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I went back and re-read but I still can’t find where the poster said “judge my mom’s career.”
It's just sad because so many people accept this kind of mediocrity as the norm, when I absolutely believe it doesn't have to be. If you actually enjoy your job, the technology space, and your coworkers (all achievable in theory), then no matter how old you were, those other asks would be givens. And in addition, you'd be 100% likely to be more successful and have some pull when you need some emergency (or necessary)…
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#82Universities use a lot of OracleSQL (almost all of them), are generally very accepting of older workers and have a working environment that is friendly to aging workers. The salaries aren't excellent but the comfort is high.
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#83Universities use a lot of OracleSQL (almost all of them), are generally very accepting of older workers and have a working environment that is friendly to aging workers. The salaries aren't excellent but the comfort is high.
Universities do not need any more career retirees. That Is how higher education has become mostly noise.
Management OTOH often shove poor solutions down the pipe after meeting with vendors.
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#86Earlier quoted context omitted.
State and federal tend to use MS SQL, but I guess some federal agencies have the budget for oracle
The difference would be irrelevant, based on OP’s description. She ought to be able to plug into literally any SQL dialect if she’s doing junior/mid-level analyst work.
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The career path you're describing is exactly what she's trying to avoid. That's what "downshifting" means.
I am all for downshifting: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36306966 I never intended to make a life long career at BigTech and was never planning on staying at Amazon for more than four years. I was always planning on going back to smaller less stressful companies and I’m still in the process of decontenting my life. But “coasting” in the technology field is just not realistic. Eventually as she has seen, the gr…
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#88>> She wants to find a place to be comfy and write some SQL scripts, analysis, and data modeling here and there, where she will be both happy and useful. Pay is not a priority.
Sorry but your mom is about my age (nearly 50 that is). "At this stage in life" is reserved for 30 years from now, someone has to break this to her.
Sounds like the private sector is not for her and that's fine but probably should have considered her options earlier. A teacher position doesn't pay developer money but it's also not nearly as stressful and volatile and "get paged on Thanksgiving weekend to fix some random crap".
On the other hand some people are just not cutoff for the level of workload in the private sector (not just programming, try sales or stacking shelves at Target for a change) and are just professional complainers. Someone I know, in his late 20s was stating "it's too late for me to learn something else, I'm done. finished. terminated". Pursued by his mother (now 75+) he did start a teacher's career and is now 25+ years into it with a nice salary and benefits. Of course it's not enough and he constantly complaints of kids being the worst and teaching the absolute most stressful environment one could imagine. For the record he did try to switch to a sales career, lasted two months and came back penitent.
So while the usual supportive shoulder is the default for your mom's case, I'd recommend investigating if there isn't some similarity to the person I know.
Show her this: https://imgur.com/a/zzUoNWC
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#89I’m sorry as someone who is 50 years old and started programming as a hobbyist at 12 in assembly and professionally at 22, I have no sympathy or advice for anyone who is not willing to transition to newer tech and according to you is actively ignoring clear transition paths. My advice is for her not to be lazy and take advantage of the opportunity to transition to some newer tech. Context: I got my first and only job…
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#90Earlier quoted context omitted.
I am all for downshifting: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36306966 I never intended to make a life long career at BigTech and was never planning on staying at Amazon for more than four years. I was always planning on going back to smaller less stressful companies and I’m still in the process of decontenting my life. But “coasting” in the technology field is just not realistic. Eventually as she has seen, the gr…
Coasting is entirely realistic. There are still many jobs that require knowledge that has been releatively stable, that are not stressful. And it is perfectly fine to want them id you realise pay is going to be less than you could get in other positions. You are just being an asshole.