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Most people with addiction simply grow out of it (2014)

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Re: Most people with addiction simply grow out of it (2014)

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I don't have a lot of personal experience dealing with addiction in either myself or others, but TFA lays out to me a pretty compelling claim that addiction is a developmental disorder. The current mainstream belief of addiction as disease has always seemed to me like it had a great number of holes; it's main purpose was to make people stop stigmatizing addicts for moral failing. The comparison to ADHD made in the ar…

I've heard the first-time heroin experience described as feeling like "being wrapped in a warm, wet blanket." What else feels like that? A lot of addiction is trying to get back to the comfort of the womb to escape from early childhood traumas and abuses. You get a taste of that with the use but never get close to it again after.

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Re: Most people with addiction simply grow out of it (2014)

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>> for some - most really - the real possibility of death and real consequences is what was necessary to pull out of it This is not true at all for some significant part of this demographic. And I feel compelled to mention that I am well-aware that this is totally counter-intuitive.

Consequences for my own inaction play an incredibly important motivational role for me. I don't get motivated by sunshine and rainbows, I personally get motivated by consequences. So it's great that we can provide people 6 doses of narcan and act like they're big strong adults who are down on their luck, but it's incredibly harmful to pretend that this is the only possible solution to motivating behavior.

> Not letting your kid touch the hot stove at all is as bad as letting them pull a pot of boiling water down on their head.

While kids are over-protected these days, I strongly disagree with this.

Re: Most people with addiction simply grow out of it (2014)

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Took me until my later 30s to fall out of love with pot. It just takes me away from a clearer state of mind. When I’m on it, a few hours pass numbly. When I’m away from it, suddenly stuff matters much more.

They don't call it Dope because it makes you smarter

Re: Most people with addiction simply grow out of it (2014)

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> never get close to it again after. The problem isn't whether they can get close to it again, the problem is that for some people, addiction is connected with using an external means of dissociation to obtain instant control over feelings without relating to them on their own terms. there are ways certainly to return to peace but it's a long and narrow road through your own self's karma. karma is not outside. it s a…

The creation of kamma ceases at the attainment of Nibbana. There is happiness (Sukkha) to be found on the path before then. I agree with you about drugs being used as a way to avoid processing complex trauma or difficult memories. The root of the Pāli word for mindfulness (Sati) is Smriti in Sanskrit which literally means "that which is remembered". If you can be mindful with your direct experience, which will includ…

That's not how Karma or nirvana works.

Unfortunately, Nirvana is a passing state - one can attempt to live in a state of Nirvana at all times but it would literally require serene peaceful monasteries with little to no contact with the outside world. If one participates in reality they will be affected by it and we are all human and cannot be perfect at all times - that wouldn't even be a quality life if we tried to be.

Which is what karma is - the sum of what we do, it doesn't stop accumulating, it's like data - you don't stop/can't stop generating it.

The comment regarding drugs being a shortcut to emotional control is fairly accurate. If I have had a bad I could meditate and calm my mind or I could take a hit off my weed vape and not do that. Obviously one of those is superior to the other

Re: Most people with addiction simply grow out of it (2014)

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Consequences for my own inaction play an incredibly important motivational role for me. I don't get motivated by sunshine and rainbows, I personally get motivated by consequences. So it's great that we can provide people 6 doses of narcan and act like they're big strong adults who are down on their luck, but it's incredibly harmful to pretend that this is the only possible solution to motivating behavior.

> Not letting your kid touch the hot stove at all is as bad as letting them pull a pot of boiling water down on their head. While kids are over-protected these days, I strongly disagree with this.

What alternative view do you propose concretely?

Over protective is the definition of ‘they never get a chance to get a non-serious burn’ isn’t it?

