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Re: Ask HN: Where have you found community outside of work?

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Post by mcook08 »

uoaei wrote: post #161
mcook08 wrote: post #153

F3 https://f3nation.com I was feeling very lonely working remote. We moved to a Memphis TN to be closer to family and I was struggling with feeling like an outsider. I grew up playing sports and tried CrossFit but hated paying so much for a gym. F3 workouts are free and I thought I was going for the fitness aspect, but the fellowship is what really stuck. Guys hung out after workouts and it was great to meet so many…

I've heard these quickly become alt-right incubation machines. The "fellowship" becomes "brotherhood" and then you got a cult-militia going pretty easy after that.

There's no ignoring how the pictures can look externally. For example, I never imagined myself wearing a rucksack for fitness. In my experience though, the community is filled with men from all walks of life, political views, etc. I suppose like any group, its local membership is what most defines your experience. I've personally met lots of guys that I would have never met at church, work, etc because I worked out with them at F3.

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Post by senthil_rajasek »

RajT88 wrote: post #44
senthil_rajasek wrote: post #8

I played tennis in a rec league a long time ago. It was not community but a substitute for light social interaction. I guess similar things exist for Golf and pickleball. I grew up in India and now live in the U.S. Socializing or being a part of a community is surprisingly very very hard.

I know some Indians and Pakistani who play pickleball. I know rather more Indians who play cricket. I think you have to have critical mass to get a cricket team going though... Not everywhere has enough interest.

Socializing with "in groups" like Indians getting to know Indians is not what I was referring to in my original comment.

I was talking about socializing outside of "in groups" which is what I found challenging.

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Post by ghostpepper »

donnfelker wrote: post #160

A fitness community. This could be either a BJJ (Brazilian Jiu Jitsu) place or even a CrossFit gym. I've done both and while I'm not here to promote CrossFit, I am here to say that a group fitness class is awesome for meeting other people and finding a community of people that do something similar as you, but have absolutely nothing to do with your work. I workout with Police officers, Lawyers, Doctors, Dentists, Sta…

I've had the same experience with the BJJ community. Very positive and welcoming, and an incredible sport for training the mind as well as the body.

Some people get turned off by the behavior of certain fans of UFC but in my experience the groups of people who are starting fights in pubs and people who are actually showing up to intense physical training on a regular basis are mutually exclusive.

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Post by bombcar »

silisili wrote: post #88

My neighborhood. When we moved in we sat out front every evening, and made small talk with every single person who walked by. Some were caught off guard, some kinda just waved and moved on, but most stopped to talk. What's interesting is that people who had lived in that neighborhood nearly 20 years together had never talked, and met for the first time as both stopped to chat at nearly the same time. Then we started…

It's sad that modern American yards are so unfriendly to sitting in your front yard, but that can be easily fixed, even within the boundaries of over-zealous HOAs or towns.

Just make a cute little "gate" (it doesn't even need the gate) with flowers at the end of the walkway near the sidewalk, and add in a table and some chairs (or move them out when you go to sit).

Being at the sidewalk vs being 20-40 feet away on a porch makes a huge difference.

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Post by _yb2s »

sgt wrote: post #56
NickC25 wrote: post #53

I live in a very transient city with very little tech industry, which also happens to be a city where half the population leaves every April/May through October/November. Community has been hard, especially meeting new folks. There have been a few community tech events that have come and gone, and I've been lucky enough to meet a few friends through that. I joined a gym 4 years ago, and a lot of my friends now I've m…

I can't imagine anything worse than going to the gym. What do you do there? Walk on a treadmill like a mouse in a laboratory? Also, you come back starving because you've burned calories, probably eating way more than you should due to being famished. And it's also extremely boring. I've tried it once or twice, but I just can't handle it. Genuinely interested in how some people manage to consistently keep going to the…

I used to feel exactly like you, until I started for health reasons, and found I couldn’t have been more wrong.

Weight training is the most cognitively demanding thing I’ve ever done, not at all mindless or boring. Using proper form and technique is essentially a martial art, and takes tremendous skill and focus, and can advance in skill limitlessly. As a competitive strongman, I’m also always pushing my skills by lifting and carrying new objects that require different skills and techniques. Some “feats of strength” have taken years of training and strategizing to accomplish. Walking on a treadmill is still boring to me and I avoid it. For the gym to be fun and engaging it needs to be both cognitively and physically demanding, yet possible to accomplish.

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Post by JeanV-pip »

doctorh wrote: post #110

My local Catholic parish. Besides the obvious spiritual benefits, it's a great place to connect with other families. Also, me and my wife have young children at home that act as a pretty constant source of community.

Same here! Catholic youth group, Emaus group, and i also help the people of St. Vincent de Paul ministry. I don’t have a lot lot of time so I’m not very consistent, but i sure go to at least one of them every week. Highly recommended.
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