Why young parents should focus on building trust with their kids

But do bear in mind, an intro textbook for a 101 class aiming to correct popular misunderstandings; or an experimental guide wanting to give examples of mistakes one should avoid; or an article on the replication crisis would also count as citations, even as they sneered at the original faulty work.

But seriously, if you don't like Freud, you're going to have to come up with a better response than just saying he's a kook; we all know he's a kook!

A) Talk therapy was the mode invented by Freud and is still the dominant modality of psychotherapy today, and

B) While you didn't mention it but, at the time, Cocaine was in common use as a near magical local anaesthetic and from it we derive procaine, lidocaine, any drug ending in -caine, which you certainly have been administered before, and

C)If all we have in our psychological and social lives are narratives, and the narratives bind us into certain patterns which we don't even realize we are following, then the counter to that cannot be another narrative which equally obscures its reproductive capacity (ie "the data"). Freud created stories that untied themselves at their roots, that put patients, not to mention regular people, ill at ease. Even sex with siblings is less taboo, certainly less universally taboo, than sex with one's parents, even if the latter is more genetically troublesome--is this an accident? The stories got to things at their base level, which was impossible by any other means. They might be a bit weird, but they force you to think, maybe even to act differently under the right circumstances (those of treatment), and the latter is what we'd call medical care, no?

For a bit of fun, try the same idea with a few dirty potatoes. Wash two thoroughly, and leave one unwashed. Peel a washed one, peel the unwashed one, and peel the last washed one. You'll observe that both of the latter two are much dirtier than the first one [0]. It won't be as dirty as what you started with, but it'll still be enough to cause some minor taste issues and (depending on the type of soil) make the dish feel gritty as you eat it. Contaminants you can't physically see/taste/feel are transferred the same way.

[0] There's a minor confounder in that potato flesh can oxidize, and that discoloration might be perceived as dirt. It's not as bad as with, e.g., apples though. Just work quickly, and the difference in dirt levels should be apparent.

This is the same sort of logic that leads to the idea that you should have a large home library, because that is predictive of success, or make sure your kids don't have holes in their shoes because that is predictive of success. If you "fix" these things they lose their predictive power. Similarly if everyone tries to modify their parenting behavior so that the children can pass a hypothetical marshmallow test, then you will find that the test is no longer predictive of success.