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How to reduce stress and overcome anxiety as a software developer

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Re: How to reduce stress and overcome anxiety as a software developer

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Most of us old timers have been there, done that. At some level, it never changes. It is VERY difficult for work to provide your true meaning in life. 95% of software is personal preference. Most code will be thrown away when priorities change. Do the best you can and learn when you can. Management will always make poor decisions and are usually not interested in unfortunate truths. Work should only be what is requir…

Listen to this old timer. I'm only 32, but I've recently come to this conclusion as well around my career. You have to be willing to let a job just be a job. No more, no less. Funnily enough, you'll often hear the same advice from older folks who own their own business. Even when the business is their own, they advise finding something else outside of the work to drive you. The important thing is to have an invigorat…

This must be one of the best advices that I saw here!

I completely agree on letting a job just be a job. We are so much more than our work.

A phrase I was practicing a while ago was: "I am not my work, my family or my friends". I would repeat it a few times over and over. It helped me a lot to detach myself from my worries/expectations about work, friends and family.

I actually did a podcast on the exact same topic "You are not your Work, Family or Friends" that might be useful for someone: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5q1hAzjRCYkCEsLERvr1zE?si=Z...

Re: How to reduce stress and overcome anxiety as a software developer

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As a junior, I started out loving my job. Then the bad decisions from management started and I started to love my job less, I still woke up with some excitement. 2 and a half years later: today what I do has more to do with pressure and deadlines than with learning and/or doing the right thing. Today, I find it unsustainable to work 8 hours a day, I've come to hate what I do, I can't imagine looking for another job d…

I've been there. Find someone to talk to before you crash. And take a vacation if you can. Travel to a different country, experience something completely different. Also, find another job. All companies are different. Stress is good if there's a lion praying on you and you need to take immediate action to avoid being eaten. With this constant work stress it's like there's a lion nearby all the time. It's difficult to…

True! You are your best friend. All the answers are within you already!

Re: How to reduce stress and overcome anxiety as a software developer

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Agree on the caffeine intake. It has made a huge difference in my life! There are people who drink coffee and it doesn't cause them to feel stressed, but often times, coffee wil have other side effects like messing up your sleep. I prefer to drink coffee occasionally and for daily, I would choose a green tea or something like Chamomile, does wonders!

If I need a caffeine boost I have a cup of decaff in the morning. There's still some caffeine in there, and it seems all I need. Green tea is also good.

That's true! I completely forgot about decaff... :D

Re: How to reduce stress and overcome anxiety as a software developer

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I am sorry if you didn't find anything useful in that article. While I am inviting people to sign up for my program in the end of the article, I also believe I gave enough tools and practical tips that someone can try and apply in their daily life that might benefit them. I am speaking from my personal experience and suggest things that helped me in the first case. My point was not to write 1 hour blog article about…

Maybe I'm jaded, but most articles like these are often just a bait-and-switch for something someone is selling. When I got to the end, there it was: the sales pitch. It never fails to disappoint. The sales pitch negates the entire write-up. The program's not even ready so you're just collecting e-mails at this point. This is anxiety we're talking about. Offering "early bird pricing" and some "free goodies" ? What th…

Thanks man!

At first I was dismissive of your message and I didn't see your true intention behind it. I have taken some of your feedback and made some changes to the copy. I believe emojis and some words weren't really fit...

EDIT: I also, included a disclaimer that people don't need to buy my program in order to overcome anxiety. I assumed it was clear in the article, but I guess not, so I added that too. Hope it helps :)

Thanks again, have a good one!

Re: How to reduce stress and overcome anxiety as a software developer

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You have to fill up your cup before you can fill others. Perfectionists are well known to hardly ask for help and in life that's the catalyst for being able to make more time for yourself. Say no to more things. Spend more time on finding out more about yourself. Start to understand your emotions around the constant trauma you're living through and have lived through. You don't need to pay somebody $150 for this advi…

Totally agree on the The Body Keeps the Score. It was a hard read at the time as the author described hard scenes which I would start feeling anxious just listening about them, but it was necessary for me to understand how is the trauma stored in the body and what to do with it. I totally forgot to add this book in my recommendations. It's added now. Thanks! I agree, you don't have to pay for my program $75-$150 to o…

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Re: How to reduce stress and overcome anxiety as a software developer

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You have to fill up your cup before you can fill others. Perfectionists are well known to hardly ask for help and in life that's the catalyst for being able to make more time for yourself. Say no to more things. Spend more time on finding out more about yourself. Start to understand your emotions around the constant trauma you're living through and have lived through. You don't need to pay somebody $150 for this advi…

I also, included a disclaimer that people don't need to buy my program in order to overcome anxiety. I assumed it was clear in the article, but I guess not, so I added that too. Hope it helps :)

Re: How to reduce stress and overcome anxiety as a software developer

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> "Today, I am excited to announce my 4-week daily guided program, The Anxious Developer Program!" > "You can join our waitlist now, to be the first one to know when the pre-sale begins" Talking about FOMO anxiety then announcing a pre-sale discount to your anxiety course is a kind of a bad look.

Not to mention no disclosures on using referral links to the mindfulness app and probably elsewhere. Bad look all around.

Re: How to reduce stress and overcome anxiety as a software developer

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> "Today, I am excited to announce my 4-week daily guided program, The Anxious Developer Program!" > "You can join our waitlist now, to be the first one to know when the pre-sale begins" Talking about FOMO anxiety then announcing a pre-sale discount to your anxiety course is a kind of a bad look.

Not to mention no disclosures on using referral links to the mindfulness app and probably elsewhere. Bad look all around.

Lol, I have am no affiliate to those apps, I just thought it will be valuable for people to get free 30 days premium instead of none. I can take out the links all together. I don't make any money from that :D :D

Re: How to reduce stress and overcome anxiety as a software developer

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It's much worse because it took much more time from me than an ad. Usually ads look like ads, even when they're advertorials.

I agree. There's not actually a lot of content on the linked page, and most of it is generic stuff you can find searching for "how to overcome anxiety" on any search engine. Nothing specific to being an anxious developer at all (though, I admit, I did not click any of the other blog links links yet).

Thanks for the feedback. I am curious what kind of content were you expecting if my personal story and suggestions were not enough then?

Re: How to reduce stress and overcome anxiety as a software developer

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Not to mention no disclosures on using referral links to the mindfulness app and probably elsewhere. Bad look all around.

Lol, I have am no affiliate to those apps, I just thought it will be valuable for people to get free 30 days premium instead of none. I can take out the links all together. I don't make any money from that :D :D

Apologies, if that's so then it makes sense to provide.
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