Re: Most people with addiction simply grow out of it (2014)

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no, it doesnt. not to be an asshole but i could stop reading carefully after your first sentence when you claim something exists you should also let people confirm it by what principle and what problems. but you didn't include anything but words. when you really define those words you will find issues. mindfulness isn't real and a mind can't be puried by your (lack of) means. it's a scam. nor is nirvana attained and…

"The Sanskrit word for mindfulness, smriti, means “remember.” Mindfulness is remembering to come back to the present moment." [0] "And what is the path of practice leading to the cessation of kamma? Just this noble eightfold path: right view, right resolve, right speech, right action, right livelihood, right effort, right mindfulness, right concentration. This is called the path of practice leading to the cessation o…

hate to break it to you, but that guy is basically a scammer

you should listen to the Buddha who that monk claims is his teacher. The Buddha was very clear that nobody except for himself actually sees things correctly. after all, everybody is already a Buddha, right? Well, one little problem with that is that that is not claimed anywhere by Buddha and quite the opposite actually.

of course, the reaction of people like that monk is to doubt the Buddha and attempt to deceive ordinary people by getting out of such a categorical contradiction. This is how you can know that he doesn't have good intentions or sufficient humility yet. The starting point of true learning is the realization that you're not aware of anything as it is. The only one who is aware of things is the one who is perfectly enlightened. That's the entire problem. it doesn't matter if you doubt it, because you will still be following the law laid out by Buddha, even if it means that he doesn't get the pleasure of your attendance to his lectures.

just because you don't understand what it means that only a Tathagata sees things and neither you nor the monk understand how it could be true, it doesn't mean that it isn't true and that you should go around denying it because your doubt somehow qualifies you, or claiming that such a denial is somehow the teaching of Buddha just because you want it to be, it means that you don't understand it yet and it means that you're not ready yet.

humanity tends to lionize the very same people that they had to murder or isolate just for loving them truly. it makes me feel very bad for the likes of those philosophers

meanwhile, your birthright is basically stolen from you by the trivialization of the reality of the abilities of an enlightened being to perceive the truth of everything, everywhere, on the spot. for example, calling the Dalai Lama a living Buddha and his letting people do so is nothing short of a theft from humanity and a grave sin. if i were to guess, he will probably not be able to reborn as a human. not sure.

The fact of the matter is, the eight fold path is not a path at all. It is a set of results that can be arrived at by some path, which is excluded. They are all results that only a person who has arrived at the result, can actually practice. This is just one example of one of the traps in Buddhism and you didn't even notice it. Neither had i until i met someone who wasn't asleep.

The same goes for the precepts. only someone with a very high level can even distinguish between true and false, in order to prevent themselves from telling a lie. How on earth can it be the path to the result?

and Buddha was not enlightened by meditation. That is a serious misunderstanding. it was when he came down from the mountain and allowed himself to calm down that he realized that he had already achieved perfect enlightenment a long time ago by his former practices.

The four noble truth, do not state that you can end suffering while you are alive. It states that you will suffer as long as you are alive. Suffering is part of being alive. it's only by your repression or by your being invaded by a dead soul, which doesn't experience those things that you can be convinced temporarily that your idea that you can finish your suffering was correct. The only way to do that is to end your rebirths forever. which buddha never recommended. in fact, if you do some more reading of Buddha's own words as recorded in certain of the most advanced texts, you'll see very repeatedly, and very clearly that Buddha admits that he made up the idea of Nirvana or no more rebirths for people who wouldn't have been able to admit that he's actually reborn continuously. he made it up and he confirms that he did as a skillful device. the entire idea of his death was a fabrication of his own. he didn't tell people this initially, because it was quite clear that they were not at the level of cultivation where they could even understand what it means. people are the blind with open eyes. And even if they once regain their eyesight through som method, it doesn't mean that they can then perceive everything, even though they suddenly think that they can. is this starting to form any sort of cohesive picture yet? You've been lied to.

Re: Most people with addiction simply grow out of it (2014)

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The creation of kamma ceases at the attainment of Nibbana. There is happiness (Sukkha) to be found on the path before then. I agree with you about drugs being used as a way to avoid processing complex trauma or difficult memories. The root of the Pāli word for mindfulness (Sati) is Smriti in Sanskrit which literally means "that which is remembered". If you can be mindful with your direct experience, which will includ…

That's not how Karma or nirvana works. Unfortunately, Nirvana is a passing state - one can attempt to live in a state of Nirvana at all times but it would literally require serene peaceful monasteries with little to no contact with the outside world. If one participates in reality they will be affected by it and we are all human and cannot be perfect at all times - that wouldn't even be a quality life if we tried to…

it is possible to stop making karma when you act according to knowing what is

It is also possible to burn down the karma you already have by the practice of true love and agony

it doesn't require abandoning your family and living away from society, but it can certainly be experienced while being in society and while having a family. The same goes for enlightenment. It is not something that you can achieve by abandoning your family, but is something that you can achieve while having a family.

