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Coasting is entirely realistic. There are still many jobs that require knowledge that has been releatively stable, that are not stressful. And it is perfectly fine to want them id you realise pay is going to be less than you could get in other positions. You are just being an asshole.
I said “in technology”.
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Maybe her primary motivator was taking care of her child? Not everyone wants to occupy more of their mind with work than is required, and society benefits from this in all kinds of ways.
This answer resonated with me because as the father of a 2.4 year old son, I've been forced to consider something like a downshift simply because these kids are incredibly difficult soul sucking energy vampires. Fortunately I work with a bunch of dads with older kids who completely understand this phase but are probably banking on my ability as soon as I can claw my way back from the stranglehold that this kid has on…
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This answer resonated with me because as the father of a 2.4 year old son, I've been forced to consider something like a downshift simply because these kids are incredibly difficult soul sucking energy vampires. Fortunately I work with a bunch of dads with older kids who completely understand this phase but are probably banking on my ability as soon as I can claw my way back from the stranglehold that this kid has on…
It is a challenging time, for sure. I am sad you described your child that way but I understand — and I hope things improve for you both.
This all despite loving the adorable nugget to death.
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What a helpful comment. Yes. How dare someone wish to maintain the work/life balance they have worked hard to attain. They must be lazy like your anecdotal associate. Just a counterpoint to consider: Start-ups are a dirty fraction of the private sector. They burn through people to achieve short-term goals and reach IPO or takeover. They offset this wear and tear with direct remuneration and options. Most private sect…
>> 20 years of experience with Oracle SQL. She's an expert in that, but not in other dev stuff I'm not so sure how much of an expert either. Everyone's parent is a hero to them so one has to take the statement they make with a grain of salt. Is she "an amazing DBA"? If so she probably has little problem finding another job. If she just knows SQL or worse only "Oracle SQL", meaning little experience with other types o…
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The difference would be irrelevant, based on OP’s description. She ought to be able to plug into literally any SQL dialect if she’s doing junior/mid-level analyst work.
I'm not sure that's correct. AFAIK, having deep Oracle knowledge is very valuable to the right employer, but not so much for non-Oracle shops. From my experience ~20 years ago, Oracle and SQL Server were very different beasts. IIRC, once you get past trivial querying and into storage design, query optimization, etc., they're very different beasts. And Oracle in particular is it's own, huge world at that level. (Again…