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They are now very much in decline mentally and physically. The best times are over. Makes me glad that I had children young and we were all able to enjoy spending time together. A lot of happy memories.
Here the context matters a lot though. Living together with them, being dependent on them, having own kids, etc. makes this a completely different question.
They get on fine with me, but the mother is doing herself no favours with her bossy nature. Not only that, but the mother is prone to not exactly telling the truth - perhaps also relevant in that she tried to get me into trouble with the police, only to earn herself charges of "false accusations" and "misleading the authorities".
She also tries to tell the kids that they shouldn't like me, and so far that has had the exact opposite effect as to what she wants to achieve. I suspect that sooner or later, once they realise just exactly what she was up to, that they will likely disown her altogether.
I get along with them well, and hope to continue to do so as long as they live.
I wish. I had cut tie with one of them (which was really hard for me with Asian upbringing) but have since reconnected, only to be disappointed again and again. And I gotta tell you, it hurts every time. I understand and empathise how they came to be like that but I still cannot truly forgive them. I wish I can forgive and be at peace one day.
Also it's crazy how not only I am like my father were it comes to the relationship with our own children, (rules and so on), but also my mother is the same as my wife (lack of rules and so on).
My dad died two years ago and my mom is in a nursing home with Schizophrenia. What option should I pick, "no"?
I get along well with my parents today, and generally always have (for some definition of "get along"). That said, it took me into my 30s to really figure out where my parents fit in my life. In spite of the dynamic we had through the earlier half of my 20s, I don't have to act as they do, or think what they think. I've since learned that some of my own dissonant thoughts are really just echoes of things that my pare…
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For me it is more the other way round. The older I get the less understanding I have for them. As a teenager I got along perfectly with them but now that I am almost 40 I realize that they were pretty shitty parents. Especially when I realize what they did to my siblings. Edit: To expand I have more sympathy with my mother because I know of some of her traumas growing up. But I have a harder time to excuse my father.
Do you have children? After having one (1), I realized that my “shitty parents” were actually amazing superhumans, despite all their very human flaws.
My dad died two years ago and my mom is in a nursing home with Schizophrenia. What option should I pick, "no"?
Did you get along with them when there was someone to get along with?