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Found someone who hasn't actually listened to Jordan Peterson. If you did you would find he agrees with you.
I doubt he does, the little I've listened to him, he sounded like a christian, that shoves old beliefs of what women should be and men should behave. Not all women want to have kids, some of them, want to be very powerful and drive big changes. Not a psychologist here, but a lot of men seem to have the expectation that their wife are like their mothers, submissive, taking care of the house and kids. And because of th…
Why are so many young men single and sexless?
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#182The article comes off as slightly condescending; even as I'm 32 and just above the "Young men" threshold ( Some of the thing mentioned, such as young women not looking for emotional attachment as much might be true, but what about >30 women? My early 20s, online dating era romantic life was miserable; it made me feel completely worthless and that's a sentiment A LOT of young men get from those dating apps. I simply g…
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She has a lot to offer a young man looking for a casual relationship though. Generally lot more fun than the young ones, and no bullshit or games either.
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#184So I googled to see how long the next one will live and take to find a mate and here's what I found:
"Females find a new male within as few as three weeks. Males, however, tend to wait until the following fall or winter"
from https://www.audubon.org/news/till-death-do-them-part-8-birds...
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#185A recent Rasmussen poll claims that almost half of blacks are not sure that it is okay to be white. Have to wonder then what percent of women are not sure that is okay to be male, and if this has anything to do with the current "state of our unions" as discussed in the article.
Stop, just stop. That Rasmussen poll is a loaded question framed to make black people appear unreasonable and work up a racist right wing base. It worked Scott Adams up so much he went on a racist tirade and got himself fired. "It's okay to be white" is a slogan historically used by alt-right trolls, the KKK, and miscellaneous Nazi groups. Obviously when polled about overtly racist slogans black people are going to t…
Hence I don't agree with the firing, especially since it was the Dilbert Principle that helped me finally understand everything that I needed to know about how corporate America really works.
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And highly developed, must-participate-in social media sites. Cameras ain't jack if there isn't a way to share the footage. Then there is a Me-Too thing, which has led to a lot of younger women being very sensitive about real or perceived aggressions from men. Perhaps justified, but now it means a small misstep or failure to walk the line can be costly in a social sense. Young dude doesn't really know how to interact…
> being very sensitive about real or perceived aggressions from men. Perhaps justified, but now it means a small misstep or failure to walk the line can be costly in a social sense. Not at all justified. Crying victim over vague aggressions is as pathologically toxic and sexist as it gets. They can't even be bothered to make an actual false accusation they can later be held accountable for, it's just "waaah, there's…
As someone who works and teaches at an art university in Europe which is certainly one of the more liberal places you could study in: Over the past 8 years I have witnessed one comparable case and that person was basically ignored by everybody a month later because there were obviously psychological no problems involved. That case was 6 years ago. I haven't even heard of a similar case in our univesity during those 8 years.
Do you have observed anything like this in increasing numbers yourself or do you have any reliable data on it? I don't tend to count reading someone's story online as reliable data in a political surrounding where some actors describe themselves unironically using the term "culture warriors".
I can certainly stand for the observation that the supposedly snow-flakey, supposedly woke-liberal art students I had the pleasure to work with are in reality for the most part quite pragmatic, realist and self-aware people who can take things with a grain of salt and also argue about topics nuanced even if the opinion of the other side differs.
Virtual problems are virtual.
But maybe this is wildly different on other universities (in the US)? At least from the US, Canadian, UK exchange students I have known this did not seem to be the case.
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Maybe students are more shy and more careful because everyone around them has a video camera in their pocket.
And highly developed, must-participate-in social media sites. Cameras ain't jack if there isn't a way to share the footage. Then there is a Me-Too thing, which has led to a lot of younger women being very sensitive about real or perceived aggressions from men. Perhaps justified, but now it means a small misstep or failure to walk the line can be costly in a social sense. Young dude doesn't really know how to interact…
As someone who teaches at university I definitly get to interact with young women often and I have never once felt the sensitivity you described either towards myself (male) or towards any other young male student. I have seen it towards single older members of the staff who thought telling some joke about women and technology in front of a female student who was a professional carpenter before was a fun idea. Let me assure you that they got the receipt for that directly and in a way they probably will not forget quickly.
So no, this is not the explaination, at least not by my observation.
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>Women seek to mate with the most high status males, evidenced by the fraction of men who get the majority of the “action” on dating apps and in life. I don't think you can really extrapolate to all of human history from a time when birth control is widely available.
They’ve done DNA anaylsis before and it was something like 13% of men in history successfully reproduced before civilisation enforced monogamy. Like how most male pack animals don’t get to reproduce.
Men locking up the women to mate with - harems etc. - is not quite the same as "Women seek to mate"
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True. In developed, rich countries with welfare state and feminism, women don't need individual men. Instead, they can rely on government and corporations to be their protector & provider. When ecological pressures are relaxed, sexual selection (i.e. looks) becomes the dominant factor in mate selection. I suggest you read this blog: https://sirtyrionlannister.wordpress.com/2014/03/21/how-the-...
What an absurdly sexist take, maybe women want to be with someone who is (actually, not 'nice guy') nice and doesn't think that money will get them laid?
Sure, there may be females that are just looking for a male who is nice. But in general they are looking for a male who is nice and good looking and has high societal status.
Just as males are looking for females that are good looking and fertile.
That's what all animals do. They try to maximize their reproductive success. Humans are animals. And even though we have contraceptives that negate the effect of the behavior, the underlying drive and mechanisms are still the same.
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> Social circles have been shrinking for men and women, especially since the pandemic, but men struggle more. Thirty years ago, 55 percent of men reported having six or more close friends. By 2021, that share had slipped to 27 percent. I am surprised over this. I thought the boys have advantage over girls in pandemic friends keeping. First, they play videogames as a form of socialization much more and therefore pande…
But it turns out, we're just not very good at being friends or a social group. https://www.iflscience.com/20-kids-were-left-alone-in-a-hous... (No, this is not scientific but it's pretty interesting.)
The shows like this put a lot of effort into selecting performers so that the end result is funny and entertaining. The kids knew they are performing for TV and the families that allow their kids to be on show like that are also very biased sample.