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Competent + Nice = Best Combination Competent + Asshole = I'll put up with them Incompetent + Nice = I'll hold their hand Incompetent + Asshole = You've got to be kidding
Someone should make a "Co-Worker Punnett Square" with these options. But which traits are dominant and which are recessive? ;)
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"When you're young, you feel like you should ignore it, because it seems so arbitrary." Of course different people will ignore this intuitive feeling for different reasons, but I suspect that people rarely do so because it feels arbitrary. Usually people tolerate mean behaviour because there is an asymmetry of power in a relationship. When you need someone more than they need you, they can make harsh demands and trea…
> The fact there are so many giant assholes walking around suggests that being an asshole works, at least sometimes. So how do we raise the costs of being an Asshole? I'm asking this from a serious, hacking-the-monkeyware perspective.
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/why-women-really-d...
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I am, admittedly, one of those assholes. I don't characterize myself as rude (I keep my mouth closed when I chew, I stay away from others and doorways when I smoke, I hold doors open for people). But, if you get in a conversation with me, I will take control. I tend to talk over people to get my point across (although I don't care whether you agree with me or not, not in an attempt to convince) and I tend to talk to…
I tend to be the same way, and I think that simply having an awareness that you're dominating the conversation is a big first step. What are some techniques that you use to stop yourself from stomping over everybody else, at least verbally?
As I think on it, this has been a recent development. I wonder if it stems from my daughter starting to talk a year ago. My life has become a cloud of "uh uh", "yeah", "allright!" and generally sounding excited about completely unstimulating conversation. When I can have a discussion with someone that challenges me, it's very exciting and usually the highlight of my day.
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"ARE YOU A PROGRAMMER OR WHAT?! YOU SAID YOU WERE A PROGRAMMER"
... orly?
After telling him his tone was inappropriate and disrespectful I told him we wouldn't be working together.
his response? "OK" /hangs up
Haha - goodbye asshole! It was nice not working for you!
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"When you're young, you feel like you should ignore it, because it seems so arbitrary." Of course different people will ignore this intuitive feeling for different reasons, but I suspect that people rarely do so because it feels arbitrary. Usually people tolerate mean behaviour because there is an asymmetry of power in a relationship. When you need someone more than they need you, they can make harsh demands and trea…
> The fact there are so many giant assholes walking around suggests that being an asshole works, at least sometimes. So how do we raise the costs of being an Asshole? I'm asking this from a serious, hacking-the-monkeyware perspective.
Increase the rate at which reputation spreads between people.
This is actually one of the goals of YC. Historically investors have often behaved like assholes to founders. But if someone maltreats a YC startup, 300 people know about it. Most investors sense this and try to at least act upstanding.
I was talking to a YC founder recently who's working on a fairly fragile idea, in the sense that it's both good and easily copyable at this stage. He was worried that if he talked to VCs about it, they might encourage someone to copy it. I could honestly tell him "they wouldn't dare."