoyedFurFluff »

roenxi wrote: post #90
SamoyedFurFluff wrote: post #81

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Here’s the thing though: Helen is presenting herself to be called Helen. That’s inherently asking other people to call her Helen and imposing on people to allow a person they see as male to enter a female bathroom! For people who see being transgender as a political issue, being asked to call a trans person by their name is bringing politics into it because theyre being imposed on to recognize a trans woman as female…

That actually sounds like a relatively simple one to resolve although the practicality might be a bit poor. The nonpolitical resolution is to use a space with 1 small unisex bathroom and insist that everyone keep it clean. If there isn't a consensus on who gets a special bathroom then there shouldn't be one.

So forcing everyone to change their meeting place to a venue with a unisex bathroom only is not political, but a trans woman using a woman’s bathroom is political?

Also, Helen still wants to be called Helen and still wants to be referred to as a she. By this logic, everyone must go by they/them? Or what?

Re: Ten Steps Towards Happiness (2015)

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Post by 21asdffdsa12 »

sinuhe69 wrote: post #51
neuroticnews25 wrote: post #39

Admittedly I don't have much life wisdom, but my strong intuition is happiness is a measure, not a target, and you shouldn't optimize for it. All this "science of happiness" talk feels, I don't know, spiritually offputting.

I believe that living a happy life is a long term survival strategy. Producing offsprings is the other way. If we feel miserable, we want to cut our life short or it will be due to many problems, bad health included. Long term happiness is a very good measure of how good your life is going. So while we might not agree on whether we should optimize our lives for happiness, it's certainly an objective we should always…

You are on a sphere with linear sun input, energy is limited, life is not limuited, the exponential hockeystick eats the sun, missery is unavoidable and built into all things.

Re: Ten Steps Towards Happiness (2015)

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Post by ramon156 »

__rito__ wrote: post #64

> 4. Be part of bigger things > Being part of bigger things makes us feel valued. Find communities and projects to be part of. Start your own. It could be online or in the real world. Make sure the groups don't get politically active one way or the other. Today's social landscape is made significantly worse by political polarization dragged to the extreme - fuelled by short form content silos and bubbles. (Tiktok, In…

Or don't join groups where you disagree on politics. There's no excuse, really. My own family is enough already

Re: Ten Steps Towards Happiness (2015)

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Post by roenxi »

SamoyedFurFluff wrote: post #94
roenxi wrote: post #90

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That actually sounds like a relatively simple one to resolve although the practicality might be a bit poor. The nonpolitical resolution is to use a space with 1 small unisex bathroom and insist that everyone keep it clean. If there isn't a consensus on who gets a special bathroom then there shouldn't be one.

So forcing everyone to change their meeting place to a venue with a unisex bathroom only is not political, but a trans woman using a woman’s bathroom is political? Also, Helen still wants to be called Helen and still wants to be referred to as a she. By this logic, everyone must go by they/them? Or what?

> So forcing everyone to change their meeting place to a venue with a unisex bathroom only is not political, but a trans woman using a woman’s bathroom is political?

Nobody is calling for unisex bathrooms as far as I know, so it can't really be called a political choice. It is just practical - there isn't a consensus about who should get a special bathroom. How can there be a special bathroom if we don't know who is supposed to be using it?

> Also, Helen still wants to be called Helen and still wants to be referred to as a she. By this logic, everyone must go by they/them? Or what?

I don't see how to get away from that one, there is a fundamental rift between the people who think individuals control their identity and the people who think that identity is constructed by someone's peers (see also, shaking off an unwelcome nickname).

But that is an inescapable problem that has dogged humanity since before we were a species so good luck excluding it from any space. If it flares up and diplomacy can't smooth it out then some organiser is just going to have to make a call.

Re: Ten Steps Towards Happiness (2015)

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Post by SamoyedFurFluff »

roenxi wrote: post #97
SamoyedFurFluff wrote: post #94

Earlier quoted context omitted.

So forcing everyone to change their meeting place to a venue with a unisex bathroom only is not political, but a trans woman using a woman’s bathroom is political? Also, Helen still wants to be called Helen and still wants to be referred to as a she. By this logic, everyone must go by they/them? Or what?

> So forcing everyone to change their meeting place to a venue with a unisex bathroom only is not political, but a trans woman using a woman’s bathroom is political? Nobody is calling for unisex bathrooms as far as I know, so it can't really be called a political choice. It is just practical - there isn't a consensus about who should get a special bathroom. How can there be a special bathroom if we don't know who is…

I think you’re missing my point here, which is that “no politics” is an impossible standard for any given social group even if the social group isn’t itself a political movement. There will need to be some measure of baseline politics, like trans people are welcome, jokes about Indian people being smelly are fine, gay people shouldn’t bring their partners around, “retarded” is/isn’t cool to use. Etc.

Re: Ten Steps Towards Happiness (2015)

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Post by hamper653 »

SamoyedFurFluff wrote: post #68
__rito__ wrote: post #64

> 4. Be part of bigger things > Being part of bigger things makes us feel valued. Find communities and projects to be part of. Start your own. It could be online or in the real world. Make sure the groups don't get politically active one way or the other. Today's social landscape is made significantly worse by political polarization dragged to the extreme - fuelled by short form content silos and bubbles. (Tiktok, In…

Inquiry: what do you define as politics? Example: is a trans person in your community political for using their preferred pronouns? Going to their preferred bathroom? Is a gay person political for mentioning their same sex spouse? Is an immigrant political for discussing their immigration process (“sorry can’t make it I have an apt with the embassy”)? Is tits or gtfo political? I’m not trying to be contrarian this is…

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Re: Ten Steps Towards Happiness (2015)

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Post by baxtr »

SamoyedFurFluff wrote: post #82
baxtr wrote: post #71

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For me personally the line is crossed when you start making judgments. Having an appointment with the embassy is not political. Saying the government shouldn’t force people to go to the embassy is.

That’s incredibly messy, for example, a friend of mine was recently forced out of the country because her Ukrainian refugee visa was revoked. Are you saying this community member cannot be sad or angry about this, because that’s too political? We have to be like damn this is the last board game with Nancy but we can’t talk about why because that’s Polticial?

I think it’s the opposite of messy tbh. It’s clear cut. You might not like it but that’s a separate discussion.

Re your colleague: I wouldn’t want to talk about it other than showing empathy for the person. At your workplace… outside of work you can talk whatever you want.

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