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Re: Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declined

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Post by JesusLovesEwe »

csomar wrote: post #40
JesusLovesEwe wrote: post #22

Earlier quoted context omitted.

If you think the situation is any better for young women, you're in for a shock. From where I'm sitting, the propaganda targeting women is far, far more pervasive and destructive. Everything about their relationships - the why, when, who and how - is undermined in an alarming majority of our institutions. Date many and often with no inhibitions, "have fun", don't get "tied down", delay marriage and family or abstain…

Because, eh, it's true? Kids might be good for society but they are not for the particular woman/individual in question. These woman are making the right choice individually. I see lots of happy 35-45 woman doing brunches in mall. Something tells me they are not missing too much on the family bandwagon.

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Re: Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declined

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Post by afavour »

Beaver117 wrote: post #24

Another controversial comment but I know more and more young men deciding not to waste time pursuing dates and instead going to prostitutes.

You aren’t going to settle down and marry a prostitute, though.

Yes, I can see the argument for replacing the casual dating scene with a prostitute but not dating in general. Seeing a bunch of “women want love, men want sex!” comments in this thread and man are they off base. Of course men want love, belonging, family, etc etc… it’s a tired joke that they have to be tricked into commitment.

Re: Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declined

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Post by raitchev1 »

causticthrow wrote: post #34

Throwaway. I’m looking for advice. I live in a decently big city, I make very good money - close to 200k which is far above what most people here pull in. Lead teams of people. Am in mid 30s, well over 6ft. White. My (few) sexual partners couldn’t get enough. I work out with a generous physique, get compliments that I can’t even accept these days. I’m extremely jaded. I stopped talking/interacting and even making eye…

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Re: Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declined

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Post by klipt »

labster wrote: post #44
klipt wrote: post #30

Earlier quoted context omitted.

With their much higher fertility rate, Amish society will probably outlast ours.

I know people seem to see social factors in declining birth rate, but I mainly see economic causes. As population reduces, housing and employment become more available, meaning more people can afford to have children. A century ago more children meant more income, but now it means less. Reduce the marginal cost of children and demand will increase.

That sounds plausible, but almost everywhere in the world, wealth and fertility seem to be negatively correlated.

Poor people have kids early and have more, while rich people delay and have few or none.

Re: Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declined

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Post by theteapot »

ldjkfkdsjnv wrote: post #17

Will probably get downvoted for this. But I'm a very conventionally attractive guy with a good job in a major US city. I basically have an unlimited stream of dates through dating apps from women of all walks of life. Upwards of 20 - 50 matches a day if I really push it. People already know this, but I dont think they know how bad the schew is. Every young single woman is chasing the same few men and they dont care i…

> As these women enter their 30s I really dont know what is going to happen. Society will be an odd place in twenty years. The social dynamics between men and women have never existed like this.

Be a bro and refer a couple to a less attractive friend? Tell her it'll make you happy as an incentive.

Re: Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declined

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Post by ChiMan »

barelyauser wrote: post #18

As an asian man who has traveled to LATAM and the US, I am not surprised. American women are super entitled, hard to approach and borderline delusional when selecting men. It is never enough for them. They are hard to approach, judgy and sincerely just a pain in the ass. Women in LATAM for example are a thousand times sweeter, more feminine and approachable.

Key to a love life in America: Only date immigrants or women who grew up in an immigrant household. Works like a charm. America’s immigrant communities are chock full of real women looking for real relationships.

Re: Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declined

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Post by causticthrow »

DoreenMichele wrote: post #60
causticthrow wrote: post #54

Earlier quoted context omitted.

My issue, and it is part of my disgust and the turning into a misogynist, is that I’ve majorly lost trust in the goodwill of women. The issue is that I’m singled out over mostly things I couldn’t choose, and the average joe that didn’t hit this lotto won’t even be looked at by the woman I settle down with. Me knowing this means I have no respect for her. My sympathy for men is turning into misogyny.

