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> not allowing any sort of expression of or reference to someone's … gender identity So the use of he/she is banned by those projects?
Not like that. A pull request that replaced "he" in documentation with "they" was closed with the comment "This project is not the place to advocate your personal politics".
I definitely do not think he was leading by example here. Making assumptions aabout why people do PRs and denying them based on those is a good way to create a toxic community.