How to grow professional relationships

Post by tejaskumar_ » Wed, Dec 04, 2024, 2:36 PM UTC

jjice wrote: post #35

mkmk wrote: post #9

On the practical side of things, one important behavior that I see people frequently forget is the importance of following up. This is probably the biggest differentiator between relationships that languish in the early stages, versus those that progress along the author’s continuum. It’s always a bit strange when you only hear from people once every few years, just as they need an intro or career advice or whatever-…

Does anyone have any practical advice to keeping up with former remote coworkers? My last job was remote with some fantastic people, but as time has passed and the company hasn't done incredibly well, people have scattered (including myself) and I've found it tricky to keep in touch. I'll video chat with some of them once every few months online, but I only have contact with some of them this way. For others, it feel…

Post by tejaskumar_ » Wed, Dec 04, 2024, 2:37 PM UTC

anal_reactor wrote: post #37

blitzar wrote: post #15

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> bit strange when you only hear from people once every few years, just as they need an intro or career advice or whatever This might out me as a psycopath, however, cut to the f'ing chase. If it is a transactional conversation don't insult my intelligence by pretending that it isn't. Obvioulsy this can create a problem as I tend towards "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". If something is within my m…

> Obvioulsy this can create a problem as I tend towards "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". The fact that most people enjoy exactly the opposite of what I do was revolutionary to me, really explained a lot, and allowed me to navigate social interactions better. Having said this, I don't see the ROI on pleasing people I don't like. I try to gauge whether someone has the same vibe as I do, and if that'…

Post by tejaskumar_ » Wed, Dec 04, 2024, 2:38 PM UTC

mihaic wrote: post #40

fredtalty5 wrote: post #38

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This type of advice only works in the right environments, of which most countries or social groups don't seem to fall into. I do agree with most of it, but you really need to make sure you're the in right environments before putting in the effort.

Post by tejaskumar_ » Wed, Dec 04, 2024, 2:40 PM UTC

whiplash451 wrote: post #36

This is one of the most inspiring and useful read I have come across on this topic in several years. Thanks for sharing!

Post by tejaskumar_ » Wed, Dec 04, 2024, 2:40 PM UTC

whiplash451 wrote: post #42

ztlasg wrote: post #23

I've no idea what to take from this. Large parts sound like carefully planned entryism: Identify the gatekeepers, if they reject you, move on. The situation where the gatekeepers do let you in but their gatekeeping is not apparent until years later is not mentioned. Providing excellent work is not mentioned. Given the political state of software "development", the poster might be on to something, but it is hard to fi…

Hard disagree. I found the post inspiring and practical -- and have 15+ years of management in tech. Keep it up, Tejas!