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Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing

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Post by BugsJustFindMe » Sat, Aug 19, 2023, 5:53 AM UTC

Tao3300 wrote: post #248

climb_stealth wrote: post #230

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What I learned is that it makes a huge difference to get a haircut from someone professional. Going to some cheap random mall hair place is a terrible experience. They don't care about their work, it's going to be awkward and it'll look terrible. I have been going to a fancy hair place in recent years. AUD $85 seems like a lot of money for a mens haircut, but it makes all the difference. It's a proper craft. No "what…

My hair is thick, curly, and I tend to let it grow long. I've found that, more often than not: - 90% of male barbers are butchers - clippers are for butchers - anyone who tries to cut your hair without washing it first is probably a butcher

I'm sorry you don't like your hair cuts, but clippers, like scissors, are just a tool.

IMO thick or curly hair is always best cut dry and washed after. The hair changes way too much when wet to get a realistic idea of what it will look like when done if you wash it first. If time and patience were infinite, sure, maybe, wash and treat curly hair first, but it has to then be fully dry and it has to dry slowly without blowdrying before cutting because it completely changes shape and size between wet and dry.

Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing

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Post by ChuckMcM » Sat, Aug 19, 2023, 6:14 AM UTC

Random anecdote, COVID re-enforced my neighborhood walking as a exercise I could do while avoiding enclosed spaces. During my walks I always greet the people I meet with a "Good morning", "Good Afternoon", Etc. I consistently got suspicion when I started doing this. People would either not respond or have some non-committal response. I would just smile and keep walking. Generally after the second, or at most third, time people would figure out that I wasn't wanting anything, just being neighborly. They would start responding back with smiles and similar greetings. After a year of walking around saying "Hi" to folks people would start going out of their way to respond and would often add simple exchanges about the weather or the news. The mailman, of all people, who I would wave to and say "Hi" to told me one day that ever since I started walking around and greeting people the neighborhood had become "more friendly and nice." I doubt it was just my doing but I do know people smile more and wave and certainly part of it is they aren't fearing death by disease any day now, and part is that they like it.

I appreciate that I know a lot more of my neighbors.

Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing

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Post by randycupertino » Sat, Aug 19, 2023, 6:16 AM UTC

ChuckMcM wrote: post #252

Random anecdote, COVID re-enforced my neighborhood walking as a exercise I could do while avoiding enclosed spaces. During my walks I always greet the people I meet with a "Good morning", "Good Afternoon", Etc. I consistently got suspicion when I started doing this. People would either not respond or have some non-committal response. I would just smile and keep walking. Generally after the second, or at most third, t…

Be the change. I started waving in the car any time I passed anyone on my street, just a quick "hi" wave over the dashboard while driving. Now all the cars on our block do it. It's cute :)

Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing

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Post by Obscurity4340 » Sat, Aug 19, 2023, 6:29 AM UTC

NegativeK wrote: post #210

r3trohack3r wrote: post #207

As a kid, I had extreme social anxiety. I had a hard time talking to people and making friends. I never felt like I “belonged.” As an adult, I still have crippling social anxiety. I can’t speak for everywhere, I’m pretty much only in the U.S., but I’ve noticed that most fellow adults I come across are chronically deprived of social interaction. My social anxiety doesn’t actually matter. Me being awkward, and weird, a…

Rationally, I know what you've said to be the truth. In reality, I cut my own hair because it stresses me out to go to a Greatclips.

It helps to get the same person too. It is unnerving having a different person each time cutting your hair, I'd rather have someone who's "done me before" than play with dice over it. A bad haircut is a nightmare

Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing

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Post by Terr_ » Sat, Aug 19, 2023, 6:29 AM UTC

climb_stealth wrote: post #232

climb_stealth wrote: post #230

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What I learned is that it makes a huge difference to get a haircut from someone professional. Going to some cheap random mall hair place is a terrible experience. They don't care about their work, it's going to be awkward and it'll look terrible. I have been going to a fancy hair place in recent years. AUD $85 seems like a lot of money for a mens haircut, but it makes all the difference. It's a proper craft. No "what…

Adding to this, I'd like to say that it's the difference between getting your code written by some outsourced underpaid and overworked junior and someone who has a decade of experience and clearly takes pride in their craftsmanship.