First, realize that women are just people too and "ninety percent of everything is crap." If you do wish to marry and settle down, you need only ONE good woman and you need to NOT crap all over her the minute you meet her because of baggage. 1. Very beautiful women sometimes set up dating profiles with no photos or take other measures to attract men for reasons other than how photogenic they are. 2. Hobbies are a goo…

Hey Doreen - hope you’re doing better.

1. I haven’t done online dating at all. What I’ve seen in real life is hit and miss. I know too much of the corporate world. Marital affairs, sleeping for promotions, sex parties with upper management/C-levels, you name it.

2. I have hobbies in the arts where I excel, am recognized, and there are lots of women.

3. My closest friends are hardcore players which doesn’t help.

While your list would be good for someone looking for a date and/or a way to stand out, in my case it doesn’t help. Rebuilding trust when I’m surrounded by what I equate to vipers isn’t a matter of finding someone good. Even if I did, I wouldn’t trust them based on past experiences and things I see day to day.

Re: Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declined

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Post by cjbgkagh »

theteapot wrote: post #65
ldjkfkdsjnv wrote: post #17

Will probably get downvoted for this. But I'm a very conventionally attractive guy with a good job in a major US city. I basically have an unlimited stream of dates through dating apps from women of all walks of life. Upwards of 20 - 50 matches a day if I really push it. People already know this, but I dont think they know how bad the schew is. Every young single woman is chasing the same few men and they dont care i…

> As these women enter their 30s I really dont know what is going to happen. Society will be an odd place in twenty years. The social dynamics between men and women have never existed like this. Be a bro and refer a couple to a less attractive friend? Tell her it'll make you happy as an incentive.

That way you can be the living representation of her disappointment in life? It would be hard for me to imagine a hotter hell.

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Post by mettamage »

throwaway892238 wrote: post #53
ldjkfkdsjnv wrote: post #17

Will probably get downvoted for this. But I'm a very conventionally attractive guy with a good job in a major US city. I basically have an unlimited stream of dates through dating apps from women of all walks of life. Upwards of 20 - 50 matches a day if I really push it. People already know this, but I dont think they know how bad the schew is. Every young single woman is chasing the same few men and they dont care i…

I used to get laid a lot from Tinder because I figured out how to game the system. But at some point I realized I didn't actually like the people I was scoring with; yeah maybe they were attractive and we had some basic things in common. But I didn't really want to hang out with them or talk to them. Eventually I realized I was just trying to get laid, or seem appealing/attractive. When I looked at what I was doing,…

I’m picky too mate. I studied psychology just to crack dating. There’s a method to my madness. My point: put 500 dedicated hours to it (coached) and you’ll be able to find a good match. At least, that’s my experience.

My biggest tip: read up on assorted mating theory and ask yourself what your biggest personality traits are. Communicate those traits.

In my case: imagination and curiosity. I communicate my imagination immediately by going off imaginary tangents. Most people can’t handle it when a horde of take over the conversation and teach calculus to you. Who wouldn’t want to learn calculus from a a capable puppy? :D Some say “haha” to that but magic happens when she chimes in and says “and it’s so cute when they involuntarily bark during their lecture”

Anyway, that’s an example of a tangent and how a positive response to it looks like. I screen hard and make sure I get insane amounts of volume.

If you think my level of thinking is intense, it’s only the tip of the iceberg :)

But my point is: it’s possible, while being yourself, albeit in a strategic way

Re: Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declined

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Post by Glawen »

DanHulton wrote: post #16
newyankee wrote: post #6

The maths of dating never makes sense unless you make some really difficult assumptions. Reminds me of a joke from somewhere: Every happy man is single and every happy woman is married.

I have recently heard the opposite, at least as far as women goes. For a lot of women, especially mothers, being a single mother is a whole lot easier than being a married mother, since there is one less person in the house they have to take care of. A whole lot of men were not socialized to be actual contributing partners, which loops back around into the prime reason why a lot of men are having a hard time dating t…

Are you really believing that women are happier alone because men don't mop the floor?

I married a single mother, I don't mop the floor or cook everyday. My duties are stuff she cannot do like taking care of the house or repairing cars/bike. I definitely do less than my wife for the household on a daily basis but I bring the money and a shelter. She is a 1000 times happier than being alone.

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