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Re: Forget Self-Improvement

#31
I should think of "them" and what they want to hear?

The country thing... not funny.

What's Your proudest US National park? I vote Yellowstone. It has bears, God.

God says... C:\LoseThos\www.losethos.com\text\WALDEN.TXT

ugh the aisles of the wood, with occasional vistas through which you see the water. My Muse may be excused if she is silent henceforth. How can you expect the birds to sing when their groves are cut down? Now the trunks of trees on the bottom, and the old log canoe, and the dark surrounding woods, are gone, and the villagers, who scarcely know where it lies, instead of going to the pond to bathe or drink, are thinking to bring its water, which should be as sacred as the Ganges at least, to the

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My expert interpretation... we don't want Ganges pilgrims.

The Grand Canyon is cool. I saw Arch park. Would You bless someone who brought parks to people. I guess TV is good enough. Umm... it's on the Internet, huh! I like Angel Falls in Venezuala.

God says... C:\LoseThos\www.losethos.com\text\DARWIN.TXT

s attached to other objects, either directly or by means of a stalk, and their bodies are enclosed by a calcareous shell composed of several pieces, two of which can open to give issue to a bunch of curled, jointed tentacles, which represent the limbs.

COCCUS.--The genus of Insects including the Cochineal. In these the male is a minute, winged fly, and the female generally a motionless, berry-like mass.

COCOON.--A case usually of silky material, in which insects are frequently enveloped during

Ohhh!! I thought about asking about healing. Movie cacoon. No not really. I think it's preposterous. Bears eat berries. implants for deaf people? Artificial limbs.

Sometimes, I think I should have sought a higher purpose for my professional life. It doesn't bug me much, but I am amazed when I stop to think I never considered doing good as a reason.

God says... C:\LoseThos\www.losethos.com\text\BIBLE.TXT

fat thy bones: and thou shalt be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water, whose waters fail not.

58:12 And they that shall be of thee shall build the old waste places: thou shalt raise up the foundations of many generations; and thou shalt be called, The repairer of the breach, The restorer of paths to dwell in.

58:13 If thou turn away thy foot from the sabbath, from doing thy pleasure on my holy day; and call the sabbath a delight, the holy of the LORD, honourable; and shalt honour

Re: Forget Self-Improvement

#32

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I think the argument is less about "don't do the (relatively) minor uncomfortable things", and more about aligning yourself so that the major part of your work is something you love. Love writing, not being an author. Love running a business, not the title of CEO. And if you don't love either of those, find what you love, and put yourself in a situation where that is what you do.

Your sticking to the narrative and not what actually happens in a practical sense. You dont get to be CEO till your company has happy customers paying you moeny and your making a tidy profit. Till then you'll do anything and evertyhign thats necessary - most of it is unpleasent. 10% is fun.

Maybe being the CEO isn't the point.

Re: Forget Self-Improvement

#33

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The argument isn't one of never doing unpleasant things. (I don't like changing the oil on my car, but I know it needs to be done.) Instead, I suggest examining why a desire seems important, and whether it might be more of a societal (or ego-driven) thing. Additionally, I believe that if you take the time to find out what you really enjoy, some things will sort themselves out. I've been really good at getting off my…

Forget the naysayers. They're missing the point. This was one of the most enlightening articles I've read in some time. Most of us want to finish the race, but see running as a chore. The take away - Do what you love and "running" becomes enjoyable.

Thank you. :-)

Re: Forget Self-Improvement

#34
God, the usual "do only what you love" nonsense.

Newsflash: There's nothing you will love all the time. Everything has some tedium. Suck it up, and get it done. Call it "self improvement" if you must. But really, it's about having some willpower to get through the things you must to achieve the things you want.

Re: Forget Self-Improvement

#35

When I was starting my company, I had to cold-call a few dozen people to test a hypothesis. I delayed it for weeks, and when I finally forced myself to pick up the phone, I dreaded dialing every digit. Today, three years into running the company, picking up the phone to call a dozen people is peanuts. I don't like doing it, I'm not very good at it, I delegate it whenever I can, but if call I must, I'll do it, I'll be…

This is very true. If starting a company is something you've always wanted to do (like me) then when you do it you'll find so much crap that you dislike or even hate but still have to do. Some examples: 1. reading through all your contracts, legalese, terms of service and everything else you need a lawyer for. Mind numbingly boring but also real important. 2. writing copy for your site. 3. pitching your company in a…

I've been a partner in our agency for 12 years now. It's been a hell of a lot of work. Additionally, the fun and interesting parts have always outweighed the bad.

