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This whole thread needs to be shut down. WTF
If you do not wish to participate, that's fine. But actively wanting other people not to participate is strange . Why oughtn't people who want to talk about this with one another do so?
I found it really interesting that he's sure he's not aromantic, because he's fallen in love before, but can't say for sure whether he's asexual.
As someone who is both -sexual and -romantic, I find that fairly suggestive; at least for me, having a sex drive is a very noticeable experience.
This is actually surprisingly healthy. People in dysfunctional relationships tend to dread being alone and seem to frequently make bad decisions rooted in trying to avoid being alone.
I'd wonder how many women this guy (and guys who relate to this post) are incidentally meeting every week. When I was in my mid 20s after uni, it was basically zero. Just women at work, if even that. If so, this is basically the result you can expect and nothing is going to change until you get those numbers up. The common thread I see with guys not meeting women is almost never "I meet a lot of women but they never…
As someone wiser than me once commented -- nobody is going to knock on your door. If you want to meet people, you have to get out there and do things that put you around people.
My boss's boss's boss put it this way: no one is spinning around in his chair at his desk, twiddling his thumbs, thinking, "_When_ will Tom ask me to meet over coffee?" But if you send him a note, and ask politely, and convey earnestness, odds are good he will meet you for coffee.
That’s not the point. The places of men and women were clear before, now the current narrative is that women were oppressed and men were oppressor. That is a false reading of history.
The biggest difficulties were put on men to sacrifice themselves for their family, country, society.
Now we find ourselves in a culture that is completely dysfunctional with relationships. If a couple form at all and manage to have a few kids it’s not often that they will stay together long enough to bring the kids into adulthood. This is disastrous for everyone.
So my advice is: reject the modern men ideal that you are used to, it’s wrong and broken, go toward traditional value, get muscular, confident and go to places were women are that mesh with your interests.
And before someone call this misogynic, it’s not it’s simply the reconnaissance that men and women are different and complementary.
This is a good example on how the culture is trying to destroy the masculine, it’s everywhere even in kids movies. https://youtu.be/ZT6Qo146Ncs
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If you do not wish to participate, that's fine. But actively wanting other people not to participate is strange . Why oughtn't people who want to talk about this with one another do so?
The sentiment is lopsided if you actually care about positive outcome and the audience on HN. "Being single" is not HN worthy. There are no learnings in this blog post a technical audience could learn from unless you want stereotypes to succeed.
Why are there so many articles about this lately? I don't see what the problem is or why being single is such a tragedy. Single doesn't mean being alone. Not everyone wants serious long term relationships and monogamy is on a serious decline. People used to aspire to have the single lifestyle we now pretend is so sad and lonely. Sounds like propaganda to me. We're overpopulated. Can't the prole have this one thing an…
If nothing else, it is garnering attention. Looking at it from a purely cynical perspective, it resonates enough to generate views from the readers; certainly from this crowd at least. And engagement is the life blood of social media.
More literally speaking; I don't know. Perhaps it's because that dream of a 'single' life style is becoming more and more inaccessible. How many have the financial freedom to be able to comfortably support a 'single life style' nowadays that isn't to just stay at home and play on the computer?
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If you don't mind me asking, how did you search actively? Why didn't it work out? I've also searched actively. It didn't work out in my case as well. Relationships are hard.
I am a 30 year old gay man living in a city of 2 million. By now, to some degree at least, I personally know every single gay man that passes my requirements regarding socioeconomic status, personality and physical attractivity. It didn‘t work out because they didn‘t want me, I didn‘t want them or chatting with them was so uninspiring, we didn‘t even meet. But to answer your question more concretely, generally it did…
I can’t help but read this and think that the real reason you’re single is because you dislike yourself and you’re basing your entire life around achievement in an effort to make you like yourself. Perhaps when others fail to meet those standards and are happy regardless it makes you feel resentful. And perhaps your self hatred is the driving force in your life and you’re scared of what it means if you step off the gas.
Statistically, you’re most likely going to be dead within the next 60 years. When you’re on your death bed, do you want to look back on how chiselled your abs were when you were 30 and how big your bank account was or do you want to remember the times you spent laughing and having fun with someone?
Why are there so many articles about this lately? I don't see what the problem is or why being single is such a tragedy. Single doesn't mean being alone. Not everyone wants serious long term relationships and monogamy is on a serious decline. People used to aspire to have the single lifestyle we now pretend is so sad and lonely. Sounds like propaganda to me. We're overpopulated. Can't the prole have this one thing an…
We are going through a lot of societal changes. People used to marry as a survival issue, so we still tend to default to assuming that's necessary.
The world has changed. Humans are grappling with how to navigate this new reality.
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> "Introversion is the state of primarily obtaining gratification from one's own mental life". If this is true, then why do we find so many introverts in online forums?
You can find streamers who will talk about difficulties going outside due to social anxiety problems, and yet are broadcasting themselves live. It's enough of a barrier for them somehow.