I'm starting a social club to solve the male loneliness epidemic

Post by rchaud » Fri, May 30, 2025, 4:47 AM UTC

cedws wrote: post #135

som wrote: post #100

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Introducing women to a group of men completely changes the dynamics, and vice versa. Genders have fundamental differences, and it's human nature to act differently in the presence of the other. Consider also that men may not be willing to be themselves or be open in the presence of women. Are they not allowed to have a space for this? A mixed gender social club inevitably gets raided by a load of dudebros who want to…

Post by tbrownaw » Fri, May 30, 2025, 4:49 AM UTC

JKCalhoun wrote: post #41

Multicomp wrote: post #2

The lack of deep friendships feel like a 3-fold problem. 1. You can't ever be real, if you are real, you are likely to be recorded doing something someone somewhere on the largest stage in the world (the public web) that someone will disapprove of, and someone else will raise their own profile by mining your impiety to prove their own concern and moral superiority. 2. Everyone is so mobile and connected online, they…

> You can't ever be real, if you are real, you are likely to be recorded doing something… I'm real all the time. What am I missing here?

Post by chinchilla2020 » Fri, May 30, 2025, 4:49 AM UTC

Telemakhos wrote: post #16

Sometimes I wish we could have "gentlemen's clubs" of the sort that existed in Victorian Britain (not the US strip club version), third-spaces where one could go to read or converse or play cards with other men or even have a meal or a drink. Having social space that's limited to a set of people one knows, more or less, and that has rules on behavior seems like a civilizing influence that's missing today.

Post by tbrownaw » Fri, May 30, 2025, 4:50 AM UTC

latentsea wrote: post #139

rchaud wrote: post #120

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The 800lb elephant in the room about this whole idea - some people have trouble building friendships because they can't stop themselves from bringing up fringe topics with people they just met, and insisting on having conversations about them.

Elephant's weigh more like 11,000lbs. I think you mean Gorilla? Speaking of Gorillas, have you ever read the book Chimpanzee Politics? Crazy how at the end the other two chimps break into the one chimps cage and literally rip his nuts off. Crazy huh? Oh wait... I'm doing that thing again, aren't I?

Post by Disposal8433 » Fri, May 30, 2025, 4:50 AM UTC

fny wrote: post #37

Telemakhos wrote: post #16

Sometimes I wish we could have "gentlemen's clubs" of the sort that existed in Victorian Britain (not the US strip club version), third-spaces where one could go to read or converse or play cards with other men or even have a meal or a drink. Having social space that's limited to a set of people one knows, more or less, and that has rules on behavior seems like a civilizing influence that's missing today.

I’ve often wondered what a contemporary free mason movement could be. I know they’re still around but their whole system is wildly arcane.