But Tonsorial Debt grows on its own even when the use-cases have been static for years. :P

Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing

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Post by Melting_Harps » Sat, Aug 19, 2023, 6:46 AM UTC

jay_kyburz wrote: post #227

malikNF wrote: post #223

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I used to have trouble going to get my hair cut after a barber clipped my ear with a blade. Whenever I go to a new city what I do is, I read up a ton of reviews from multiple sources and find a few barbers I think ill like. Then I go for a quick trim to understand how comfortable I feel around them (this is the hardest part, I usually explain to them about my anxiety before I make a booking except for one instance ev…

I went for a haircut in the US once and I didn't know you were supposed to tip. I still remember the offended look on the barbers face when I held out my hand for my change. That was 20 years ago. Now days I don't care as much and just do my own with the clippers and save myself $40. Can you believe a hair cut at the barber costs $40 now here in Australia. You know you are getting old when everything seems shockingly…

> You know you are getting old when everything seems shockingly expensive.

Or conversely you have vivid memories of how quickly the AUD, or USD or any fiat currency really has been so immensely rapidly inflated in the last 20 years; hell just in the last 3 years its been from tolerable to eye watering to get a haircut. I like my barber, she is the head stylist-owner and I don't mind paying nearly $50 (with tip), but that is also because she does such a good job and we talk shop and what good restaurants still exist. It's also that I can trim it on my own for a month later to keep my sculpted hair style in a customer facing role for that cost.

I used to get a haircut twice a month when I was in HS, and they were $10, because it gave me a place where I could hang out on the weekend and chat for a few hours. I also realized I had developed a taste for aged and smoked whisky at 15 despite hating the smell of cigarettes in that place.

I have several size clippers with all the accessories and while I played around with the idea of doing my own hair, as I had during COVID, the truth is I'd rather pay a pro for something that I don't have to much to look good. Mine always were passable from about 7 feet away kind of things because I can't properly fade, mine always look like I'm 3 weeks from my last haircut as a result.

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Post by agumonkey » Sat, Aug 19, 2023, 6:51 AM UTC

r3trohack3r wrote: post #207

As a kid, I had extreme social anxiety. I had a hard time talking to people and making friends. I never felt like I “belonged.” As an adult, I still have crippling social anxiety. I can’t speak for everywhere, I’m pretty much only in the U.S., but I’ve noticed that most fellow adults I come across are chronically deprived of social interaction. My social anxiety doesn’t actually matter. Me being awkward, and weird, a…

- "modern" also ~optimize for social fluidity, you can do everything alone, in your flat, no need to be bothered by others right ? until you end up sad and addicted to fill the void (capitalism/consumerism makes money on this.. people need money so it's a downlevelling cycle)

- long ago, when i was crippled socially, i ended up at a birthday party, i didn't speak 95% of the time, drank some whiskey to pass the time. the next morning i was happier and healthier than i've been for a long time. somehow being surrounded, seeing others, even afar, satisfies something in your brain

people are weird, i am weird, it's .. weird we don't connect that much, or maybe our lifestyles cut us from a natural emerging habit of being together and we forgot how to bootstrap it back

Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing

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Post by rightbyte » Sat, Aug 19, 2023, 6:55 AM UTC

Tao3300 wrote: post #248

climb_stealth wrote: post #230

Earlier quoted context omitted.

What I learned is that it makes a huge difference to get a haircut from someone professional. Going to some cheap random mall hair place is a terrible experience. They don't care about their work, it's going to be awkward and it'll look terrible. I have been going to a fancy hair place in recent years. AUD $85 seems like a lot of money for a mens haircut, but it makes all the difference. It's a proper craft. No "what…

My hair is thick, curly, and I tend to let it grow long. I've found that, more often than not: - 90% of male barbers are butchers - clippers are for butchers - anyone who tries to cut your hair without washing it first is probably a butcher

You ... can tell them what style you want? I even think long hair cuts are easier to do as they won't look asymmetrical as easily.

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Post by te_chris » Sat, Aug 19, 2023, 7:02 AM UTC

chevman wrote: post #206

We live in a mid sized city in the midwest, typical city block with single family homes. Folks keep to themselves a bit - not everyone, but enough that you have to make an effort to connect with neighbors. My son and I had the idea that we should just organize a block party. I think this was in early 2021 after covid was letting up a bit. He was 7 years old and said we should get a food truck to come. So that's what…

I live on a block that’s somewhat bookended by a railway line in London. People organise similar things and it’s so lovely. Even organised a group of people to go and sing happy birthday on one of our neighbour’s doorsteps (they’re > 100).

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Post by snerc » Sat, Aug 19, 2023, 7:08 AM UTC

The difference between greeting six neighbors vs zero is only 12.6 wellness units. I'd prefer to simulate the outside world at the cost of a moderate amount of wellness. I'll make up for the difference by eating a smoothie for breakfast 3 days out of the week for the rest of my life instead of 2 salad bowlfulls of Chocolate Frosted Sugar Bombs.