How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?

Post by bitshiftfaced » Tue, Dec 26, 2023, 1:02 AM UTC

some_furry wrote: post #67

SCAQTony wrote: post #54

I thought this issue was settled in the late sixties and seventies. As "hot" as threesomes sound, the result of polyamorous consequences was once considered settled when the early '80s struck. i.e., Drug-resistant STDs and the emergence of HIV. Monogamy can turn into a boring gated garden whereas a threesome is a potential vector threat if not an emotional threat as well.

The risk of STDs in a closed poly relationship isn't any different than a closed monogamous relationship.

Post by more_corn » Tue, Dec 26, 2023, 1:05 AM UTC

jkmcf wrote: post #87

joegibbs wrote: post #16

Is it really that popular? I've never met a single polyamorous person in my entire life, they just seem very vocal on the internet.

I’ve met a few. They didn’t work out long term, but I don’t know if it was the polyamory at fault… Theoretically, it sounds great, but in practice it seems very hard unless your bond is better than most couples’.

Post by voidwtf » Tue, Dec 26, 2023, 1:07 AM UTC

lolinder wrote: post #23

fasthands9 wrote: post #8

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The data suggests it truly is more popular. The Gallup poll below shows that the percent of people who find it "acceptable" has tripled since 2000. The generational data, which admittedly would be more useful if it was over time, still shows younger generations are more into it. https://news.gallup.com/opinion/polling-matters/313112/under... https://sexualalpha.com/polyamory-statistics/ What data or info do you have…

Note that Gallup changed the question in 2011: before the question defined polygamy as "when one husband has more than one wife at the same time", after 2011 it was defined as "when a married person has more than one spouse at the same time". That may not account for the slope post-2011, but it's a significant enough difference that it's important to call it out. A lot of people who were opposed to polygamy when it w…

Post by giantg2 » Tue, Dec 26, 2023, 1:11 AM UTC

voidwtf wrote: post #93

giantg2 wrote: post #55

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I agree - it doesn't seem popular at all. I do know a couple of people who are poly. I am disappointed there were not better stats in the article. So about 50% say open marriages are acceptable, and about 20% say they've experimented with non-monogamy. But how many are actually in a poly relationship? How does that compare to the past? They list a lot of movie references to poly relations, but what does that have to…

I think it would have been more accurate to say that ethical non-monogamy (ENM) has become more popular. The only statistics I've seen seem to support that conclusion. I've not seen any statistics that seem to indicate polyamory specifically is dominating that trend though.

Post by rokkitmensch » Tue, Dec 26, 2023, 1:13 AM UTC

voidwtf wrote: post #91

matteoraso wrote: post #72

Polyamory will never become popular. I'm not going to judge anybody for what they do in the privacy of their own bedroom, but I will say that very few people are going to be okay with their partner having sex with other people, and you need at least 3 such people for a polyamorous relationship. Also, maintaining a normal relationship is hard, and the number of relationships between 2 members within a polyamorous rela…

You're operating under the incorrect assumption that a polyamorous relationship links all partners involved directly. I believe it's more common in polyamorous relationships that each individual in the relationship has their own partner(s). For instance A has partners B and C, but B and C are aware of each other but not interested in being partners. B and C may also have their own individual partner(s), and so on. I…