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I am rich and have no idea what to do

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Re: I am rich and have no idea what to do

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Post by wruza »

throwaway314155 wrote: post #623
wruza wrote: post #540

Of course it’s therapy. He should find a good non-rich CBT therapist (just for the sake of not falling prey of rich-man-wive’s leeches type) and start asking questions on why he’s not at ease with the success. Something sabotages it, and that something may be some a random (now obsolete) belief/mode he picked growing up. Uproot obsolete beliefs, these are drivers, not goals. This is absolutely manageable, especially…

> just for the sake of not falling prey of rich-man-wive’s leeches type pardon?

Some therapists work as a cry napkin without even trying to solve or detect any underlying problem.

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Post by iancmceachern »

I can't imagine a world where I wouldn't know what to do.

There is diarrhea on my building, trash in the street, people needing medical help in the alley, and potholes in the street.

Just walk out your front door and start doing things.

My recent triumph was getting a building owner on my street to finally repair the hole in front of their building. Imagine what I could do with a backhoe.

Start small, think big. Help people who deserve it in real, honest (typically not through the computer) ways.

I'd much rather be less wealthy in that way to be rich in this way.

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Post by xdfgh1112 »

madrox wrote: post #106

I don't think you have to have Fuck You Money to get to this point. Most people eventually become disillusioned with work enough that they reevaluate what matters to them. Getting a very profitable exit is just one way to trigger that experience. In my experience, a lot of people who get into this state start self-sabotaging hard as a way of rejecting what feels, ironically, like losing control. Sudden freedom can fe…

I did the same as OP. Quit my job then started distancing from everyone and removing responsibility in the pursuit of freedom to do what I want. But all I did was wallow and stay alone. Not sure what the answer is but your insights were very powerful to read.

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Post by elliotto »

The classic rich guy to Himalayas pipeline. He went to the poorest country in Asia and was dragged up island peak and lobuche east by people making $1000/yr while he has $60m in his pocket and can't come up with anything worthwhile to do with his time or money beyond aspiring to be Elon. He can't even spell rappel correctly. What a coward

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Post by raybb »

marhee wrote: post #667

I believe one of the founders of Booking.com has had some similar experience (source: "De Machine", the book about Booking.com) and after 4 years of travelings & yoga etc. he sneaked back in into the company. Most of his coworkers do not know he's a founder. He's been fixing Perl bugs, writing scripts and coding some features at least for some years (maybe he's moved on already, don't know, the book is a couple of ye…

Sounds like a great book. Did you happen to read it in English? Ask because my brief search for it shows at least one review saying it's a bad translation.

Link to more info for those interested:

https://openlibrary.org/books/OL57401616M/The_Machine

https://www.lebowskipublishers.nl/boek/2257/stijn-bronzwaer-...

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Post by potatoman22 »

xdfgh1112 wrote: post #673
madrox wrote: post #106

I don't think you have to have Fuck You Money to get to this point. Most people eventually become disillusioned with work enough that they reevaluate what matters to them. Getting a very profitable exit is just one way to trigger that experience. In my experience, a lot of people who get into this state start self-sabotaging hard as a way of rejecting what feels, ironically, like losing control. Sudden freedom can fe…

I did the same as OP. Quit my job then started distancing from everyone and removing responsibility in the pursuit of freedom to do what I want. But all I did was wallow and stay alone. Not sure what the answer is but your insights were very powerful to read.

I've found myself in a similar position. I'm trying to figure out how to not be self-destructive, but I feel the urge to distance myself from people.

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Post by nurple »

Lerc wrote: post #371

In 1997 Kurt Vonnegut did not write Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t. I'm not sure if Mary Schmich (who did write it) takes pride in her words being frequently credited to an esteemed writer, or if it rankles. Later Baz Luhrma…

Thanks for writing this. It reminds me of Steve Job's commencement speech at Stanford.

> Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

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