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Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing

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Post by maayank »

nvarsj wrote: post #265
r3trohack3r wrote: post #207

As a kid, I had extreme social anxiety. I had a hard time talking to people and making friends. I never felt like I “belonged.” As an adult, I still have crippling social anxiety. I can’t speak for everywhere, I’m pretty much only in the U.S., but I’ve noticed that most fellow adults I come across are chronically deprived of social interaction. My social anxiety doesn’t actually matter. Me being awkward, and weird, a…

I'm not usually one for drugs, but the thing that helped me get out of extreme social anxiety (I had selective mutism into my 20s), was anti-anxiety meds (off-label Modafinil). I didn't take it for long, but being able to be in a social situation without that feeling of dread and anxiety was actually mind blowing. It helped me recognize a state of mind where I didn't immediately go to massive anxiety. After that, wit…

Can you tell more about using modafinil for anti anxiety? I only heard about it in the context of wakefulness

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Post by ada1981 »

Curious if anyone has studied if intentionally saying hello will boost these things…

Otherwise it’s just, healthy and happy people are more likely to be happy and say hello!

It’s like “study finds rich people spend more money”

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Post by danielvaughn »

Until last year I lived in a small downtown area. Each morning I'd walk down one of the main streets, and would typically be greeted by up to 3 people. The owner of the corner store at the base of my building, my barber across the street, and then the married couple who ran the breakfast spot I frequented just up the block.

It's a small thing but it does wonders for having a sense of community. After covid, the breakfast spot shut down and my barber went to work at a different shop. The corner store is still around but I got priced out by migrating New Yorkers and had to move. I miss it a lot.

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Post by abhaynayar »

I have literally started tracking being social as a habit on an app for the last few months and it has been a godsend. Every day, if I do something social, I put a tick in my app.

At first it was just to get over my social fears, but now as I get more comfortable, I still keep doing it because I love the rush of talking to new people and seeing if we click.

And of course, the fear never completely goes away in all situations, but it turns into something exhilarating, like before an important test/interview even when you're well prepared.

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Post by rhyme-boss »

elwell wrote: post #272
danenania wrote: post #233

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Yeah, it's amazing how much difference this factor can make in quality of life, yet it's mostly left up to luck. When moving and choosing a place, you can try to get some idea of the vibe and whether it seems neighborly at all, but it's very hard to get more than a cursory sense. I'd take a modest house surrounded by friendly/awesome people compared to a much nicer house surrounded by rude/stuck-up people any day.

My new neighbors have a german shepard. As I write this at 2:50am, it has been barking since around 11pm. I've never heard a dog bark so consistently for so long. I'm blasting rain noise on my laptop but this is driving me crazy.

That blows, I bet that's loud as hell. I'd file a nuisance complaint with your city's 3-1-1 service to get the ball rolling. Some people just don't care enough to hire a professional to help them with dog behavior issues and it's just not acceptable.

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Post by rr808 »

darepublic wrote: post #77

I feel I have lost much of my ability to be a part of a community, due to the covid lockdown, full time work from home, and in general spending so much time on the internet.

Yeah I'm back in the office most days and I'm really enjoying it.

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Post by codersfocus »

NegativeK wrote: post #210
r3trohack3r wrote: post #207

As a kid, I had extreme social anxiety. I had a hard time talking to people and making friends. I never felt like I “belonged.” As an adult, I still have crippling social anxiety. I can’t speak for everywhere, I’m pretty much only in the U.S., but I’ve noticed that most fellow adults I come across are chronically deprived of social interaction. My social anxiety doesn’t actually matter. Me being awkward, and weird, a…

Rationally, I know what you've said to be the truth. In reality, I cut my own hair because it stresses me out to go to a Greatclips.

Just go to an ethnic barber that doesn’t speak English lol

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Post by dghughes »

titanomachy wrote: post #234
dghughes wrote: post #220

My neighbourhood which I've lived in all my life has changed drastically, dramatically, creepily. The original owners were part of a sort of Habitat for Humanity type organization only it was a local thing a co-op. This was 1972 nearly ten years before early 1980s super crazy inflation so even then it was hard to afford a home. Everyone on the street knew each other even one street over either way people knew everyon…

Don’t they at least walk their dogs?

Surprisingly no for many but a few do. Big huge dogs howling stuck in the house I can see them looking out of the windows nose pushing blinds aside. Small dogs too I can see or at least hear barking for hours while the owner is gone.
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