Half the men in Seattle are never-married singles, census data shows

Post by BriggyDwiggs42 » Sun, Apr 13, 2025, 6:34 PM UTC

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I've come to a conclusion that the solution may be somewhat radical. If coupling is reduced, it should become the norm for women to have and raise children alone, or at least without a male partner. This increases the burden on women, so at the same time the number of children they must support would have to decrease. This could be achieved technologically, by filtering sperm to remove Y chromosome carrying gametes.…

Perhaps even more interesting in the near-future is the prospect of creating sperm, through technological means, from female cells. The research to do this seems to be close to succeeding - see e.g. https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn11601-bone-stem-cells... When researchers perfect this technique for humans, which they almost certainly will eventually, there will be no need for men at all. Women will be able to…

Post by toomuchtodo » Sun, Apr 13, 2025, 6:40 PM UTC

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It’s actually the opposite. A lot of benefits programs are punitive to marriage wrt household income. I know many older couples who stay unmarried because one of them would lose their healthcare or cash transfer benefit, for example. For making healthcare decisions, durable power attorney and a medical proxy should be sufficient for unmarried couples. Not an attorney, talk to one if this is a need you have to validat…

> For making healthcare decisions, durable power attorney and a medical proxy should be sufficient for unmarried couples. Should be isn't is . PoA aren't trivially recognized in the way a marriage is. If you have to interact with more than a couple of services you ought to expect friction. A local medical provider might not be familiar with a PoA but that can be worked out. However, bureaucracies like insurance provi…

Post by whateveracct » Sun, Apr 13, 2025, 6:44 PM UTC

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Seattle is crazy expensive. It's why I moved to Tacoma half a decade ago. I was already working remotely anyways. Less money to own a 3k sqft home in a nice neighborhood (under $600k), and I can do a 45min or so reverse commute to Seattle for entertainment on weekdays. And Tacoma has a lot of great restaurants, bars, and entertainment itself too. I'm guessing there are lots of similar choices around Seattle. Or were…

I also suspect these are reasons people give because they feel more concrete and defensible. I suspect a more significant but harder to concretize cause is that certain social changes have lead to the majority of young people being unable to form healthy attachments and pair bond. The causes ranging from a high percentage of kids growing up in single parent households and forming avoidant personality styles, social m…

Post by fifilura » Sun, Apr 13, 2025, 6:58 PM UTC

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As a comparison, full time daycare in Sweden is $100/month for everyone. I think this is one important reason that marriage is not as common, since the society is aligned towards that is should be possible to manage on your own if you absolutely need to. I can't find a proper number but anecdotally I think maybe 50% of first time parents are married in Sweden. And yes obviously this is paid by higher taxes, but seen…

> As a comparison, full time daycare in Sweden is $100/month for everyone. Obviously $100/month covers a tiny fraction of the total cost of running a childcare service in Sweden. I am curious how much does state pays to cover the rest.

Post by nradov » Sun, Apr 13, 2025, 7:23 PM UTC

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1. Seattle is quite safe. Friendliness is different than safety 2. It all comes back to housing density/supply. As you say, daycare costs are dominated by staffing ratios/wages - which are a function of cost of living. The surge of high income earners + housing supply deficit = pricing out daycare workers (and daycares).

The required staffing at daycare isn't driven by "crime safety" but an overprotective sense of protecting kids from themselves and each other. These are the required ratios. As low as 1:4 for https://www.childcare.org/ckfinder/userfiles/files/Washingto...