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Ace of 9. Adulthood ADHD diagnosis. Came from a dirt poor abusive background. Declared gifted, but dropped out of school. Now an engineering manager / lead developer making over £250k a year. Rough lad done good. Could've done better.
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Are you in your top fitness condition? Most of the times, looking good means being in your top health condition, right body weight and % bodyfat below 13% (for men).
Yes. I’m facially ugly.
So I agree there is a strong link between such household behaviors and giftedness but it’s because genetic predisposition to anxiety issues, dopamine disregulation, chronic fatigue in a world that can’t identify it or manage it. So these people get sick and not only can’t get help but the whole world gaslights them. I don’t blame my parents for who they are. And as tough as it has been for me I wouldn’t trade it back for my IQ especially in an era where intelligence is at such a premium. I just try to get the message out in the hope that it helps others, hence posts like this.
Ace of 9. Adulthood ADHD diagnosis. Came from a dirt poor abusive background. Declared gifted, but dropped out of school. Now an engineering manager / lead developer making over £250k a year. Rough lad done good. Could've done better.
Highly gifted here (ACE 7), skipped two grades. Burnt out young before career really took off. Still did well enough to be comfortable - worked in research for a while. Spent decades trying to find answers from doctors who were all useless. Found out much later it’s ME/CFS from hEDS (TNXB) and it’s a lot more frequent that people realize, especially in cohorts selected for intelligence. When I was young I was warned…
What led to you finding out about TNXB?
This is the first time I've heard of an ACE score; I had to look up what it stood for: https://www.christineortollcharity.org/post/adverse-childhoo... I suspect I'm not the only one here in this boat.
In my mid 40s and have been having an increasing desiring for no particular reason to unpack some baggage. I think I’ve done ok in life generally, much better than the course my childhood put me on, but I think I’ve suppressed a lot of stuff and ultimately is starting to wear me down. Most notably, I just feel like a fraud a lot of times. My peers talk about how they did stuff in college and before (stuff normal people got to experience I didn’t, going on family vacations and being social in college) and I end up just laughing and making some jokes and stuff but never have similar stories to share.
I’ve completely disconnected with my family as a coping mechanism for example but now that I have a young kid asking about his family on my side it’s bringing up some weird emotions I hadn’t experienced or thought I had dealt with. Idk. Maybe therapy is in my near future so I’m glad this is being openly discussed here.
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Not the person you’re responding to, but I’m careful with what I share with people. I once had someone share something rather personal, followed up with a comment that they suspected I’ve had similar experiences. The reason? The language and phrases I use when referencing parents. Nothing negative per se, but the way in which I refer to them (example: my mother) and others. I was giving away more than I realized. Whi…
Yep. Supposedly you can match writing styles across accounts on the internet to identify someone.
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Should I have to click on a link to find out what an acronym cited in a post means?
It’s not unreasonable to expect, but also in this case the meaning of the acronym doesn’t really matter as much as the meaning of the score. The link does to a page that lets you do the quiz and see your score, so it’s worth clicking.
ACE of 8. Only child, single mother with psychiatric problems, absent dad with psychiatric problems, I was nearly killed by him at age 4, homeless twice before I was ten, no extended family to rely on at all. Mom died of Dementia at 65 when I was barely 30, and I took care of her starting when I was 25, giving up a great job in Boston. I'm a VP of IT in a healthcare company, my third healthcare gig with this particul…