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Re: Basic Social Skills Guide

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Post by zwnow »

boston_clone wrote: post #245
zwnow wrote: post #238

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I never had to do with the grieving though? What do I care about the grieving? I care about the deceased person. I am not going to fake interest in their family if it never occurred when my friend was alive.

Why compartmentalize your love? I recently attended a funeral and shared sympathies with several strangers that over the course of time, became closer to friends. Your friend almost certainly loved their family, and their family loved your friend. Although they may be gone, you can still keep that connective love alive by doing the same things for others that you’d do for your friend - sometimes, it’s as simple as sh…

Yes, I dont connect over these things. Also I have a pretty good circle of friends and dont need more people in my life. Every loss of a friend is like the world os falling apart and with more people in my life id have to go through that even more. I keep the number of people I have to deal with small.

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Post by zwnow »

butlike wrote: post #222
fknorangesite wrote: post #214

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No: grow up and realize that expressing an emotion is neither childish nor shameful.

It's such a young person thing to believe the adrenaline of pushing against the envelope is a better feeling than the endorphins of expressing appropriate emotion. I'm sure they'll learn this when they come of age. Life can be painful, and comfort, solace, and community are really nice when you're on the downswing instead of the upswing, which happens to all of us if you're strong enough to live that long.

Community is having to deal with way too many unauthentic brainless people.

Re: Basic Social Skills Guide

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Post by throwawayoldie »

zwnow wrote: post #236
throwawayoldie wrote: post #215

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Got to disagree. If there's one situation where a public breakdown is generally understood to be appropriate, it's a funeral. And if you're saying you don't want to because it's uncomfortable for you to be seen that way, well, the funeral isn't about you.

If i am forced to attend its about me.

How old are you, 14?

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Post by strken »

bravetraveler wrote: post #36
strken wrote: post #32

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I assume the proposition is that trust between coworkers is important (even if you're autistic) and the best way to build extra trust with someone, on top of what you'd normally build just working with them, is to interact with them socially (unless they're autistic and haven't memorised this pattern, in such case they'll just be confused and annoyed). I think your assumption that this is about "firm guidance" and "o…

"How can we have any pudding if we don't eat our meat?!" Let's worry about extra trust once they start earning trust (and, arguably, their pay) by reviewing the PRs. Leaving those floating deserves none, from nobody. To reiterate the original post, behaving as if they're a member of the team would be quite welcome, actually. Fun, no: work.

Has there been any hint that the PRs were not being reviewed? I haven't read any suggestion of that in the direct chain of replies.

Re: Basic Social Skills Guide

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Post by slumberlust »

projectazorian wrote: post #241
Plankaluel wrote: post #52

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The thing about Arsenal is they always try to walk it in.

I've been known to drop this one in conversation to see if people pick up on it. Have no idea if it's still true, but it certainly was in Wenger's time.

The current trendy insult is that they rely on set pieces too much.

Re: Basic Social Skills Guide

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Post by GiorgioG »

zwnow wrote: post #209
GiorgioG wrote: post #204

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You're clearly not capable of seeing that humans live differently which is completely fine. Some tribes eat people, some tribes bury them. Just because most people value ordinary people things doesn't mean you should be forced into their culture

Look, if you want to live life like a hermit, that’s on you. As you get older, you will lose people, friends, family, acquaintances, not only through death, but growing apart for “normal” reasons, moving away, job changes, changes in interests, getting married, etc. Rarely in life do you make more connections later in life than you had when you were younger. The more you rail against social norms, the more you isolate yourself. If that’s what you want, fair enough. But if you want to be part of a well functioning social group, the rest of us value getting together at the end of someone’s life.

Re: Basic Social Skills Guide

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Post by bravetraveler »

strken wrote: post #254
bravetraveler wrote: post #36

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"How can we have any pudding if we don't eat our meat?!" Let's worry about extra trust once they start earning trust (and, arguably, their pay) by reviewing the PRs. Leaving those floating deserves none, from nobody. To reiterate the original post, behaving as if they're a member of the team would be quite welcome, actually. Fun, no: work.

Has there been any hint that the PRs were not being reviewed? I haven't read any suggestion of that in the direct chain of replies.

Sure. Look not to the replies, but the top of the thread. The 'hint':

> " ... can't they read my PRs?"

I know one really good way to answer that. The requirement for the question suggests the same for review.

Re: Basic Social Skills Guide

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Post by brulard »

apexalpha wrote: post #160
GiorgioG wrote: post #149

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Someone should attend your funeral because they made some kind of connection with you in this short life. Being uncomfortable for 30 minutes is the least one can do. I am so tired of people being so emotionally immature that they can’t handle a little discomfort.

Seconded, the person you initially respond to is the target audience of this website, and would probably do well to take it in. A funeral is not 'some event' that you can just skip for your own benefit. That's not what it's about.

Well, it turned from the original "breaking down", through "slight discomfort" to "skipping for a benefit". Just let me tell you for someone to break down can mean a panic attack, where they can not catch breath, or they just crawl into a corner acting like a kid, it can mean throwing up violently or it can mean falling into a long term depression. Everyone can have their own reasons and way of processing pain.

Re: Basic Social Skills Guide

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Post by small_scombrus »

foxglacier wrote: post #53
guerrilla wrote: post #46

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Is this AI spam or psychosis? I don't understand.

3rd option is you just don't understand. This is language people use to describe narcissists. Flying monkeys are people who help them manipulate others and vampires are "emotional vampires". Poster was saying a narcissist had died, leaving their support people leaderless.

I think you're right, but for a wonderful second I thought there was some weird fantasy reference going on

Re: Basic Social Skills Guide

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Post by strken »

bravetraveler wrote: post #257
strken wrote: post #254

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Has there been any hint that the PRs were not being reviewed? I haven't read any suggestion of that in the direct chain of replies.

Sure. Look not to the replies, but the top of the thread. The 'hint': > " ... can't they read my PRs?" I know one really good way to answer that. The requirement for the question suggests the same for review.

You're misreading it. Reading the speaker's PRs is presented as an alternative to talking to them, in the same way that if Alice and Bob were arguing whether song lyric sites should exist and Alice asked "can't they listen to the song?", it would be a rhetorical question and would not indicate that Bob did not listen to the song he wanted to read the lyrics of.
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