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A decade later, a decade lost (2024)

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Re: A decade later, a decade lost (2024)

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I was a young (19/20) bartender in the mid to late 90s. One afternoon I worked a private event. There was a couple there that had been staring at me. Eventually they came over and apologized. They said I looked like their son and that he'd be about my age that time. I forget how old he was when he passed. But I'll never forget the pain their faces.

Some good friends lost their son at 10 months old. He'd be 11 this year. It changed both of them. They've done amazing things since then, but you can see the weight on their faces.

I wouldn't wish that pain on anyone.

Re: A decade later, a decade lost (2024)

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Context: This is remembering his daughter, Rebecca. (2008-2014) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eric_A._Meyer#:~:text=In%20201...

I came across the new CSS logo and thought the color looked about right (it's rebeccapurple), and ended up reading Eric's blog as a result.

Re: A decade later, a decade lost (2024)

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I was a young (19/20) bartender in the mid to late 90s. One afternoon I worked a private event. There was a couple there that had been staring at me. Eventually they came over and apologized. They said I looked like their son and that he'd be about my age that time. I forget how old he was when he passed. But I'll never forget the pain their faces. Some good friends lost their son at 10 months old. He'd be 11 this ye…

I lost a dog at 3 and a half years almost to the day to a congenital defect, that we didn’t know about until he was already very sick. I’m a guy who will cross a street to meet someone’s dog. For over a year afterward I would cross the street to avoid walking past the same breed and color of dog. The way people avoid pitbulls.

And that was just a dog. I can’t even imagine what happens when your child dies, especially if your job or social circle involves them.

The author said he has a therapist, but I wonder if he’s had one the whole time or if he failed to process at the time and is now paying for letting it sink into his bones.

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