Again, my point isn't to avoid anything uncomfortable. It's to do it for the right reasons, and to ensure that you aren't procrastinating at something you dislike, when you could be getting ahead at what you do like.

Re: Forget Self-Improvement

#36
post #34

God, the usual "do only what you love" nonsense. Newsflash: There's nothing you will love all the time. Everything has some tedium. Suck it up, and get it done. Call it "self improvement" if you must. But really, it's about having some willpower to get through the things you must to achieve the things you want.

Perhaps it's the "usual," but most of us still haven't learned it.

Willpower is useful, but not always the right thing. Many of those with willpower stick with something long past it making sense to do so.

Re: Forget Self-Improvement

#37
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It's a new blog, with lots of room to go. I'll touch upon that point in future posts. (Have to break these things up a little, you know?)

Sure, I think the main problem is the title of the post. "Forget Self Improvement" a pretty broad statement for how little you say about one part of self improvement. I suppose it served its part in creating controversy (and views), but I wish bloggers didn't resort to this.

It wasn't a stunt. It was a reaction. We're bombarded by means for becoming "better" people. Perhaps it's time to instead ask, "why?"

Re: Forget Self-Improvement

#38
post #24

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Sure, I think the main problem is the title of the post. "Forget Self Improvement" a pretty broad statement for how little you say about one part of self improvement. I suppose it served its part in creating controversy (and views), but I wish bloggers didn't resort to this.

It wasn't a stunt. It was a reaction. We're bombarded by means for becoming "better" people. Perhaps it's time to instead ask, "why?"

I agree with this.. "why?" is the right question to ask before choosing to do anything. But unless I'm mistaken, this isn't what your article is about.

Re: Forget Self-Improvement

#39

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think the argument is less about "don't do the (relatively) minor uncomfortable things", and more about aligning yourself so that the major part of your work is something you love. Love writing, not being an author. Love running a business, not the title of CEO. And if you don't love either of those, find what you love, and put yourself in a situation where that is what you do.

Your sticking to the narrative and not what actually happens in a practical sense. You dont get to be CEO till your company has happy customers paying you moeny and your making a tidy profit. Till then you'll do anything and evertyhign thats necessary - most of it is unpleasent. 10% is fun.

In my experience, pleasantness and unpleasantness are day to day feelings that sometimes work in my favor and sometimes don't. Many times I have a responsibility which requires unpleasant things, and it makes it more difficult to do, and might make me unhappy if my happiness is based on daily frustrations and successes. That type of happiness tends to have very little to do with our goals. Since it's also very unpredictable, seeking this form of happiness is elusive and error prone.

Maybe there's a different emotion I could seek in my life. Potentially that feeling of accomplishment. Accomplishing something feels great. A lot of people have realized this, single player video games were based on the idea. It is, however, not hapiness. Happiness comes and goes.

If I allow my happiness to flow and fluctuate and act as it always does, and rather focus on getting that feeling of accomplishment, my attitudes change. When I approach a challenge, I don't focus on whether it will make me happy. When I do that, I think about the immediate perks, but also about all the potential frustrations that accompaygne the task.

So I think about it as accomplishment. If I do this task, I will accomplish something. Taking out the trash, 10 points. I don't care about the actual points I have, as the points aren't what I seek. So I don't even keep track. But as games are goals and games have points, it might be easier to connect in your mind with some points.

Go out running. Don't think about how long you have to run for, or how fast you have to run. Don't even worry about the clothes you're in. Just get on your street, and run in a direction. Any speed. Any pace. Now that you've started, and you've jogged enough to get warmed up, pick an object a short distance away and race to it as fast as you can. When you get there you'll be winded, and tired, and you might even vomit. Vomiting is just some random frustration though, it has nothing to do with the accomplishment that you just ran faster than you have in the past x years.

If you do decide you like accomplishing things, then this pattern of setting goals and reaching them can be done with tasks lists and check boxes. Build a momentum of doing it.

The next step is to align your goals to your dreams. Then take that momentum and checklists, and you'll feel more energy than ever to getting what you want done.

I'm not specifically referring to you keeptrying, I was simply writing some ideas down and ended up switching to second person since it was more natural for me to write that way.

Re: Forget Self-Improvement

#40
How is this the top of hacker news this morning?

It's not a hack.

I keep seeing 300-odd word articles which are totally irrelevant turn up with 'up vote me on hacker news!' links at the top. Dislike.

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