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Re: Show HN: Shimmer – ADHD coaching for adults, now on web

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This. I got meds with 37. Did a degree in CS and was successfully self-employed for years until that. Everything worked out okay-ish, but meds are a game changer. It really felt like I was playing "life" on hard mode until then.

You were. I'll give you how much of a handicap it may have been. I was 50th percentile on the CAT in 2nd grade, unmedicated. I was 90th percentile on the CAT in 3rd grade, medicated. Figure out how much catch up and passing I did in 1 year... 1 year. I've gone on to have a nice successful career and life. But without meds and help... No way.

My IQ went from 104 to 125 with meds.

Not because I became smarter, but because I could concentrate for the time IQ tests take.

Re: Show HN: Shimmer – ADHD coaching for adults, now on web

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Hey maybe take it down a bit? It’s not absurd that they aren’t providing medical services. Right now it feels like you just want to shit on them as much as possible and your responses quickly shifted from “feedback” to “fuck you”.

Tone policing is not really the best move here, especially considering all the hubbub is specifically around a medical term that seems to have been inserted as a hook instead of as a meaningful signifier of the kinds of services the company purports to provide. If tone policing were appropriate anywhere it would be in the marketing lingo and copy of the company in question.

It’s not tone policing, it’s noise policing. Really, you got a thread with two unrelated people arguing exactly the opposite from one another.

Re: Show HN: Shimmer – ADHD coaching for adults, now on web

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I feel like I may have it, but I am so down in a hole I just want others to do the boring shit like cooking and cleaning and billing for me and I can just work & play. I have tried for years alredy. Is there a solution for that?

> I just want others to do the boring shit like cooking and cleaning and billing for me and I can just work & play. Congratulations, you are just like every other human on the planet. We really need to stop passing off regular human traits as medical disorders.

You cherry-picked and missed this bit:

>...I am so down in a hole...

which as another commenter said, sounds like depression.

Besides, medical diagnosis advances with time and better understanding, and some "regular human traits" turn out to be symptoms of problems we didn't previously understand. Yes, not everything is a disorder, but an argument that amounts to "in my day we just got on with it" isn't very helpful either.

Re: Show HN: Shimmer – ADHD coaching for adults, now on web

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I've observed some negativity in this discussion, and it appears that many comments might be based on assumptions about Shimmer. While some criticism centers on how the service is worded, I think looking at the bigger picture is essential.

How many of these commenters have founded a business that has faced the level of scrutiny they're applying here? Have they taken the time to speak with someone who has worked with a Shimmer coach about their experience? I ask these questions because I've actually done so, unlike many here.

Since my diagnosis last year, I've been with Shimmer, and my coach has been nothing short of amazing. While I can only speak for my experience, I urge others to think twice before criticizing a service that many active users, including myself, rely on and appreciate.

I've even written a blog post about my positive experience with Shimmer, which I'd happily share. Discovering Shimmer was a pivotal moment for me when I was tackling a significant challenge, and it helped me gain the momentum I needed to start my own business.

Was Shimmer the only factor? Certainly not! But would I have made such transformative changes in my life without it and my coach's guidance? That's unlikely.

I was at a loss for where to begin, and choosing Shimmer was the right decision for me. So, I urge everyone to be thoughtful and considerate before leaving critical comments. Give those who use the service a chance to share their perspectives. I've witnessed Shimmer's evolution over the past year and the hard work they've put in to make their service valuable.

Let's honour that effort by engaging in a respectful and balanced discussion.

Edit: forgot to include this -> https://satellitemtl.com/blog/adhd-coaching/

Re: Show HN: Shimmer – ADHD coaching for adults, now on web

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This. I got meds with 37. Did a degree in CS and was successfully self-employed for years until that. Everything worked out okay-ish, but meds are a game changer. It really felt like I was playing "life" on hard mode until then.

Can I ask which meds did you get?

Focalin

Re: Show HN: Shimmer – ADHD coaching for adults, now on web

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I have some powerful coping mechanisms. I can manage my ADHD on my own. But earlier this year, I finally got around to working with a doc who prescribed me meds. It's amazing how much extra mental energy I have now that I'm not expending so much of it on those coping mechanisms. It's great to learn how to get by without meds. That's important, and the meds aren't a magic wand that will miraculously make you happy and…

What kind of things does the meds help for, and what kind of meds? A good friend almost certainly has ADHD (I say that as someone on the spectrum) which impacts their daily life in a negative way, and I'm just curious if meds could help. Of course would need to get a diagnosis first but they haven't pursued that yet, and I'm wondering if this could serve as motivation.

I had the worst time with procrastination. I knew I needed to do a thing. I wanted to do the thing. I seemed pathologically incapable of actually doing the thing before it was in crisis mode.

Now I can see that a thing needs to be done next week, and hey, I don’t have anything else more pressing at the moment, so I’ll go ahead and start on it.

Unless you’ve experienced both sides of that, it’s hard to understand how people on the other side of it go through life. Me: “Am I the only person in the world who can’t just go what I’m supposed to do before it’s an emergency?” Everyone else: “He had 3 weeks to do this thing. How lazy must he be?”

Re: Show HN: Shimmer – ADHD coaching for adults, now on web

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

I have some powerful coping mechanisms. I can manage my ADHD on my own. But earlier this year, I finally got around to working with a doc who prescribed me meds. It's amazing how much extra mental energy I have now that I'm not expending so much of it on those coping mechanisms. It's great to learn how to get by without meds. That's important, and the meds aren't a magic wand that will miraculously make you happy and…

> It's amazing how much extra mental energy I have now that I'm on amphetamines You don't say.

Brilliant, kid. Do you have any other advice for the world, like “have you tried not being sad?”, or maybe “just have a normal thyroid, LOL”?

Re: Show HN: Shimmer – ADHD coaching for adults, now on web

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I see a hundred of these companies that apparently "specialize in ADHD". I see them all in the same light unfortunately of profiteering in various ways around the incompetent medical system the US has. Is this a better price than a licensed therapist? Yes Is this a more practical solution than what you might get? Yes But it just feels ethically wrong to promote your services to people who are "undiagnosed" or "think…

> Is this a better price than a licensed therapist? Yes Good luck finding a licensed therapist who has bookings or availability. In Seattle I have had almost 0 luck over multiple years, and I have talked to many other people who have had the exact same amount of luck. The very few therapists around here who do specialize in ADHD either specialize in children, or they are so booked up they don't even bother with a wai…

Yup, all we hear about constantly from politicians is that there’s a mental health crisis. Every time there’s a mass shooting, they blame mental health. Okay, fine, we all agree this is a problem, so why can’t I find a therapist? Why can’t my bipolar 1 ex wife find a psychiatrist? She’s batshit manic right now telling the cops I’m breaking into her apartment stealing antique doll dresses for crying out loud. How does she get help? She has to go to the ER and get hospitalized if she wants any attention, but those stays cost $30,000 typically in my experience. She’s had several.

Sorry about the rant…

So yeah, there’s a fucking mental health crisis and no one seems to want to do anything about it.

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