Hi folks, close (maybe even best?) friend of the author here for about 10 years. I agree, he is insufferable.
Happy to answer any questions about Jason I can, including what it was like to live with him for a couple of years.
Advice to young people, the lies I tell myself
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#62Man yet another "tech guru" trying to start up his blind following by not actually saying anything worthwhile but wrapping it up as if it is. People really feed off their desperation on "influencers" like these. Kinda sad.
Agreed. Also, I lived with him for a year and he left his Soylent containers all over the apartment floor. It was maddening.
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#63This article has a section titled "how to get a job." The author then mentions straight away that he has never had to apply for a job in the traditional way. Following this, he questions his own success and implies that there may be factors other than merit that played a role. A few paragraphs down the author then laments people with imposter syndrome. Yup. I'm not sure how you can read this without being irritated.…
author here: i got rejected by almost every job i applied to conventionally.
Also, don't forget that recently you got an offer that came with basically a two-level demotion.
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#64The statement "You make your own luck" is both true and false.
From a Psychological and Behavioral Perspective, the concept of a self-fulfilling prophecy supports the idea.
From a Probabilistic Perspective, it's false as there are external factors you just can't influence.
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#65I liked it. Seems like the author has spent a lot of time in self reflection. In particular the section about the cost of being a champion resonated with me. When I was younger I wanted to be the best at everything I did, and there is a high cost to that. Now I more or less just want a job that I mostly enjoy, allows me to do the hobbies I love and spend time with the people I care about. On many days that feels more than enough.
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#66The statement "You make your own luck" is both true and false. From a Psychological and Behavioral Perspective, the concept of a self-fulfilling prophecy supports the idea. From a Probabilistic Perspective, it's false as there are external factors you just can't influence.
If author’s parents didn’t immigrate to Canada, it would have been an uphill battle.
So not sure “you make your own luck” is true in this case.
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#67Earlier quoted context omitted.
Agree. Have similar thoughts here. I totally understand where he comes from. Competitive upbringing and schools (U of Waterloo is of the top CS universities and it's grueling, look it up), faang and silicon valley experiences, I have met many people from the similar backgrounds. If you want to succeed in this environment, either you are 1. naturally talented to deal with all the pressure and competitiveness; 2. relen…
author here: >actively develop some kind of coping mechanisms to help you progress. i think this is why i titled it lies i tell myself. i gotta just believe i can choose to be happy.
Hey! Original commenter here. Loved your post. Like I said it's raw and unedited. Good luck!
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#68This is nonsense from a child in a bubble of privilege. His family connections got him jobs, and he has the hopeful optimism of a an upper-middle class child living in a gated community and going to private school. Of course he "found luck," it's easy to come by when you have wealth and resources backing you. He's just repeating a bunch of woo woo self help books, calling other people losers for being members of real…
Get the help you need.
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#69This article has a section titled "how to get a job." The author then mentions straight away that he has never had to apply for a job in the traditional way. Following this, he questions his own success and implies that there may be factors other than merit that played a role. A few paragraphs down the author then laments people with imposter syndrome. Yup. I'm not sure how you can read this without being irritated.…
Yeah, the guy and I have lived completely different lives. For starters, I've never gotten a job via referral, it's always been applying, busting my ass off during interviews and tests, and getting in...
I come from a poor first gen immigrant family and got all my jobs + conventional success from referrals. I don’t even think I’m that good at networking (introvert, feel very shy in groups of strangers), but I do have strong bias for action.
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#70Hi folks, close (maybe even best?) friend of the author here for about 10 years. I agree, he is insufferable. Happy to answer any questions about Jason I can, including what it was like to live with him for a couple of years.
Tell him HN can be full of self righteous "know-it-all"s so don't take the criticism to heart.
If you are only joking tell him welcome to our corner of the intenet, he'd fit right in with the self righteous and know-it-alls :)