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Hi OP, Can I ask what your answer is and why your question treats parents as a single entity? Can you tell us more about your interaction with both your parents? Thanks
My mom is my best friend, I don't talk to my stepdad, and I never met my biodad.
At first, I offered zero/one/both as the options, but I realized that many people have complicated step-family structures, so I wanted to make it more open-ended.
Dad nah. He was an alcoholic (probably self medicating ADHD in hindsight with my diagnosis) who would always criticise everything when drunk. You're fat, you're not doing anything useful in life. You're doing this wrong, that is wrong, the other is wrong. Stopped talking to him for my own mental health and later he died after catching a common cold when his liver shut down.
Boomers really need to get help with mental health issues, the stigma isn't really there anymore. Sort yourself out before you die prematurely and miss meeting your grandkids lol
Yes, but mostly after I had kids (and especially teenagers) and realized for myself that, yes, I was the asshole. The fact that humans let most teenagers live to adulthood says a lot of good things about the human race.
Luckily I love my parents but otherwise I'd be soo mad.
Yes, but mostly after I had kids (and especially teenagers) and realized for myself that, yes, I was the asshole. The fact that humans let most teenagers live to adulthood says a lot of good things about the human race.
For me it is more the other way round. The older I get the less understanding I have for them. As a teenager I got along perfectly with them but now that I am almost 40 I realize that they were pretty shitty parents. Especially when I realize what they did to my siblings. Edit: To expand I have more sympathy with my mother because I know of some of her traumas growing up. But I have a harder time to excuse my father.
After having one (1), I realized that my “shitty parents” were actually amazing superhumans, despite all their very human flaws.
Needs a "with one, not the other" option. My Dad was violent and abusive towards me, and I consider myself fortunate that he died when I was 8, before I had a chance to do something that meant I spent my life in jail.
Yes, but mostly after I had kids (and especially teenagers) and realized for myself that, yes, I was the asshole. The fact that humans let most teenagers live to adulthood says a lot of good things about the human race.