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To speak frankly, what are women doing with all this supposed surplus of education? I don't exactly see turning tides in terms of women beginning to dominate markets or leadership positions because they're starting businesses and startups and taking over boards and middle management positions. Anecdotally, I've seen these single women, they're all waiting until they're past their 20s to find a partner and they expect…
Towards the end, the article posits that the reason men fail to attain higher levels of education is video games. I would be curious to see how the effect of video games stacks up against the effect of the significant support industry established for helping girls succeed in STEM while comparable support for boys is nonexistent.
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If she wants kids and she is ~35 then one bad shot means missing out on kids.
The poster above specifies <20, so I'm talking about <20 year old women.
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The poster above specifies <20, so I'm talking about <20 year old women.
You said "I don't believe women past their 20s are "too late in life" to be seeking a partner." . That means 30s. It's not too late, but certain risks are much higher.
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> conversation ends due to their inflammatory pronouncements. Where are you? In the US, most of us still have these conversations about gender, relationships, and life dynamics all the time. (If anything, this is arguably 70%+ of everything we talk about, among friends and acquaintances in the community). > although despite assurances of maturity and openness conversation ends due to their inflammatory pronouncements…
What’s the average age of people in your social group? I’m guessing over 35. It’s a very different story if you try talking to people in their 20’s or younger.
> It’s a very different story if you try talking to people in their 20’s or younger.
Is it? We're old enough that half of us have kids, and some of us have teenaged kids (13-19yrs old), and they also have friends and such. It doesn't seem that different to me. (They're less willing to tolerate arbitrary BS, but otherwise, don't seem wildly different than we were at those ages)
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No one is. It doesn't make you unique or more true to yourself by waiting later in life. You'll get married and _still change._ My point is that people are deluding themselves into this idea that you need to be a finished person before finding a partner. You will grow together and effect one another. And if you're a committed partner, you'll build each other up. If you think hard times are a limit for you personally…
I think definitions of "a finished person" are being mismatched here. in my experience most people just want a partner that is a functional adult. Knows how to eat properly. Understands taxes. Can speak intelligently about cost of living topics like budgeting groceries and entertainment. Can drink moderately on a weeknight knowing they have to go to work the next day. Edited to add: In my experience, if you don't dat…
Your requirements per a "functional adult" are an example of people asking for too much because they have no practical understanding of reality:
Americans don't eat properly. The average American is overweight.[1]
Americans don't know anything about taxes.[2]
Americans don't understand cost of living. Barely anyone knows what the CPI-W is or how it differs from the CPI-U.
[1]: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/body-measurements.htm
[2]: https://www.nerdwallet.com/article/taxes/americans-dont-know...
I mean the research is nice, but I don't think that just a degree is going to up your chances. As someone who is using these apps constantly, I don't have any hope of finding a long term partner on there. I am on pretty much every app, except Tinder (Bumble, Hinge, okcupid, pof and even muzmatch (im south asian)). I have a bachelors, and I make good money. I've been told that I am a decent looking guy and I have quit…
I changed my focus to meeting people IRL and my dating life is better than ever!
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Ding ding ding…. It’s not about education… or income, it’s about STATUS.
Maybe? I know a lot of highly educated, successful women who wouldn't date Kevin Durant, for example. The idea of a rich man child trolling on burner accounts regardless of their high profile doesn't exactly drive them crazy. Replace Kevin Durant with Elon Musk if you're not a sports fan.
1.) I sometimes talk with young woman about this topic. A few mentioned who are ambitious and do wish having kids start to think about getting a house man as a father. Also when I mentioned this studies some women complain that man prefer women with lower earnings... We know that prestige, earning much etc. is a big thing in US. These observations should be checked and I think, only one mentioned study did it.
2.) The explanation with video games is very narrow. We know, that school teachers in high developed countries tend to prefer girls.
3.) Well I see myself as counter example. Though high educated I do have a lack of money as a long term CS student (well, a thing in Germany :D ) Though I have "manly" hobbies (sailing, techno clubbing, networking in mainly manly enviroments) it is not I have lack of interested women. Maybe, because I dont live in America.
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> conversation ends due to their inflammatory pronouncements. Where are you? In the US, most of us still have these conversations about gender, relationships, and life dynamics all the time. (If anything, this is arguably 70%+ of everything we talk about, among friends and acquaintances in the community). > although despite assurances of maturity and openness conversation ends due to their inflammatory pronouncements…
I think 70%+ might not be the right proportion for all or most people in the US. It's hard for me to estimate, but irl conversations I've had mostly skew towards media, computers, and gossip. Gender dynamics is in there for sure, but I don't think it's what most people I've met want to talk about most of the time. It's kind of a depressing subject.
Same, but like, how do you talk about any of that stuff, without also touching on "gender, relationships, and life dynamics".
Like, I have no idea how a group of friends would talk about, say "that cool new Spider-Man movie" without also talking about gender / race / life dynamics / etc. Those topics are so fundamental, they're a part of almost everything.