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A complete guide to getting what you want (2018)

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Re: A complete guide to getting what you want (2018)

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This is a long post – 2200 words Alternative: Watch Netlfix series "Arnold"

Could you elaborate a bit more on that?

I thought the article was long-winded and banal - offering advice which either seemed obvious or more succinctly available elsewhere often in the form of aphorisms.

In contrast, the series, Arnold, about how Arnold Schwarzenegger set and achieved his goals as a bodybuilder, actor and politician was well done, fascinating and inspiring.

Re: A complete guide to getting what you want (2018)

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> Quite often a reasonable, achievable, and worthwhile desire goes unpursued because we have a simultaneous desire to not pursue it. When we say something is “impossible” or “too hard” or “not in the cards,” that’s a clue. This resonates. Many who are stuck frustrated not getting what they want have talked themselves out of trying to get it to begin with. A good another clue is 3rd party attribution. "My life is bad…

It’s a self-truthing statement. As in, everyone who doesn’t agree with you is also excluded from your criteria. So from your point of view, you are absolutely right. It goes like this: - Papa deer: “Remember son, you have the power to make objects move by thought. If you see a car rolling towards you, STARE at it straight in the headlights and concentrate and move it with your mind.” - Son deer: “Isn’t that how grand…

> Some people, no matter how they work to build a startup, are blocked from success by external factors, on which they can do nothing.

What are the factors specifically? How are you defining success? My definition is "You built a profitable business" and there are so many small businesses doing this across the world, I can't really think of external factors that are true deal breakers except perhaps very bad health, it's hard to start a business when you're bedridden. Millions of people are starting businesses all the time in incredibly limited situations like a street food cart in a slum in India and succeeding.

Re: A complete guide to getting what you want (2018)

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> Quite often a reasonable, achievable, and worthwhile desire goes unpursued because we have a simultaneous desire to not pursue it. When we say something is “impossible” or “too hard” or “not in the cards,” that’s a clue. This resonates. Many who are stuck frustrated not getting what they want have talked themselves out of trying to get it to begin with. A good another clue is 3rd party attribution. "My life is bad…

It’s a self-truthing statement. As in, everyone who doesn’t agree with you is also excluded from your criteria. So from your point of view, you are absolutely right. It goes like this: - Papa deer: “Remember son, you have the power to make objects move by thought. If you see a car rolling towards you, STARE at it straight in the headlights and concentrate and move it with your mind.” - Son deer: “Isn’t that how grand…

While anyone might not be able to hit the big time, most skills are learnable / improvable.

Re: A complete guide to getting what you want (2018)

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Interesting article, and a good one.

It should be expanded to include the capability to discern between:

* Wants, needs, must have(s): too often people seek wants and disregard needs.

* Emotionally-driven wants vs rationally-driven wants: today's world hacks people's mind to make only emotionally-driven decisions, to their own detriment.

Re: A complete guide to getting what you want (2018)

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> Quite often a reasonable, achievable, and worthwhile desire goes unpursued because we have a simultaneous desire to not pursue it. When we say something is “impossible” or “too hard” or “not in the cards,” that’s a clue. This resonates. Many who are stuck frustrated not getting what they want have talked themselves out of trying to get it to begin with. A good another clue is 3rd party attribution. "My life is bad…

Don’t forget people overvaluing talent as one of the main excuses while minimizing what they can control.

Always bet on grit. It's a learnable skill and you never lose it.

Re: A complete guide to getting what you want (2018)

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This is a long post – 2200 words Alternative: Watch Netlfix series "Arnold"

> Arnold Schwarzenegger stepped down after seven years as California's governor on Monday, leaving the state struggling with a fiscal crisis that has pushed it to the brink of bankruptcy.

https://www.france24.com/en/20110104-schwarzenegger-steps-do...

Re: A complete guide to getting what you want (2018)

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

It’s a self-truthing statement. As in, everyone who doesn’t agree with you is also excluded from your criteria. So from your point of view, you are absolutely right. It goes like this: - Papa deer: “Remember son, you have the power to make objects move by thought. If you see a car rolling towards you, STARE at it straight in the headlights and concentrate and move it with your mind.” - Son deer: “Isn’t that how grand…

> Some people, no matter how they work to build a startup, are blocked from success by external factors, on which they can do nothing. What are the factors specifically? How are you defining success? My definition is "You built a profitable business" and there are so many small businesses doing this across the world, I can't really think of external factors that are true deal breakers except perhaps very bad health,…

Not who you responded to, but I have a disability (Multiple Sclerosis) that pretty much precludes me from building a successful business. Starting a successful, profitable business usually requires both working around the clock at first in order to establish it and the ability to forego health insurance/healthcare for a period of time. If I'm lucky I have 10 functioning hours a day and I need to make money to not starve so 8 is taken up with a full time job (luckily I walk 5 minutes to work so no commute). I also still need to shower, eat, and exercise to keep my physical condition from deteriorating. On bad days I'm sneaking in naps at work because I have less than 8 hours of good functioning. Weekends are usually spent recovering (sleep/migraine).

Basically anything that eats up your time. Disability is just an example problem that nobody can blame on us.

Edit: It doesn't need to be severe, which is why I mention it. I'm actually better off than 95% of MS patients.

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