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Career Advice (2013)
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#52> But then, I register who is sitting in those seats. It’s usually almost all predominantly unhealthy looking middle-aged white men, who it is clear from a glance have spent literally hundreds of hours of their lives over the past year in these airplanes.
Mentioning people's skin color unnecessarily should also be "treyf", I think
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#53> They are the future you. Do not think that you will be substantially different
I don't remember exactly if it was this post or a similar advice somewhere else but this advice made me leave my job at BigTech back in 2015
In hindsight I lost a lot of money because of that :') because the company's stock 10x'd at it's peak.
Overall, I still think it's a reasonable advice. The behaviours in these companies are largely driven by incentives and for most people this results in a replicable behaviour (almost like a dog being given treats)
Though there will always be outliers.
But another thing that struck me as I was reading this was how, based on your state of mind at that point, a simple blog post can make you take significant life decisions.
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#54My advice: - If you don't come from money, and your personality desires security and safety, don't do risky stuff like wasting your 20's hitchhiking and being a ski bum. You should get skills and a career. I came from lower-middle class and have always had the nagging fear of being destitute. I am so much happier that I worked hard in my 20s (80 hours a week hard) so my 30s and 40s were more comfortable. - Your habit…
> If you start working out 3x a week, you will continue doing this and be physically fit. If you drink alcohol 3x a week, you will continue to do this and become wrinkled and grumpy.
What about working out 3x a week and drinking alcohol 3x a week? Potentially that could be a sweet spot for sociability and activity. Compared to doing neither 3x a week, what do you think would be better?
Both drinking and exercise mean different things to different people. Running a 10k 3x a week with a glass of wine after would be fine. Blacking out 3x a week off cheap vodka while riding the stationary bike would be a different story.
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#55Pretty good combined life+career advice I heard a long time ago and followed: If you're going to move countries, the best time to do it is right after college. Starting from scratch in an entirely new country, with no connections, no professional ability to speak the native language, and rapidly dwindling cash reserves, was one of the scariest and most thrilling things I've ever done in my life. I recommend it to no…
I moved countries soon after college with not even a job lined up. From Slovenia straight into SFBA because if you're gonna do something that hard, you might as well go all the way. To anyone asking if they should do the same, I say: Don't do it. Because if you have to ask, the answer is no. The ones who succeed don't ask for permission, they ask for tips about how to get it done. The mind is already made up. Same is…
How did you manage to get a work permit?
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#56No. What the experiment showed is that you can be TEMPORARILY coerced into certain behaviors in abusive environments (especially by authority figures - as was exemplified in the Milgram experiment), but it won't change who you actually are. The SPE is really a study in toxic workplaces and abusive relationships. I really wish people would stop quoting the SPE without researching what actually happened and why (and th…
If someone gets angry, lashes out, and the following day says sorry I wasn't acting like my self the other day.. Why would that be true? Why can't it just be that it was a part of you? I don't mean when it's said casually either.
Even without the experiment, it seems odd to me that behaviors and culture you engage with for generally half of your waking hours for several decades has nothing to do with your identity. This posts reads a bit like a Joshua Fluke reaction video.
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#57Sigh. Bringing up Zimbardo as being insightful about the human condition... I just... I gotta stop reading at that point.
But... that experiment did show things about the human condition- even if not the things it purported to show...
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#59Pretty good combined life+career advice I heard a long time ago and followed: If you're going to move countries, the best time to do it is right after college. Starting from scratch in an entirely new country, with no connections, no professional ability to speak the native language, and rapidly dwindling cash reserves, was one of the scariest and most thrilling things I've ever done in my life. I recommend it to no…
I did it myself, and right after college. It worked out OK, and I know now that making friends in your 20's is 10 times easier in your 30's, and in your 30's is ten times easier than in your 40's (though if you have kids in school that can help a little as you meet other kids' parents) But why not do it _in_ college?
It's pretty hard to move between countries when you're in college. The credit transfer situation is pretty tough.
People do it, though. That's why most of the foreign students at any given college beat the pants off of the locals. I speak from experience :D
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#60Pretty good combined life+career advice I heard a long time ago and followed: If you're going to move countries, the best time to do it is right after college. Starting from scratch in an entirely new country, with no connections, no professional ability to speak the native language, and rapidly dwindling cash reserves, was one of the scariest and most thrilling things I've ever done in my life. I recommend it to no…
I moved countries soon after college with not even a job lined up. From Slovenia straight into SFBA because if you're gonna do something that hard, you might as well go all the way. To anyone asking if they should do the same, I say: Don't do it. Because if you have to ask, the answer is no. The ones who succeed don't ask for permission, they ask for tips about how to get it done. The mind is already made up. Same is…
Exactly right. It's not even close to, say, becoming a US Marine, but they're both crazy enough moves that you can't just reason yourself into them. You have to be steeled.
Godspeed, and I hope Slovenia continues its upward trajectory as well.