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A decade later, a decade lost (2024)
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#42Sometimes I think that if there is a hell, we're probably in it. The amount of suffering people can experience on Earth is unfathomable sometimes.
I remember the most painful moments of my life, and thinking that it's absurd that the human brain can experience this level of suffering. It doesn't make sense. If we're lucky, we can get tiny drops of joy in life, but the depths of suffering feel bottomless.
Re: A decade later, a decade lost (2024)
#43Earlier quoted context omitted.
I lost a dog at 3 and a half years almost to the day to a congenital defect, that we didn’t know about until he was already very sick. I’m a guy who will cross a street to meet someone’s dog. For over a year afterward I would cross the street to avoid walking past the same breed and color of dog. The way people avoid pitbulls. And that was just a dog. I can’t even imagine what happens when your child dies, especially…
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Don't you think he doesn't know that? Pro-tip for you: when someone mentions the pain of losing their companion, do not give them pro-tips.
Re: A decade later, a decade lost (2024)
#44Earlier quoted context omitted.
I lost a dog at 3 and a half years almost to the day to a congenital defect, that we didn’t know about until he was already very sick. I’m a guy who will cross a street to meet someone’s dog. For over a year afterward I would cross the street to avoid walking past the same breed and color of dog. The way people avoid pitbulls. And that was just a dog. I can’t even imagine what happens when your child dies, especially…
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> Life pro-tip: In your day-to-day human encounters, if someone mentions the pain of losing a child, do not bring up your dead dog.
Witnessing a cherished part of your life die, while you do not and can do nothing about it, is a uniquely powerless experience. Because, while you continue to live, a part of you dies.
If a person can empathize with this experience in a genuine way, what matter is it their loss?
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I came across the new CSS logo and thought the color looked about right (it's rebeccapurple), and ended up reading Eric's blog as a result.
Eric Meyer's blog post about why it should be called 'rebeccapurple' - see https://meyerweb.com/eric/thoughts/2014/06/19/rebeccapurple/
>For almost twelve hours, she was six
This is an incredibly poetic, heartbreaking statement.
Re: A decade later, a decade lost (2024)
#46I remember reading Eric's writing about Rebecca's illness and death at the time, and even though it was before my own daughter's birth I remember it being one of the saddest things I could remember reading. His writing is so eloquent that he really communicated the sadness and helplessness, while still managing to move on with his life. My deepest condolences.
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#47I was a young (19/20) bartender in the mid to late 90s. One afternoon I worked a private event. There was a couple there that had been staring at me. Eventually they came over and apologized. They said I looked like their son and that he'd be about my age that time. I forget how old he was when he passed. But I'll never forget the pain their faces. Some good friends lost their son at 10 months old. He'd be 11 this ye…
My best friend's son died at the hands of a negligent daycare, he escaped his crib, knocked a stroller over on to himself which wasn't supposed to be there, and suffocated to death. My friend called me that night to tell me. It's been 5 years and I think about it every single day. Frankly it has turned me from a person with zero anxiety to one with a good deal. I've checked on my younger daughter's breathing every single night since then. She's 7 years old and I still can't stop myself from checking on her. My friend is one of the good-est people I know. A genuinely good person. Why him? And if him, certainly why not me?
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#48I was a young (19/20) bartender in the mid to late 90s. One afternoon I worked a private event. There was a couple there that had been staring at me. Eventually they came over and apologized. They said I looked like their son and that he'd be about my age that time. I forget how old he was when he passed. But I'll never forget the pain their faces. Some good friends lost their son at 10 months old. He'd be 11 this ye…
My best friend's son died at the hands of a negligent daycare, he escaped his crib, knocked a stroller over on to himself which wasn't supposed to be there, and suffocated to death. My friend called me that night to tell me. It's been 5 years and I think about it every single day. Frankly it has turned me from a person with zero anxiety to one with a good deal. I've checked on my younger daughter's breathing every si…
I've had nothing like this happen, but somehow I get this--I was spooked by anecdotes about SIDS before having kids. When we had our daughter, and she was sleeping in her crib in our room, the first couple of months I'd basically wake up when she wasn't making noise, would then in dazed half-sleep wait for her to make any noise to confirm she was still alive (or check, sometimes), and could only then fall back asleep again. This only really quieted down one year in, when the statistical risk goes down. I guess it's fairly easy to get hypersensitized to dangers like this.
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#49The government should provide a fund for people who have experienced child loss so they never have to work again.
Work might be the only distraction they have.
Re: A decade later, a decade lost (2024)
#50The longer you carry the dead with you, the longer they cannot rest. Let them go. They would not want to see you suffer in their name.