First, some fundamentals:
1) Freedom to live a self determined life, under a self-determined government is a most fundamental human desire, and right.
2) Neutrality ALWAYS favors the aggressor, the abuser, the autocrat. It allows them to continue aggressing, abusing, and dictating without interference, and provides only hopelessness to the victims of aggression, abuse, and autocracy.
3) Anyone who wants to live a self-determined life under a self-determining government must be better armed and prepared to fight for that right. Without being better armed and prepared, the abusers or autocrats WILL, and sooner rather than later, take their lunch and their government.
You argue to:
>>let a country figure that out on their own
Nonsense
Lacking the power to overthrow a dictatorship is NOT the same thing as choosing that person/party as a leader.
Once a group of abusers or autocrats has succeeded in the aggression to take over the government, that does NOT mean that it is permanently decided. Claiming so does nothing but help the abusers.
Just look at the Iran regime who came to power 40+ years ago. The regime has murdered hundreds of people and imprisoned and tortured thousand simply for daring to speak out against them by not wearing a scarf. Literally millions risk their lives to protest. It is obvious that the regime is not desired by the people, yet you claim that nothing should be done to help them, not even subtle things to undermine the regime's power. Disgusting.
You argue that:
>>you pretend the measurement or polling must be incorrect
Nonsense
Any presumption that polling about the popularity of an autocracy inside that autocracy is simply preposterous.
First, the polling sample is already pre-selected. All vocal opponents have been removed form the sample. Anyone even remotely connected to them has learned that speaking out has very negative consequences, either long-term imprisonment and torture or death. On top of that, all media and information is tightly controlled, so people cannot even get information about, much less discuss, alternatives. And you propose that polling under those circumstances is accurate? Oblivious, to be kind.
>>Ideologies are cheap
Fully agree. Ideologies are nothing but bullshit covering for autocracy. It doesn't matter what kind of -ism you're talking about, communism, Marxism, Naziism, fascism, Trumpism, whatever; it is all noise to cover up the will to autocracy by those using it. As the -isms fall apart and away, we can see the fight for what it is - self-determination vs autocracy.
>>You assume too much.
Nope, there are only a few choices for people who support autocracy. They (and sadly, you) are arguing to keep people essentially (and often literally) enslaved because they lack the power to force their will for self-determination on their oppressors.
The only reason someone would do that is 1) they are a dictator themselves, 2) they are in the ruling party and thus enjoy the benefits of a kleptocracy hoarding the wealth of a nation, or 3) they enjoy a privileged life in a democracy such that they can engage in abstract concepts that ignore the reality of millions and play the role of Vladimir Lenin's Useful Idiots.
The only other option is that you are somehow personally aggrieved because of some specific past action by the democratic nations affected you or your relatives, you are certainly avoiding that topic, and are also constructing an entirely false narrative to avoid direct discussion.
I will not argue that there are some if not many instances where actions of democratic nations were mistaken or misguided, and caused real damage and death. But contract the maximum total of that damage and death against the literally hundreds of millions killed by dictators (either by direct action or starvation by their policies) in just the last century (Hitler, Mao, Stalin, Pol Pot, Un family, etc.+++), and the misery of billions more living under their regimes. Or just compare the economies and relative well-being of North vs South Korea, a controlled experiment. SK is wealthy, comfortable, and self-determining, while millions literally starve today in NK.
There is no debate. Stop defending it. It is abhorrent.