here's a pretty decent article that defines karma. his other lectures explain in more detail some of the other things that I've mentioned. I hope that you have a chance to read it carefully, and that you can get something good from it. If you find yourself struggling with any doubts still, please try to ask me. I have understood things that can take some years and lots of effort.

people think it is reality which entangles them but it's actually the falsehood and karma of our societies and society members combined with our ignorance and we fall into the traps. But what happens if you fill up your ignorance? You experience actual peace. when you throw away your falsehood and enlighten yourself to the fundamental law of the world and the questions, then you can begin to recognize the traps in what you think and in what people say, and the ignorances that they still have, and you can clarify them for people on the spot as an act of love. You will have to observe what happens when you practice true love for people and eventually you'll understand why it burns down your karma to witness and leads you to perfect enlightenment. but it's quite clear from this, that you cannot achieve an enlightenment by leaving the very place where you must do the work. The virtue that you need will be accomplished by good deeds by serving the world in actuality.

https://tathagata.netlify.app/page/karma

Re: Most people with addiction simply grow out of it (2014)

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"The Sanskrit word for mindfulness, smriti, means “remember.” Mindfulness is remembering to come back to the present moment." [0] "And what is the path of practice leading to the cessation of kamma? Just this noble eightfold path: right view, right resolve, right speech, right action, right livelihood, right effort, right mindfulness, right concentration. This is called the path of practice leading to the cessation o…

hate to break it to you, but that guy is basically a scammer you should listen to the Buddha who that monk claims is his teacher. The Buddha was very clear that nobody except for himself actually sees things correctly. after all, everybody is already a Buddha, right? Well, one little problem with that is that that is not claimed anywhere by Buddha and quite the opposite actually. of course, the reaction of people lik…

Ok, the Buddha's teachings have been a little corrupted over the years but there is a lot you said that isn't how the Buddha presented things at all.

Plus you seem over focused on enlightenment. This is the best description of enlightenment:

A man was on a quest for an enlightenment and one day he came upon an old man carrying a huge sack of potatoes on his back, struggling under the weight. For whatever, the Man felt that the Old Man had the answers that he sought and he asked him, "Do you know what it means to be enlightened?" The Old Man looked at him and without saying a word he set down the sack of potatoes and stood up straight. The Man looked at him and said, " I understand, I get it - so what happens after?" The Old Man looked at him again and without saying anything he again picked up the sack of potatoes and slowly walked away.

That's enlightenment.

Re: Most people with addiction simply grow out of it (2014)

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post #107

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hate to break it to you, but that guy is basically a scammer you should listen to the Buddha who that monk claims is his teacher. The Buddha was very clear that nobody except for himself actually sees things correctly. after all, everybody is already a Buddha, right? Well, one little problem with that is that that is not claimed anywhere by Buddha and quite the opposite actually. of course, the reaction of people lik…

Ok, the Buddha's teachings have been a little corrupted over the years but there is a lot you said that isn't how the Buddha presented things at all. Plus you seem over focused on enlightenment. This is the best description of enlightenment: A man was on a quest for an enlightenment and one day he came upon an old man carrying a huge sack of potatoes on his back, struggling under the weight. For whatever, the Man fel…

> there is a lot you said that isn't how the Buddha presented things at all.

especially as you're making such a critically important claim about human life, would you please be more specific about anything that you claim I got wrong. I take this seriously so I would be very surprised to confirm that you're right.

> This is the best description of enlightenment

I don't want to discourage you from talking with me, but I didn't find anything particularly useful and contributive in the story koan.

The definition of enlightenment is to open one's eyes to reality. somebody who is actually enlightened, can tell you exactly how things are in reality and you can check them.

"before enlightenment, it's hard to see the truth. After enlightenment, it's hard to see falsehood"

If you're not enlightened, try to be careful how you speak about the truth because you might accidentally compromise your future happiness and peace.

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