how disfunctional society are you living in if you need calculate the gain and loss for doing what a decent human being would do in a neighbourhood?
Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
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Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#232Earlier quoted context omitted.
Rationally, I know what you've said to be the truth. In reality, I cut my own hair because it stresses me out to go to a Greatclips.
What I learned is that it makes a huge difference to get a haircut from someone professional. Going to some cheap random mall hair place is a terrible experience. They don't care about their work, it's going to be awkward and it'll look terrible. I have been going to a fancy hair place in recent years. AUD $85 seems like a lot of money for a mens haircut, but it makes all the difference. It's a proper craft. No "what…
Adding to this, I'd like to say that it's the difference between getting your code written by some outsourced underpaid and overworked junior and someone who has a decade of experience and clearly takes pride in their craftsmanship.
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#233Just to toss this out there: the reverse is also true. We get along well with all of our neighbors except one. We say "hi" and invite each other over regularly. That one bad neighbor is a real problem, and a huge source of stress and unhappiness.
In the past year three close neighbors who I was friendly with moved out and the couples that moved in have been so rude and shitty. It's been such a massive quality of life decline, and just feels like terrible luck.
Yeah, it's amazing how much difference this factor can make in quality of life, yet it's mostly left up to luck.
When moving and choosing a place, you can try to get some idea of the vibe and whether it seems neighborly at all, but it's very hard to get more than a cursory sense. I'd take a modest house surrounded by friendly/awesome people compared to a much nicer house surrounded by rude/stuck-up people any day.
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#234My neighbourhood which I've lived in all my life has changed drastically, dramatically, creepily. The original owners were part of a sort of Habitat for Humanity type organization only it was a local thing a co-op. This was 1972 nearly ten years before early 1980s super crazy inflation so even then it was hard to afford a home. Everyone on the street knew each other even one street over either way people knew everyon…
Don’t they at least walk their dogs?
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#235Earlier quoted context omitted.
Rationally, I know what you've said to be the truth. In reality, I cut my own hair because it stresses me out to go to a Greatclips.
What I learned is that it makes a huge difference to get a haircut from someone professional. Going to some cheap random mall hair place is a terrible experience. They don't care about their work, it's going to be awkward and it'll look terrible. I have been going to a fancy hair place in recent years. AUD $85 seems like a lot of money for a mens haircut, but it makes all the difference. It's a proper craft. No "what…
Nah, you can definitely find great people that love their jobs even at places like that.
I used to cut at a Supercuts in PHL (the Rodin place one for those in the know) and there was this great lady there that was both very skillful and incredibly nice, we always had great conversations.
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#236I lived in downtown Seattle (Belltown) for a couple of decades (currently living about 10 minutes away walking time). I can not even contemplate not well-knowing less than 50 of my neighbors. Possibly I suspect that was really great for my outlook - now I start getting slightly depressed barely knowing about 6-12 neighbors and have to walk over to Belltown to get a mental lift.
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#237Earlier quoted context omitted.
What I learned is that it makes a huge difference to get a haircut from someone professional. Going to some cheap random mall hair place is a terrible experience. They don't care about their work, it's going to be awkward and it'll look terrible. I have been going to a fancy hair place in recent years. AUD $85 seems like a lot of money for a mens haircut, but it makes all the difference. It's a proper craft. No "what…
Nah, you can definitely find great people that love their jobs even at places like that. I used to cut at a Supercuts in PHL (the Rodin place one for those in the know) and there was this great lady there that was both very skillful and incredibly nice, we always had great conversations.
Agreed, I don't doubt that. But starting from a place of anxiety I'd say it is much more likely to come away with a bad experience from there. At least that has been my experience.
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#238In our last house we knew 90% of the people on our street and regularly interacted with them. We have been in our new house for just over 2 years and only know our neighbors on one side of our house. The neighbor in the other house moved in just a week after we did. In those 2 years we have seen him only once, they day he moved in when he pulled up in his car, got out (without looking our way), opened the garage door…
Did you move into an affluent & predominantly white neighborhood? I will probably get shit for this, but this has been the norm in those from my experience. After I got into tech I lived in a couple of them for five years then just gave up and moved back to the underdeveloped part of the city I grew up in, where people are willing to acknowledge each other.
I live in a predominantly white extremely rich neighborhood in Portland. We even have a private club that costs thousands to belong to ( one of these fancy social clubs... We do not belong to it).
Anyway... No this is not the norm. My neighborhood is extremely social and has constant get togethers.
I agree with the comments on 'half fluence'. I have some friends who've moved in to newer developments. Those neighborhoods are much less social. Ours is more established.
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#239Earlier quoted context omitted.
Not the person you responded to, but I'll bite. I live in an affluent nearly all-white suburban neighborhood. I know everyone within two houses in any direction, and a few that are even farther than that. We have one recluse and one Karen, but everyone else is super laid back. It's delightful. I've lived in a range of neighborhoods over my life, and I haven't really seen a pattern. My gut instinct is that attitude is…
No shade but I'd like to hear from one of the non-white neighbors about how delightful it is? I do generally assume the white people living in all-white places are having a good time with it.
I'm a brown man living in an extremely wealthy, extremely white pocket of Portland Oregon (whitest city in the country) in my mixed race marriage
No one cares.
Racism exists but most white social activists way overemphasize the role it plays in my life.
White people, like all races, are extremely friendly. All Americans are really.
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
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The global pandemic may be affecting their behavior.
My street was full of older folks that we got to know over the years. Some moved to assisted living, some are getting there, and some passed away from unexpected diagnoses. We have new Gen Z neighbours for the last two years who seem to exist in their bubble, shutting out the immediate world and interacting only with their social circle. Barely an acknowledgement even if we’re out in the yard, shovelling snow or cutt…
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