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I'm 34. Here's 34 things I wish I knew at 21
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#102This is well done. I can't say I agree with all of them, but I agree with the fact that you sat down and thought about them, and that you wrote them down. Good job. > Adults make a lot more sense when you realise they're just children in big bodies. That one, I absolutely agree with. I'm 55. I would have a hard time limiting myself to 55 things I wish I knew when I was 34. When I'm 105, I still will have too many for…
Write them all down. Please.
Re: I'm 34. Here's 34 things I wish I knew at 21
#103Re: I'm 34. Here's 34 things I wish I knew at 21
#104Earlier quoted context omitted.
Uh, yeah. I've been a man my entire life and I've never ever had a problem with wanting to let my sexual urges cause harm to others. I have a very high libido even. Not once has this been a problem. The fuck is this about?
Same. Leaving aside the "If you're a man ..." condescending crap, that "cause harm to others" bit reveals a lot about the author. Sorry pal, you're alone on that hill.
This bullshit is why #NotAllMen is a farcical trope among feminists.
Can ya'll please grow slightly thicker skin?
It doesn't take much effort to give the author benefit of doubt, especially when he already qualified his claim with "If you're a man, one of your hardest battles may be..."
To those who are unaware, "may be" signals uncertainty. It signals #NotAllMen.
Stop whining.
Re: I'm 34. Here's 34 things I wish I knew at 21
#105The best advise I ever got was this. https://youtu.be/sycgL3Qg_Ak?si=aDnxo-S6eYXJVheC&t=190 Don’t listen to other people’s advice. Nobody knows what the hell they’re doing. Just do your own thing.
So you took the advice of not taking other people's advice & you don't see the inherent contradiction in that?
Re: I'm 34. Here's 34 things I wish I knew at 21
#106I agree with most of these except 28. > Some people are profoundly broken – usually from life's harsh trials. Give yourself permission to remove them from your orbit. Their healing requires years of professional help, more than well-meaning friends and family can achieve. If you give up on those people and cut them out, you're pretty much condemning them to continuing being broken. This conflicts with the earlier adv…
> If you give up on those people and cut them out, you're pretty much condemning them to continuing being broken.
I've seen what happens to those who spend their lives trying to fix others.
No thanks.
Re: I'm 34. Here's 34 things I wish I knew at 21
#107This is well done. I can't say I agree with all of them, but I agree with the fact that you sat down and thought about them, and that you wrote them down. Good job. > Adults make a lot more sense when you realise they're just children in big bodies. That one, I absolutely agree with. I'm 55. I would have a hard time limiting myself to 55 things I wish I knew when I was 34. When I'm 105, I still will have too many for…
I was wondering why the original poster chose 21. Maybe it was because he's 34 and that's the previous Fibonacci number.
Following this logic, you're precisely the age you should be to write a list like this :P
Re: I'm 34. Here's 34 things I wish I knew at 21
#108I agree with most of these except 28. > Some people are profoundly broken – usually from life's harsh trials. Give yourself permission to remove them from your orbit. Their healing requires years of professional help, more than well-meaning friends and family can achieve. If you give up on those people and cut them out, you're pretty much condemning them to continuing being broken. This conflicts with the earlier adv…
Keep in mind the idea that "Some people are profoundly broken." There are those you can help. There are also those who you will never be able to help. Know your limit. Know when to say enough and let them live with their choices. You can't fix everyone even if you wish you could.
Re: I'm 34. Here's 34 things I wish I knew at 21
#109I agree with most of these except 28. > Some people are profoundly broken – usually from life's harsh trials. Give yourself permission to remove them from your orbit. Their healing requires years of professional help, more than well-meaning friends and family can achieve. If you give up on those people and cut them out, you're pretty much condemning them to continuing being broken. This conflicts with the earlier adv…
I think perhaps the author's 35th lesson¹ is that brevity can lose nuance.
I interpreted this one to be in the context where having them in your orbit is causing you (or others) harm, and it ain't something you can fix.
¹ Actually it would be the 50th lesson. For some reason tacking on fifteen "bonus" lessons annoyed me. Felt like having your alliteration and eating it too. 51st lesson: math.
Re: I'm 34. Here's 34 things I wish I knew at 21
#110Earlier quoted context omitted.
Uh, yeah. I've been a man my entire life and I've never ever had a problem with wanting to let my sexual urges cause harm to others. I have a very high libido even. Not once has this been a problem. The fuck is this about?
Same. Leaving aside the "If you're a man ..." condescending crap, that "cause harm to others" bit reveals a lot about the author. Sorry pal, you're alone on that hill.
> Sorry pal, you're alone on that hill.
No, he's absolutely not.