Should more of us be moving to live near friends?

Post by kyawzazaw » Sat, Dec 28, 2024, 2:19 AM UTC

teruakohatu wrote: post #58

extr wrote: post #46

I go back and forth on this. I still keep in touch with a bunch of high school and college friends. For better or worse those guys know "the real me" and the history and relationships are impossible to replace. They all still live close together but I live far away - I only see them once or twice a year, if that (less right now because we're all in the "very young kids" stage). I miss them. On the other hand, when I…

> I only see them once or twice a year, if that (less right now because we're all in the "very young kids" stage). I miss them. How often do you think you would see them if you lived in the same city? If you see them twice a year, for a few days straight, I think you are doing really well and I am sure they appreciate the effort you make. Can you cut the difference and go camping once a year or every second year for…

Post by pixelatedindex » Sat, Dec 28, 2024, 2:25 AM UTC

em-bee wrote: post #52

pixelatedindex wrote: post #13

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More like I need to be rich to move to where my friends are - I went to college in the Bay Area and I can’t afford to live there. But honestly it’s not hard to keep in touch these days if you want to so I’m not the least bit bothered. As a renter, I’m constantly on the move because I can’t afford homeownership - the price to rent ratio is firmly between 19 and 20 at the moment, and that’s after moving from the Bay Ar…

why does renting force you to move? how does owning a home allow you to stay if other considerations may force you to sell the house and buy another one? my mother lives in a rental apartment that my family has been in since 150 years ago.

Post by rgrieselhuber » Sat, Dec 28, 2024, 2:27 AM UTC

gazook89 wrote: post #39

wenc wrote: post #6

I would love to, but I come from a place where intellectual pursuits are not valued, so I would lose out on that front if I moved back. I’m the type who needs to always be learning. So I would always need to be in a big city. Alain Bertaud, the urbanist, recently said, “the big contribution of cities is randomness.” And he continues: “You don't know what to expect. You don't know who you will meet. And, it's precisel…

I think it’s likely folly to think that the big city is only place where intellectual pursuit and learning can happen. I often tell people that living in a rural area is much like living in the city, but living next to the city is like neither.

Post by enahs-sf » Sat, Dec 28, 2024, 2:30 AM UTC

almostvindiesel wrote: post #65

100% this. Started out with two families buying houses near each other in a family centric LA neighborhood (Eagle Rock). Then it expanded to 3 --> 4 --> 5 all within walking distance. We all have similar aged children. It's magic. We watch each others kids, do frequent backyard/park/sleepover playdates, and help w dropoff/pickup. It makes parenting SO MUCH EASIER. I often joke that I'm not a real parent bc we have so…

Post by kidneystereotyp » Sat, Dec 28, 2024, 2:33 AM UTC

WarOnPrivacy wrote: post #19

pixelatedindex wrote: post #13

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More like I need to be rich to move to where my friends are - I went to college in the Bay Area and I can’t afford to live there. But honestly it’s not hard to keep in touch these days if you want to so I’m not the least bit bothered. As a renter, I’m constantly on the move because I can’t afford homeownership - the price to rent ratio is firmly between 19 and 20 at the moment, and that’s after moving from the Bay Ar…

> More like I need to be rich to move to where my friends are Like most folks, we live where we can. Being able to pick a spot on a map has never been a possibility. It's been tighter than that tho. In 2021 we beat loooong odds to find any housing and insane odds to score a decent place that fit all of us. People with money in the bank were going homeless.